GOD GIVEN VISION AND OUR PASSION LED US HERE

God is not human, that he should lie,
    not a human being, that he should change his mind.
Does he speak and then not act?
    Does he promise and not fulfill?

Wow! Candles Online completed 3 years today.

This journey actually started long back in the year 2006 which you can find in the ABOUT page. And the journey came to a standstill in 2014. 2014 was a year when I saw my child ‘Candles’ succumbing to death because of many different constraints that had been troubling me from all around. It was a very disturbing year in regards to my passion and vision. But 2015 was a year when God prompted in my heart to revive my dead child in a newer way. And I praise God, that I could revive my child with the help of 6 valiant warriors who joined hands with me in the same. These 6 valiant warriors were Anupam, Sulagna, Avishikta, Khristina, Rajnandini and Prabhjot.

11th July 2015 my child ‘Candles’ was reborn as ‘Candles Online’ on a Web Platform. My joy was by leap and bounds and was uncontrollable. And we seven were excited and were happy about what we were doing. We discussed, shared our ideas, helped each other and  wrote numerous articles together. I wrote a lot of articles then as we were very less in number and my team members were a bit busier than me. But we did give a kick start to this initiative in a very good way.

After few months when Avinash, Aastha and Kalpana joined, I became greedy. 😛 I started searching for more writers and I did get some awesome writers. Prabhjot fired the bullets at Kuljeet & Preeta her sisters, keeping the gun on my shoulder and they joined as well. Pradita came in and Candles Online became very heavy and well decorated with multi-talented writers.

This journey was not an easy one. Those who were with me from the beginning, like Rajnandini and Prabhjot were aware of those struggles to some extent. Sometimes I was scolded for this initiation. I was told it’s a wrong vision. I was mocked at. Some could not commit time for it, some rejected it, some were arrogant about it, some were rude with me, some left it.

Yet, those who grasped it, wrote for it though I understand some of my team members are  extremely busy with their professional life but they had never disown me or Candles Online. Some of their passion for Candles encourage me so much. Few days ago someone almost screamed at me for not paying proper attention to Candles Online and I am proud of that person. Couple of days ago we came up with 18 old and new topics together. And I was enthralled by the passion of my team members. Because for that passion to change and to be a change agent we stepped into this boat called Candles Online.

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I praise God for His faithfulness envisioning me and helping us to carry this mantel to lit the fire in everyone’s heart and bring the true joy and transformation in their lives through His divine intervention.

On this auspicious occasion few of my family members have shared their hearts as well.

They say…

Saakshi: A lone candle lit  was enough to vanquish the darkness from our hearts and now it’s been three incredible years and the light just gets brighter, stronger, mightier.

Sriram: It’s a platform where we express ourselves and our thoughts and we let our own lights shine, in best hope, that our experiences or views will be a shining beacon to those who read and can relate or learn.

Rajnandini: From multifarious topics addressed on paperprints years before, to completing three remarkable years in the web world, CANDLESONLINE has come a long way in reaching far and wide in realising it’s vision and mission to touch lives and rekindle the spirits of people.

Kuljeet: Candles Online is 3 years old.. Many many congratulations.. Under the able guidance of Chiradeep we have published at least one article every day.. No mean feat.. I joined this creative journey one year ago and loved every moment of it… Kudos to the creative, hardworking and beautiful family of Candles Online…

Ashrita: Congratulations to all the team who help the community learn new things each day for the last 3 years!

Peter: A great team of people who bring hope and encouragement to others through their honest and sincere experiences shared in their well-crafted, thoughtful articles, always leaving behind a nugget of wisdom.

Prabhjot: In last 3 years, this platform has helped me build an amazing relationship with my readers and co-writers and in this journey, I have grown multiple folds. Thanks to this community.

And at the end Preeta nailed it by saying: Keep burning and enlighten everyone. Cheers! May we grow, grow and grow.

WISH YOU ALL A HAPPY 3 YEARS ANNIVERSARY!

‘HAPPILY EVER AFTER’ IS POSSIBLE IF 7 MARRIAGE PRINCIPLES ARE FOLLOWED

(In response to The Daily Post’s writing prompt: “Happily Ever After.”)

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“Happily Ever After” is a myth if we married couples are not happy in our marriage relationships.

Recently, I was studying a passage from the Bible which is as under:

“The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him…. But for Adam no suitable helper was found. So the Lord God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man’s ribs and then closed up the place with flesh. Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man. The man said, “This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh;she shall be called ‘woman,’ for she was taken out of man.” That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.Adam and his wife were both naked, and they felt no shame .”  Genesis 2: 18, 20b – 25.

As I was studying the above passage I found some amazing truths in it. In the Garden of Eden I found three persons God, Adam & Eve moving around as God formed the foundation of the earth as well as the foundation of marriage. I could see ‘7 mind boggling principles of marriage’ right there formed in the beginning which we find today in self-help & marriage-help books after thousands of years of creation.

7 Valuable Marriage Principles:

1. Not good to be ALONE: When God was overseeing His whole creation He found Adam alone. He didn’t like it. Immediately He thought of creating a companion for Adam. Many years after the creation, the wise king Solomon writes in his book, Two are better than one,because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up in Ecclesiastes 4: 9-10. God foreknew the repercussion of both ‘being lonely’ and ‘being with somebody close’in life. That is why He thought of creating a partner for Adam seeing him lonely.

So we get inside a marital bond not just for the sake of the tradition or the desire of our parents but for the need of our own being to survive and prolong in life.

2. SUITABLE Helper: When God thought of creating a partner for Adam He says, He will make a suitable helper for him. The Hebrew meaning of the word suitable are: ‘in front of,’ ‘in sight of,’ ‘opposite to.’ That means God wanted to create somebody who can really stand with Adam or match up to him. In Genesis 1: 27 it is written, So God created mankind in his own image, in the image of God he created them; male and female he created them.” What does it imply? Man & woman both are in the same level with same statuses. Neither of them is superior or inferior to the other. Eve was created just ‘opposite to’ Adam as his counterpart.

So we should not fight for the status in the marriage as who is above whom, ‘man’ or ‘woman.’

3. Woman made from MAN’s RIB: Finally when God created woman, He made her out of Man’s rib. That’s something amazing. It’s written, “…He took one of the man’s ribs and then closed up the place with flesh.” An amazing principle that comes out here is that the woman is part of the man’s own body. The woman was not foreign or alien but part of him, the man.

When God brings the woman to Adam, he joyfully declares that “This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh;she shall be called ‘woman,’ for she was taken out of man.” Wow! What an amazing principle!

4. LEAVE his parents & UNITED to his wife: Further Adam explains that the man will leave his parents and be united to his wife. This is the most difficult chapter in many Indian families even today. It’s a truth and an amazing principle of marriage that two human being will leave their respective families and unite with each other to form a new family through a process called marriage. Beautiful! Isn’t it? It doesn’t mean that the man & woman have to leave their parents literally but they leave and form a completely separate entity altogether.

This principle needs to be carried out wisely as it is the most misunderstood and misused principle of marriage.

5. Become ONE Flesh: This principle makes the marriage relationship even stronger. The man and woman are not only part of each other but are ONE flesh. A single being. ‘One flesh’ again indicates about ‘a protective hedge or boundary’ around the man & the woman which is not tress-passable or not invade-able by anybody, not even the parents.

This is again a very difficult and sensitive principle to be worked on especially in Indian scenarios.

6. NAKED yet felt NO Shame: I pondered on these words NAKED & NO SHAME again and again before I come to a conclusion or derive a principle out of them. Naked means uncovered, exposed, not hidden and so on. That means there is nothing hidden between a husband and a wife. There is no barrier between them. Even when they commit any mistake they become responsible and feel no shame to share it with each other for correction.

Wow! I love this principle which is so rare in today’s world. The husband and wife should not feel ashamed to each other not only when they are naked before each other physically but also naked mentally, emotionally and spiritually. They understand and know each other clean and clear. They know each other in every respect of their marital life.

7. GOD is the Head & Author of the Marriage: If we see minutely every details of the creation we find a skilled hand and mind behind all these creations even the creation and formation of marriage & family. It was God who created everything beautiful and good even an institution like marriage. In this institution called marriage has three individuals in it; God, man & woman. The most beautiful part which I really like in Genesis 3:8, is when God visited the man and the woman in the cool of the day to have fellowship with them as the head of the family. Though unfortunately sin had already breached the loving and faithful relationships. That’s a different issue altogether.

So the bottom line is a marriage is complete and whole when it is a triangle with man and woman on two of the corners on the base and God in the top corner.

Many principles of marriage can be derived from the whole Bible but these 7 principles in the beginning are built on such profound truth that nobody can deny it. If the spouses or the couples about to marry could follow these principles with discipline then it would definitely bring fruit in their present or future marital life.