Building something new is difficult.
Rebuilding something to give a fresh look is all the more difficult.
Look behind, if you have left anything broken rebuild it.
If anything is undone, do it with passion and enthusiasm.
There is time for everything under the sun
And there is a season to learn many lessons…
Yes, that’s what I would say 2018 was for me!
There were some treasured moments which I’ve shared and there was also the time of despair which I’ve carried alone. At times, the beauty of my dreams amazed me and later the shattering sound of some of them startled me. I made many promises, some to God and some to people, in some I fulfilled and in some, I failed.
As I approached the New Year afternoon, some of the big questions which were confusing me, quietly –
HOW AM I GOING TO FINISH THIS NEW RACE “2019”?
CAN I GUARANTEE, 2019 WILL BE A ROSY YEAR FOR ME?
CERTAINLY, ON WHOM CAN I TRUST?
New Year is a journey which starts with many UNCERTAINTIES and ends with many REALITIES. As I started this journey from Uncertainty to Reality, three things I learnt to focus on –
Excess Baggage Is Chargeable – Yes, we all are conscious about it when we travel. Analogically, it is quite relevant in our New Year journey. Carrying The Pain of Failure, The Old Weaknesses, The Grudge of Old Fights, The Guilt of the Past Wretch can greatly charge us this year.
The Bible Says, “Forget the old stinky things that you left behind and strain toward what is ahead of you to crown you with the glory of God.”
Hurly-burly is Expected – Life is not always a rosy path filled with colours, softness and scent. Time of turbulence is inevitable to teach us and mature us from imperfection to perfection.
The Bible says, “Therefore, we do not lose heart. Outwardly it will seem like wasting away, yet inwardly we will be renewed day by day. Let us, fix our eyes on what is unseen – the eternal glory & the future light of life”.
Trust your Travel Partner – In the journey of life, we must love people as we love ourselves but when it comes to trust them for a definite purpose we need to be mindful. It is always risky to trust a human being. He is a mere human just like me, his days on earth are like the grass that soon withers so as mine. I am finite and mortal as he is. How can he be the perfect one to trust for my future hope! BUT IF NOT HE, THEN WHO?
WHO IS MY TRAVEL PARTNER, WHOM CAN I TRUST?
The Bible says, “God is not human, that he should lie, not a human being, that he should change his mind. He does what he speaks and He promises and fulfils them”.
Warm Greetings and Prayers for your meaningful start of 2019!
Every night dies to birth a new dayEvery season ends to let the next one bloomThe dry leaves wither for new ones to sproutSo if things seem dark, and you feel it can’t get worse than this, remember something Wonderful is round the corner…
It is this time of the year when most of us wonder how quickly the year passed by. Well, this year is no exception but it has been exceptionally exceptional for us!
I cannot end this year without expressing my gratitude to Almighty for blessing us with baby Aarnav. I cannot express my joy and satisfaction for being a mother. I am immensely happy to have baby Aarnav with us against all odds. This year has been like never before because it is in this year that I have transformed into a different human being – a mother, someone who doesn’t care how she looks, someone who doesn’t rest enough in order to give more time to baby, someone who doesn’t mind waking up 10 times from the slumber just to rock and nurse the baby, someone who doesn’t mind being peed and pooped on innumerable times in a day 😊. I am happy that I am making my way to be a selfless mom! So this year has majorly been about being pregnant, delivering the baby, and enjoying every day with him, celebrating his every milestone and wondering whether there is anything better on earth than this little baby of mine.
I am looking forward to 2019 to be as fulfilling as 2018. Some key things I would like to do in 2019 are –
1. Fitness: Very important that I take my fitness seriously. I need to match the energy level of my little one plus manage a job and household
2. Being mommy: Oh yes, I am totally into motherhood. At the cost of repetition, let me tell you that I always wanted to be a mother and after a long long wait finally I am. I wouldn’t mind considering a sibling for baby Aarnav, but will have to check with my husband too 😜
3: Going back to ambitious self: Oh yes, maybe next year! At present, I am far away from professional ambitions and merrily enjoying being Mumma.
4: Work on spiritual growth.
Few learnings 2018 gave me that I would like to carry forward with me:
1. Willpower works magic
2. You get what you are destined to. No odds can stop you.
3. You can endure far more than you can imagine, so never quit.
4. Life is a lot more than career and money making.
5. While making money is important and growing professionally is as much important too, but there are little things in life that give you far more satisfaction and happiness than materialistic things. Take time to enjoy that.
Listen carefully to the loud silence
of the beautiful waves.
Each one has a new story to tell,
story of how they swim to the shore
to wash off the pain of those sand dune,
story of how they splash love
on those barren rocks on the banks.
Each one has a new experience
and a worthy lesson to share,
lesson of how they keep doing
the same thing over and over again
never getting tired of it,
lesson of how they bring cheer
and joy to all those standing at the shore,
waiting for them and never expect anything back.
Each one has a caution to tell,
show how calmness can turn into chaos and cause destruction.
I recently watched an amazing video by Dr Vivek Bindra, a motivational speaker, on the Battle of Chamkaur. It was a battle between the Khalsa, headed by the 10th Sikh Guru, Guru Gobind Singh Ji and the Mughal forces. The Sikh army was just 42 in number, whereas the Mughal army was around 1 million.
Unbelievable? Yes, it is. And the result of the battle was the victory of the Sikhs. Dr. Bindra states that during our tough times, we easily give up and don’t try. But, Guru Gobind Singh Ji was such a powerful leader that not only did he think about fighting against such an enormous number, but also won the battle.
It is very easy to quit at the difficult situations we come across, but to be patient and keep trying is the key. Life is full of struggles, we get so many setbacks every now and then- be it at work, at the career front or in relations. But there’s no point in complaining now and regretting later because you didn’t try.
I have a couple of heroes around me whom I simply adore. One of them was my colleague. I always saw her smiling, laughing and making others laugh. Out of curiosity, I once asked her how does she manage to be so chirpy. She told me that its God who has made her so strong. At the tender age of 14, some dacoits barged into her house and shot at her mom, dad and sister. Her sister died on the spot, while mom passed away 7 days later. Her dad recovered and remarried without even letting her know. Torn and devastated from inside, my friend didn’t lose hope and courage. She managed to stand on her feet and became financially independent.
There’s another heroic example of my friend who was going to shift abroad, but just a day before, her husband met with an accident and his leg had to be treated. The operation went wrong and he is still recovering, but he had to part away with his job. Not only the dream of settling abroad was crushed to pieces by the destiny, the financial burden also came up to the family. My friend mustered all her courage and took up a job. She is now financially taking care of her family. And after all this, she remains happy and makes us laugh with her one-liners. She says there is no point in crying and cribbing about the adversities in life because one can’t control it. What you can control is how you face the situation and how you fight against the odds.
So, smirk when the life gives a jerk,
Rise up and don’t give up,
For this life is a game,
And it will never be the same.
Someone asked me, ‘Are we born disciplined and some people become indisciplined in the course of life? Or, is it that we are born erratic and indisciplined and we need to be trained to be disciplined?’
Interesting query, isn’t it?
Well, we are not born erratic. However, we need to imbibe disciplinary traits that are largely shaped by our environment. Chaotic environments have in many cases resulted in disciplined people and highly disciplined environments have produced indisciplined people as well. So, there is no hard and fast pathway that would result in a disciplined person with a disciplined lifestyle.
However, nothing beats a disciplined lifestyle! A disciplined lifestyle emerges a winner at all times.
Irrespective of one’s birth or an environment, one needs to be disciplined.
In the previous articles of this week, we have dealt with discipline in assuming and managing various roles of life.
In this concluding article, I’ll talk about a life of overall discipline.
Do you wake up on time every day? Or do you need to hit the snooze button a couple of times before grumpily pulling yourself out of bed? Most of us – young or old, would have had such an experience!
Let me share one such day in my life. I needed to start for my coaching class at 7:30 A.M. When I opened my eyes in the morning, my table clock showed 7:10 A.M.! I generally wake up an hour and a half before the time I am to set out in order to leisurely space out my activities with time to spare. And now before me were just twenty minutes!
The first thing I did was tell myself not to frantic. Next, I thought for a few seconds which activities of my daily schedule I needed to do and which to skip out so as not to be late. Once I was clear about that, I proceeded to carry out the plan thought of. As a result, I was able to step out at 7:30 A.M. which was my time for all other days as well and the day went off smoothly.
Though I happened to manage my day without any chaos, if I think of a possible reason for the above mentioned morning drama, it points to a late night sleep. I had been studying till about 2 o’ clock resulting in an incomplete sleep cycle.
“Early to bed early to rise
Makes a man healthy, wealthy and wise”
This is an age-old wise saying with proven results!
Eating healthy, sleeping adequately and on time, exercising regularly are few among the many physical disciplines that help to keep one’s personal and social life in place.
Emotional discipline doesn’t necessarily refer to bottling up one’s emotions. Rather, it refers to regulating and managing one’s emotions for the benefit of one’s own self and that of others. Again, it doesn’t refer to manipulation of one’s own or others’ emotions. It refers to awareness and control of one’s emotions – be it an angry outburst or crying or laughing.
Another less thought of area. Knowing our Creator, building a personal relationship with Him and building on that relationship is vital to human beings. Yet, it is one area that is most neglected.
On the day that I have mentioned above, that I woke up late, of the twenty minutes with me, I chose to spend ten minutes in speaking to God and hearing from Him, i.e., to pray and read my Bible and the remaining ten minutes to brush, have a bath and get ready to step out. For me, it was and still is important to have an audience with God before having an audience with the world.
Discipline doesn’t seem easy or interesting to imbibe. However, once mastered, its value is realised. Some people are self-aware and learn to be disciplined, while some have to be made to realize the importance of discipline.
It is easier to bend a plant towards the sun while it is still tender. Disciplinary attributes are best taught and learned in childhood for their effects to be seen in adult life. However, it is never too late to inculcate discipline. One can make use of reminders, help-mates and self-checks to ensure that one’s chaotic life is smoothened.
Be disciplined, be calm and at peace!