We are born to die in this world. That’s the paradox of our lives. Everything must come to an end. If there is a beginning there has to be an end and without an end there can’t be a new beginning. I hope I am not sounding morbid. Nobody likes to talk, think or discuss about death. It is a difficult and uncomfortable topic. But I would like to share with you certain perspectives which I have learnt from death.
It is a self-evident fact that people breakdown after death of a beloved one. It can be the most difficult phases of one’s life. Few years back a close friend of mine passed away. We knew each other from childhood and studied together at school. I still sometimes find it difficult to believe that he is not here with us. Another close friend was gravely affected by this. She had feelings for him and had wanted to tell him about it that December. My friend passed away at the end of October that year. She fell into depression. Gradually with the help of friends and family she was able to come out of it. Not that she has forgotten him but she remembers him in a positive way as a happy memory.
Those who follow Manchester United must be aware of the “Busby babes”. The great Sir Matt Busby was a great visionary and a brilliant football coach. On that fateful day of February 1958, the chartered plane carrying the Manchester United team on their return from Munich crashed while taking off. A whole generation of United’s players either lost their lives or were so badly injured that they had to end their careers prematurely. Few of them miraculously survived with minor injuries. Bobby Charlton was among them. He took upon himself the unfulfilled dream of those departed souls and lead Manchester United to their maiden European cup title in 1968; a whole decade after that tragedy. He still lives strong, knighted now and Sir Bobby Charlton carries the never-say -die and never-give-up-on -you- dreams attitudes through and through. A tragedy which served to inspire one of the greatest ever legacies in the history of Manchester United football club.
Death teaches us how to love:
Sometimes the guilt of not having loved our beloved one enough makes us do a lot of things for them after they have passed away. Collecting their pictures or creating or constructing a monument in their memory. Speaking well about them and remembering the good times with them. Instead of waiting to do all this before a beloved has passed away we should do all the good and shower all our love on them when they are alive and around us. It’s much better that way. To love and to be loved are the most beautiful of emotions. We should never delay to express our gratitude or affection on our beloved ones. I know it is not that easy but believe me, the effort is worthwhile. And one can peacefully rest in peace after that.
Death teaches us how to live:
I once saw a video for the song “saving me” by a band named Nickel-back. In the video a guy who has just been saved from death can see the lifespan of other people over their heads. A person who is about to die has a rapidly decreasing life span and the saved-person is able to view this and saves that person. And now this saved person can view other people’s lifespan and it goes on. Unfortunately we do not have the gift of knowing when exactly we are going to die. It’s our biggest gift may be if we look in hindsight.
Also, a person who has just escaped death gets a whole new second chance. A chance to restart his life, may be rectify all the wrongs. Not that you need a near-death experience for this to happen but a person undergoing that experience has the best understanding of it. Not knowing our hour of death gives us a wonderful chance to live our lives in the best possible way.
As the great man, Mohandas Karamchand Gandhi has said, “Life becomes livable only to the extent that death is treated as a friend, never as an enemy.
Author’s Bio: Peter Minj, is a B. E. in Electronics and Communication. He works as a Software Engineering Senior Analyst at Accenture, Bangalore. He loves Football, Reading, Writing, and Music. He is an optimist, who enjoys the simple things of life.
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