Yesterday, I was watching TV, where a doctor was hit by a person on his face because he spoke something bad regarding the man’s wife. How come a doctor was hit? The man had really respected the doctor before then why did he hit him. It’s because of the attitude of that doctor became wicked.

Nobody sees the face but the attitude we display through our words, walks, shaking of heads and hands making dirty gestures.

On the other hand, there are cases where we find some extraordinary people get praises and Jadu ki Jhhappi (hugs) because of their polite and gentle attitude.

The other day, ‪#‎Shiny‬ (Avishikta) timely mentioned about being Aggressive and Amicable. Are we aggressive or amicable?

The book of Proverbs says, “A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.” It’s all about the attitude of a person behind that answer or speech or the actions displayed.

There’s dissension in the families because of our wrong attitudes. Wives! Do you have a nagging attitude? Husbands! Do you have a very casual or laid back attitude towards the household stuff? Stop it. Think again. Re-examine. Change your attitude at once for the benefit of your family.

Trust me, as I said earlier attitude is our face. It is the face of our behavior, our own self. We are all recognized or identified by our attitudes.

Tomorrow, on the mega Saturday, we will see how ‘a person’s attitude’ can benefit him/her and takes him/her up to a respectable position.

Till then good bye and stay blessed.



Attitude of a person can be negative or positive. Attitude is the banner of a person’s behaviour. I mean to say, attitude of a person helps to understand the behavioural pattern of that particular person to a greater extent.

But there’s a question arises here, how the attitude becomes negative or positive.

What are the factors that mould a person’s attitude which we reckon as bad or good? There are many but I wanted to focus on one factor which is the major among all. Let’s discuss about it as follows:

Family Background: Family background plays a big role in a person’s behavioural pattern thus making his or her attitude good or bad, negative or positive. Children follow their parents; how they behave, eat, talk etc. They study and follow certain behavioural pattern from the very childhood which stays till their death. The attitude is the face of a person’s behaviour which we discussed little earlier. The attitude is shaped from the very childhood along with his or her behavioural pattern.

Let’s take an example of a person from an uneducated, poor family background who generally will always have a low self esteem and low in confidence. But in the other hand a person from an affluent and educated family will always be high spirited, confident and dominating.

Attitude of a person is dented because of a poor family background. There’s rare scenario where some rise above every difficulties because of their positive ideologies & mindset and become great people like Dr. Kalam who was an amazing example of this.

Attitude of a person is also dented because of poor teaching atmosphere in the family where there’s no scope for learning manners, work ethics, moral values and life surviving strategies.

So, it’s very evident that family atmosphere and background is vital in forming a person’s attitude towards their fellow human being, their life and towards every other thing that come across him or her.

Parents & Elders careful! You are responsible for your younger one’s attitude forming.

Stay Blessed!

—- ‪#‎Chiradeep‬


Attitude, when I think about defining the word, I come up short. It is a fairly easy word, though the meaning it encompasses is vast. The kind of attitude a person holds is in a way the perception a person holds of the people around them.

I think of the word ‘Attitude’ and two other words spring up in my mind: ‘A for Amicable’ and ‘A for Aggressive.’ Both of these words are polar opposite from each other, two extremes and yet two sides of the samecoin. One describes the friendly nature of a person whereas the other defines a person who loathes the world around them. One who maintains peace and the other who thrives on Chaos.

I think both of these words are a perfect way of defining attitude. The choice lies with us to choose which side we let the balance shift.

Are we Amicable or aggressive?

‪#‎Shiny‬ (‪#‎Avishikta‬)


‘The Peoples President’ APJ Abdul Kalam left us in tears on Monday, 27th July 2015 but he left all his wealth for all of us to enjoy; the wealth of knowledge to pass on, the wealth of visions to accomplish, the wealth of ideologies to follow.

We as a team want to commemorate this great human being with few indispensable words.

‪#‎Anupam‬: Avul Pakir Jainulabdeen Abdul Kalam, who served as the 11th, President of India was a great Scientist and a good President but more importantly a humble and down to earth individual who never forgot where he came from and the means that took him there. A rare life who served in a rare way of providing learning and inspiration to young minds. He lived by the song, ” 18 till I die” and was forever young in thought and action. In his passing away, we lost a great soul who thought ahead of his times. RIP Dr. APJ Abdul Kalam.

‪#‎Prabhjot‬: The man who believed in this nation and dedicated his life to serve this country – the visionary and forever an inspiration for all of us. That’s Abdul Kalam for me! This nation will always need you and is ever thankful for your services and your inspiration. We will work towards making your dream a success. Your belief in the power of science and technology has inspired millions like me. Thank you for showing us the power of knowledge. Salute!

‪#‎Khristina‬: I heard about Dr Kalam’s passing when I returned home from work yesterday. And in a flash our newsroom was in a virtual flurry, as always. But this time, there was a sense of gloom – as we worked together to put up the news. I collated a quick article on 5 stories about Kalam that will make you smile. This made me revisit his greatness – I heard of one such tale – which I would like to share here too. He was having a discussion with his colleagues at DRDO, about a security situation in one of the buildings. One of his colleagues suggested that they put up glass shards on the top of the wall. But Dr Kalam turned it down saying, the birds will hurt themselves. So sensitive to the balance of nature, this man will forever remain as the best of India’s greats.

‪#‎Rajnandini‬: Famously known as the ‘Missile Man of India’ for his work on the development of ballistic missile, Dr. APJ Abdul Kalam was not born with a golden spoon in his mouth. He had a humble beginning, yet rose to heights of excellence by dint of his hard work and determination. He was a visionary, a teacher par excellence, an inspirer and an epitome of humility and compassion.

His life’s message can be worded as follows: “Soar up high in the sky, Fly higher and higher with the wings of fire, The fire of knowledge, truth, simplicity, commitment and vision, Be a dreamer, And be passionate to turn the dream into reality, Ignite your minds to settle for nothing less than the best, Only then in peace should you rest.” Our tribute to the great man! May his vision for a great India become the life-mission of many!

‪#‎Avishikta‬: The former President of India was a man like no other. He was a man with a dream, for a better future of the present India. His words have always been thought invigorating and work an Inspiration. The people of this country have foregone a huge loss on this day.

‪#‎Sulagna‬: A great scientist, a true karmayogi, a multidimensional teacher and statesman committed to the development of the country. We celebrate “The missile man” but how many of us know about his contributions to India’s civilian space program at ISRO?

On this tragic day we pray we can draw inspiration from the vision and dedication of this great leader.

‪#‎Chiradeep‬: “To become ‘unique’ the challenge is to fight the hardest battle which anyone can imagine, until you reach your destination.” This was his message to the people at Jaipur Literature Festival on Saturday, 24th July 2015. Truly, he fought till the last and that made him so special and so unique in the hearts of many.

One of his quotes really took me into a state of excogitation. “All birds find shelter during a rain but Eagles avoid rain by flying above the clouds. Problems are common, but attitude makes the difference.” He had a very poor family background. He used to distribute newspaper after his schooling to help his father. He failed to achieve what he aimed at, “being a fighter-plane pilot.” But he was not discouraged. He was not dismayed. His thoughts didn’t get distorted. Rather he flew above the problems, because he was not just like common birds suppressed by life’s problems. He showed the right attitude, at the right time and climbed the ladder of success.

Wish he would have been our president two three times more, but huh…

Sir! We will miss you dearly!

— Candles Online Team

The Rabbit & the Tortoise

What is Attitude?

What's Attitude

Meaning of Attitude:

“Attitude” a word which is easily understood by everybody yet I found it difficult to convey the exact meaning to my readers while writing this week’s editorial.

Attitude can be described in terms of three components which is called as ‘ABC Model of Attitude.’

A – Affective Component: It explains attitude involves a feeling or emotion towards the object of attitude; for example, feeling scared of something like, snake, rat, spider etc.

B – Behavioural Component: It describes attitude to be the actions behind the feeling or emotion towards the attitude object. We scream or shout when we feel scared of seeing something.

C – Cognitive Component: This component explains that the attitude involves a person’s belief or knowledge about the object of attitude. We get scared of something because we have a belief or knowledge about that particular “something.”

So, in simple words I can define attitude as, “the action of what we feel about something or somebody for a certain preoccupied knowledge or experience about that something or somebody.”

The Attitude is something like this diagram:


However, the simplest meaning or for a lay man’s understanding, attitude can be ‘the mindset of a person towards somebody or something.’ In Hindi, the word attitude is “RAVAIYA” which makes it clearer. But when we talk about attitude we need to think about an object; that object can be somebody or something or some situation.

THREE major Functions of Attitude:

Gives Us Identity – Our attitude is very important because it makes other know of our personality or identity. Everybody comes to know who we are through our attitude. For example, when we see somebody quarrelling with others on the road every day, we know that he/she is a quarrelsome man or woman. We also give a name tag to him/her to indentify that person. We also tag a person as ‘gentle’ when we see him/her talking softly and politely.

Communicates Our Message – Our attitude helps to express our mind well. It conveys our desires or likes & dislikes to others. It helps us communicate what and how we feel.

Protects from Undesirables– Our attitude also helps us to stay away from undesirable persons or situations and move to safer people and circumstances.

About the Week’s Topic:

I hope this week will be a very interesting week as we will be discussing more on this word, “ATTITUDE.” We will see: ‘how our attitude is shaped or moulded?’ ‘What are the causes of our attitude being negative or positive?’ ‘How negative attitude brings back adverse effects on us?’ ‘How positive attitude benefits us?’ and so on…

Keep reading… Stay Blessed!!!

Author’s Bio: Chiradeep Patra is a finance man who works in a NGO at Kolkata. He is a writer, motivator & counselor. 


Serving Attitude

Think for yourself – do you get up every Monday morning feeling horrible Monday blues, not wanting to go to work? Do you start craving for Friday as soon as Wednesday arrives? Yes – you would say and the reason would be a nasty boss, crazy deadlines, uncooperative peers and overall “I hate my job” attitude. In all of this, do we ever really think about the value that we are creating by slogging day and night? Why are you working? I am sure the reason is not “just to earn money”. Multiple researches have proven that job satisfaction is always rated higher than the compensation while choosing a job. It doesn’t matter what you are working as – engineer, doctor, chartered accountant, lawyer, business person, finance consultant, security guard, maid servant or even the sweeper – you are bringing value to somebody. And that somebody is your “customer”. In other words, you are serving your customer.

What is that “value” that you are creating for your customer? Why whatever you create is important to your customer? Do you understand these questions? Do you understand the value that you create? It is important to see the big picture of the world and to know exactly where your work fits in that world.

I work for Philips Healthcare and I write software for a living. Yes right, that is what I do! But why do I do it? It gives me money that pays my monthly bills; but more importantly, I know somewhere in some part of the world, the working software that I wrote is helping a doctor save a life. And that is where I serve my customer. That is the big picture that I always try to recreate in my head. Keeping that in mind, not only is it inspiring me to go to work but also I can think better ways to help that doctor save a life.

The best businesses in the world have been the best because they brought something to the world that world was craving for. Like Thomas Alva Edison said “I go around the world to see what the world needs and then work on inventing a solution for it”. Understand the big picture. You are doing something for the world – something worthwhile, even if it sounds like a nuisance today.

If something that you do doesn’t serve anybody in the world, then you are wasting your time and your precious life. When you work – make sure you are serving somebody and you understand what it is that you are serving.

Let me tell you a little story! There was a boy who was working in a hospital. His only responsibility was to dispose-off the unidentified dead bodies. He was paid Rs. 100/- per body. Now who would like to have a job of that kind? But that was the only place where he could earn enough to buy his food for the day. So, he started with the job – initially he just burnt the bodies at the banks of the river and washed the ashes in the river. But as he kept working for a couple of months, he noticed other families doing the last rites for their loved ones at the same river bank. On asking the priest about the last rites, he was told that respecting the dead body and doing the last rites properly gives peace to the soul of the deceased. It impacted the young boy’s heart and he started covering the body with an old sheet of cloth. He started placing flowers on the body and did a bit of prayers for the soul. He did not know any of the deceased. He did not know their names or religion, all he knew was that he was helping their souls rest in peace. He was creating value for the souls of the dead.

He spoke to some Government authorities who came to analyze the health of the river and realized how unburnt bodies polluted the river. He then decided to burn every dead body to the completion and flow down only the ashes in the river. So, he set his own quality standards. He did not need any authorities or any procedures to tell him how to do his job properly, he just worked for himself. He knew who he was serving and why was he doing what he did. He had no recognition, no awards, nobody asking him why he was doing his job a certain way. It is one of the jobs that nobody would want to take up, but this little boy still saw a value in doing it properly. Not only was he serving the deceased and their souls but he was also serving the environment and the society using that river for various purposes.

You get such powerful inspirational result when you intend to serve. It makes you go beyond the obvious daily routines of your job. It makes you think over and above of what you are told to do. It makes you love your job, no matter how crappy it may sound to you today. It can make the Monday blues disappear and make your weekdays as much worthwhile as the weekends. And yes, it also helps you climb the ladder of success – irrespective of what success means to you!

Author’s Bio: Prabhjot Kaur Saini, is a Software Engineer and is currently working in Bangalore. She is an engineer by profession and also a thinker and writer with a philosophical heart. She can be contacted at: ‘’