DESI FLAVOURS – THE TASTE OF INDIA

There is no denying fact that food is the best way to win someone’s heart, irrespective of gender. So, a few years ago my mother won my heart by making some delicious recipes. It was so delicious and easy to cook that I learned from my mother, only to cook myself when she is away. So today I am going to talk about a dinner recipe that you can prepare and enjoy with your family members.

The first item in the recipe is ‘Chawal Ki Roti’ which means chapati prepared from rice flour.

For this, you need:
● Two cups of rice flour
● 3/4th cup of hot water
● Half teaspoon salt
● 4 Tablespoon Ghee
● One clean damp kitchen towel.

First of all, you need to boil the water in a suitable container. Meanwhile, sieve the rice flour into a kneading utensil to ensure no unwanted substance will go into your mouth. Now add the salt into the flour. Once the water starts boiling, turn off the knob and add the water into the flour.

Make sure you use a spatula to mix the water and flour as the mixture will be quite hot to be touched by bare hands. Leave the mixture as it until the mixture becomes slightly cool. Now you can start kneading the mixture into a dough by adding little amount of water. Make sure you do not add too much water at once. After you are done kneading the dough, keep it aside for 10-15 minutes after covering it with the kitchen towel.

After 10-15 minutes, take small portions of the dough and roll them into chapatis. Place the chapatis on the heated Tawa. While the chapati is being cooked due to the dry heat, use teaspoons to apply ghee on it. You can skip applying ghee and leave the chapatis dry but applying ghee will enhance the taste of the chapatis and will make them extremely soft.

The second item is ‘Bhindi Ka Chokha’.

For this, you’ll need:
● 4-6 Bhindis (Ladies’ finger)
● One nicely chopped onion
● 6-7 pieces of chopped garlic
● 2 finely chopped green chilies
● 2 teaspoons of vegetable oil
● Some coriander leaves
● One teaspoon of lemon juice

In order to prepare this, you will have to roast the bhindis on the flame after properly washing it. Once the bhindis are completely roasted, peels off their out skin and mash them in a bowl. Add onion, garlic and chilies into it. Mix them properly and then add salt, lemon juice and vegetable oil. Once everything is well-mixed garnish it with coriander leaves.

You can have these two delicious recipes with any daal (lentils) or a gravy item. The above-mentioned recipes are quite simple, yet mouth-watering. The chapatis are prepared in my village after the harvest of Kharif crops (monsoon crops or autumn crops).

In this world of modernity, these Desi flavours of India are taking a back stage, these days. People are more in to fast foods and continental food and many other international cuisines. But sometimes these desi flavours teach us simplicity and humility which is very important for us in our lives. It reminds us our originality. It reminds us of the care a mother or a grand mother bestows upon us. I am happy, I am still so inclined to these simple preparations.

How about you?

I LEARNED TO BE A REBEL

I don’t know if I was a rebel during my childhood days or not but now I am. I feel that some series of incidents have made me rebellious. When I was a kid, my family members would have mistaken my rebel nature for being a ‘demanding-kid’. I wanted things to be done according to my will but obviously you can’t win against parents. Therefore, they did what felt appropriate to them. Eventually, this instilled a feeling in my mind, “When you grow up, you have to show them how things should be done.”

It would be no wrong to say, I learned how to be a rebel. Yeah, that’s true! I learned, it is okay to oppose someone’s orders if you are uncomfortable. I learned, it is okay to be out of the box and pave your own way. Earlier I used to think that being a rebel is totally unacceptable and is no less than disrespecting parents. But then I realized what if I am not happy or comfortable with whatever my parents and relatives decide for me? For example, my parents felt that it is no use in letting me move to Bangalore after my graduation. My relatives too said, “You will be anyhow married in two or three years. So why not learn some household chores to impress your in-laws?” 

I thought – “Will I be doing nothing but trying to impress my in-laws for the entire life?” “Is my education meant only to grab a nice groom and household?” People told getting married to a nice groom will make your life peaceful and settled. In that case, I never felt that I am unstable or I do not have peace of mind. This is when I decided I have to bring out the rebel in me. I stood on my decision to move out of my hometown and do something. As a result, I am in Bangalore right now, living my rebellious life. 

But this doesn’t end here.

My parents and relatives feel that wearing short dresses and skirts will harm my image. Even today they say, “why do you have to wear shorts and skirts? Can’t you wear full clothes?” Honestly, I would have agreed to do so only if, they never saw those actresses dancing and posing in short clothes. I know they are often angry at me as I stay out till 12 in the night but that’s my way of living. I know that being out at 12 in the night has nothing to do with my character or values and therefore, I hardly surrender before them. The one who is involved in some wrong deeds can do it even in the daylight. 

Currently, I am rebelling for making my parents understand that I hate when they talk about me with those whom I hardly know. I am a reserved person, though I do sound like an extrovert. But I do not like it when my parents speak every single detail of my present to any random person. 

I do feel sorry for hurting my parents with my rebelling attitude but then, what’s the point when I am unhappy and suffering!! In that case, I won’t be able to make them happy and proud.

Therefore, I feel being rebellious unless you don’t cause a damage, in the long run, is absolutely fine. Also, you need to be responsible for whatever action you take. 

BRIBE, THE GREATEST CHALLENGE AGAINST JUSTICE

The moment a child is born, he or she is taught about what is good and what is bad. The child gets to know various things from its parents and teachers. Once the child is old enough to gain knowledge on its own through various mediums he or she comes to know of various laws and rules. This happens with all of us. While growing in maturity, we get exposed to things that are acceptable and unacceptable in our society. But then, what goes wrong when someone commits a heinous crime just to satisfy his or her ego. 

The incident which I am going to mention in this story, happened a few years ago in my hometown. Property dispute is not an alien concept in this country. People are often seen fighting with each other and conspiring to shun down their opponents. In my neighboring village two families were involved in a similar case. They were trying their best to win the case and satisfy their so-called reputation. Now let us call the families as family 1 and family 2. The head of the family 2 decided of doing something that would teach a life lesson to family 1. For this, they kidnapped the youngest boy of family 1 and killed him mercilessly. The mother, on the other hand, was searching for her son like anything. Her instincts told her something is not right as nobody couldn’t find her son. 

Four days later, the corpse was found near the village pond and the parents cried bitterly feeling traumatized. For them, their whole world literally went upside down. But for family 2, it was a gala time as they had taught a lesson to their opponent.

Anyways, a case was registered as family 1 had doubts on family 2. But then family 2 took the help of influential people in the area. The case was eventually closed and family 1 was given some bribe to shut their mouth. The whole village was shocked by this incident. The conclusion was when we came to know, ‘the entire system is corrupt‘. The policemen too knew that family 2 plotted the murder  and should have been punished. But they went on to settle the case by accepting bribe from them. 

Think about a scenario where every single case is dealt in such a manner. No doubt we have an impressive judiciary system with laws to curb criminal activities but what’s the point when one can use their influence and money to challenge the judiciary system and bent the law for themselves… Is the law and judiciary system so weak that money and influence can overpower it and let the culprit roam freely? People may think that it is better to let bygones be bygones. But is this right? There are several cases in our country that are manipulated and closed with the power of money. No wonder ours is an independent nation and is developing at a fast pace, but then there are still some dark areas upon which we need to focus.  

Friends! This hush money is standing as a wall against justice, which we all need to break with force. Are you ready to do so?

I WISH THEM TO STAY HAPPY FOREVER

Children are no doubt one of the beautiful creations of Almighty. The innocence and their mischiefs can be cherished forever. Well, my parents say when I was a kid, I used to ask numerous questions. For that reason, I was quite curious and tried to learn everything around me. My mother says this annoyed my family members at times. Hearing this I thought, “O God! Did they use to get annoyed by my question? How could they?

Well, I understood this after I saw my niece Mishti and nephew Vasu doing something similar to what I used to do (according to my family members). Mishti my darling niece is the apple of my eyes. She is my little angel and I wish to see her happy as always. But sometimes she becomes annoying when she gets mad at her mother or on other family members. The reason why she gets mad is, she gets to hear scoldings from us. At times, she won’t listen to us and will do things that she is not supposed to do. This makes us angry and we eventually scold her. Once you have scolded her, she will stop talking to you, till she forgets her anger. 

My nephew Vasu too does things that will make you laugh. One day while I was talking to my nephew on call, I asked him ‘where is your grandpa?’ He said, ‘Don’t you see? Grandpa is sitting beside me. Eat vegetables then you will see.’ I was amazed after what he said. Not because he asked me to eat vegetables but because he knew eating vegetables is good for eyesight. He always advises me to cross the road properly, though he himself is three years old and can’t cross the road on his own. Also, he will make sure that you are wearing tidy and presentable clothes. If not, he will ask you to change your clothes by saying, “Go change your clothes, otherwise, I won’t go with you.” I love listening to his talk.

Both of them behave like elders and will then give their own adorable opinions.

There are many more incidents and sweet talk of my niece and nephew. I wish them abundant happiness and love. After all, children are no less than real angels.

DISCARD THE INSECURITIES

When we talk about insecurity, it can be understood as an uneasy feeling which can occur when we feel inferior in front of others. This surrounds us from several irrational thoughts and negative vibes. Though we know, we are absolutely fine but when we see others in a better state than us, we might become insecure. 

The same has happened to me a number of times. I remember, when I was in class 7, my shoes became old and the buckle broke. I used to feel so insecure among my friends, though my father promised to purchase a new pair after a few weeks. For me, waiting for a few weeks was similar to an eternity. I didn’t feel confident while standing in the assembly. However, the broken buckle could be fixed but then my toes started to feel uncomfortable, due to a slight increment in my height. Now I had to purchase a new pair else my toes would come out any time. I couldn’t ask my father to purchase the shoes immediately, as he had some financial burden. Though he bought me a new pair of shoes after a few weeks, as promised. 

Not only this, I used to feel insecure while I used to sit with my college friends. Coming from a middle-class family, I knew I can’t afford everything and I shouldn’t have everything even if I can afford them. As we need to save money for the crisis. But the insecurity in me didn’t understand this. I used to feel quite uneasy when I used to sit in the canteen. Though I had money, I preferred to save it. 

Sometimes, the insecurity in me forbade me to hang out with my friends. Even if I wore my best clothes, I used to feel insecure due to my short height. I used to wear those heels to look taller. Sometimes, I felt insecure due to my dusky skin tone and pouty lips. I used to think, ‘My friends are so taller, I look so short’, ‘My lips are not so beautiful as the actresses,’ ‘My skin tone is dusky, I wish I had fair tone’ and what not.

But then I learned, these things don’t matter. All that matters is how beautifully one carries his/her flaws. I learned to accept myself the way I was. Trust me I became so happy afterward. Life seemed to be quite beautiful. Now I hardly care about how people perceive me because I know my flaws make me beautiful and there is nothing to feel insecure about myself. 

I often come across people who feel insecure among people. To them, I would like to say, get over these insecurities. Embrace your flaws and explore your inner beauty. Do not feel insecure about your financial status. Once you discard all the insecurities, you will gain divine happiness and satisfaction. Insecurity will never make you strong as it decreases your potential. If you are happy with what you have, nobody is richer than you.

SOMETHING I DON’T UNDERSTAND

We as human beings, are capable to comprehend so many things happening around us. Still, we are unable to understand many of the things. It is not that our mind is not so developed or is childish. It might be the case with some of us but we are at least capable to understand the basic things. But I don’t understand a few things. These are:

    1. People don’t pay heed to generic things: I remember ever since I started to read science books during my school days, we were taught to SAVE WATER. We also took oath on various occasions to save water and make the optimum use. But do we actually do that? On railway stations, hotels, and at somebody’s house we waste water by thinking, it is not going from my pocket. A similar thing goes with electricity and food. People hardly understand it is going from our own earth
    2. People not giving seats to elderly people: Like other people, I have been using public transport for going to my office and to come back to my place ever since I came to Bangalore. Almost every day, I find people, who would shamelessly sit on the seats and would feel no need to let the senior citizen sit. Moreover, some men will even remain seated on ladies’ seat stating that they are sitting with their family on the seat. I don’t understand why do people talk about social norms and not follow them in their real life.
    3. People treating animals badly: Humans are no doubt the most powerful creation of the Almighty. He gave brains to humans and many other qualities. Still, we don’t use our brains when it comes to treating animals. There are some people who  won’t bother if a dog is sleeping on the footpath. They will intentionally ride their bike over the limbs or the tail of the dog thinking that how does it matter? Really? Would you like being treated the same way?
    4. People thinking garbage pickers to be dirty: It is an irony that we dump garbage here and there on roads in the open and we consider ourselves to be clean. On the other hand, those who clean garbage and take it to dump somewhere far from the population are considered to be dirty and unhygienic. 

Well, there are so many other things that people don’t understand or they choose to ‘not understand’. Whatever it is, the above are the things that I personally don’t understand.

I would be happy if someone could help me to understand these things. 

DEALING WITH PROBLEMS

Problems are inevitable. Everyone has to go through problems in their lifetime. Sometimes the problems are difficult enough to make us feel giving up what we are doing. We feel nothing is going right and therefore ‘I should quit’. But is that really a solution? 

Well, there is only one solution and that is to never lose hope. However one can avoid problems to some extent. Though one or another problem might keep raising its head, one can do a few things to keep problems away or deal with them. 

So what can do? Well, here are the tips:

  • Working rather than building expectations: Humans can never stop building expectations. Even if they don’t work they will have huge expectations. There is actually no problem with this but the problem arises when our expectations aren’t fulfilled. This can put us into stress, anxiety and may give birth to unexpected problems. So if you want to avoid any problems, work for it. That will surely help you.
  • Doing self-analysis: We know what we are capable of. Before getting into any work, make sure you analyze your capacity. The work that you might think is easy can be tougher and therefore you need to be prepared for that. Self-analysis will help you to avoid problems that you may incur while doing any work.
  • Thinking about the consequences: Whatever work you do, you must think of its consequences. As it has been said, ‘every action has an equal and opposite reaction’. Therefore one must think before acting.
  • Seeking help when needed: We need help at different stages of life. So one must not keep things to themselves when in need of help. It is good to ask for help. When you seek help, you will be able to tackle some of the problems.
  • Saying ‘no’ when needed: Saying no can be rude but sometimes it is good to say no. Especially when you are unable to fulfill somebody’s need. For example, if you have important work at home and if your colleagues ask you for dinner, then it is better to say a polite no. As you need to be at your home. If not, you will be inviting problems. 

Well to solve problems one needs to think rationally and working accordingly. But if you think the situation is baffling and you can’t divide your attention then it is better to prefer the one with the highest priority. This is indeed the best ways to deal with problems