SCALING THE PEAKS

Mountaineering is definitely not a child’s play!

The great men and women of the world, many of whose names do not always make it to the newspaper headlines brave the icy winds to scale the steep slopes. As a mountaineer climbs higher and higher the weather conditions become worse. Along with the extreme cold, often there are storms and rain which deter their path. There is a constant threat of their supply of oxygen running out mid-way. Many of them battle frost-bite.

More than these external challenges, the internal phantoms are the ones they need to deal with. Death stares at them every moment. They never know whether they would be able to return alive to their loved ones or not. The terrible sight of the lifeless bodies of those other mountaineers who were not able to reach the peak or even if they did, didn’t return alive creates a sense of dread.

However, those brave hearts who battle and overcome these extreme challenges of the body and mind every moment of the climb, are the ones who scale the peak. There is no gain without pain. Who else can explain it better than a person who has conquered the peak!

Endure the pains of life. You’ll emerge a conqueror!

IT TAKES TWO TO COMPLETE THE ACT OF RECONCILIATION

This was the most interesting week with a very interesting topic called, “Reconcile & Restore.” I thoroughly enjoyed every snippets & comments and learned so much from them.

In the mega article, 7 FACTORS TO RECONCILE WITH YOUR LOVED ONES & RESTORE A BROKEN RELATIONSHIP,” we learnt that reconciliation is a Personal Need, an Initiative, a Humbling Experience, needs Patience, Forgiving Attitude and above all Love which never fails.   

During the weekdays, 5 snippets talk about 5 interesting stuffs:

  1. Reconciliation demands Giving-up Pride & Ego.
  2. Reconciliation demands Emptiness of Heart.
  3. Reconciliation is Re-beautification of Relationships.
  4. Reconciliation involves True Forgiveness & Genuine Repentance.
  5. Reconciliation is a Supreme Action over the Normal Human Emotion followed by the action.

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June Hunt, the host of the Nationally Syndicated Call-in Counselling Broadcast ‘Hope in the Night’ says, Forgiveness is not the same as reconciliation. It takes two for reconciliation, only one for forgiveness.” That struck me hard.

I remembered what Avishikta Dey pointed out in her snippet yesterday, “Sometimes the person in pair-707508_1280question might have irrevocably changed the dynamics of the relation;” which means, if the other party is determined that he/she is not going to continue the relationship with the first person then reconciliation is simply impossible. Though we should not judge the person by saying he/she is unworthy, undeserving but it is true that if he/she doesn’t want to reconcile then we can’t reconcile with such persons at all.

Indira Patra, in her snippet talked about the involvement of forgiveness and repentance in the act of reconciliation. She pointed out reconciliation takes place when the offender repents and the other person who was hurt forgives the offender.

man-875702_1280If the offender genuinely repents but the other person doesn’t forgive or doesn’t want to keep the relationship then reconciliation won’t take place. In the same way, if the person who is hurt truly forgives the offender but the offender doesn’t repent, reconciliation can’t take place.

Reconciliation is a paperless agreement between two to restore the breached relationship between them and enter into a contract or relationship afresh. One needs to take initiative and the other needs to accept that initiation wholeheartedly to enter in to the loving relationship of reconciliation & restoration.

Keep reading, keep learning & keep implementing daily…

Stay Blessed!

Author’s Bio: Chiradeep Patra is a finance man who works in a NGO at Kolkata. He is a writer, motivator & counselor. 

“EGO IS AN DEADLY ENEMY OF RECONCILIATION” – A LESSON ON WORLD PEACE DAY

i-741508_1280Today, September 21st is celebrated as the ‘International Peace Day’ and my good friend Kriti commented on yesterday’s Article on Reconciliation like this: “Sometimes peace is better than being right.. Ego should be kept apart when any issues arise between family or best friends… After all, ego will be just for an hour or day, but relationships are forever!”

She was absolutely right.

I was trying to see the dictionary meaning of the word EGO online, which describes it as: “A sense of one’s own dignity or worth, amour-propre, pride, self-esteem, self-regard, self-respect.” 

Huh! Reconciliation can’t happen at all with a person possessing the above explained attitude within him/her because ‘Reconciliation is an Humbling Experience.’

Pride is absent in Humility where as the base of Ego is Pride.

Now it is very clear to understand that how ego comes in the way of the good act of Reconciliation. There are many today who feel the need of reconciliation with their loved ones, they cry and feel sad day and night for being at a distance with their loved ones yet their ego keeps them unmoved. That is very sad.

As I mentioned earlier, that I feel so desperate to reconcile with the person I fought with previously. That’s because ego is for an hour or a day, but relationships are forever.

Friends! Is EGO the enemy, holding us back from Reconciling with our loved ones? The Bible says, Pride goes before destruction, a haughty spirit before a fall.” An enemy always destroys. So today on ‘World Peace Day,’ let’s get rid of Ego & Pride at once and reconcile to live a peaceful, happy and joyous life with our loved ones, fellow human beings and with our neighboring countries.

Stay Blessed!

(READ the Mega Article: “7 FACTORS TO RECONCILE WITH YOUR LOVED ONES & RESTORE A BROKEN RELATIONSHIP)

Balancing Tolerance with Intolerance 

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“You have heard that it was said, ‘Eye for eye, and tooth for tooth.’ But I tell you, do not resist an evil person. If anyone slaps you on the right cheek, turn to them the other cheek also. – The Bible

Our Mahatma, the father of the nation also quoted it and applied it in his Nonviolence Movement which became the basis of our freedom.

Tolerance is a divine virtue. The great men and women have taught us by displaying immense amount of tolerance through their lives. But the whole week’s discussion on the topic “Tolerance Vs. Intolerance” made it very clear that we lack this virtue within us today. We are getting intolerant as the days pass by. We don’t have that patience to listen to the reason behind a harsh word of a person. We have become so impatient and intolerant that we don’t restrain ourselves to talk back or slap or fight…

We always forget that starting a quarrel is like breaching a dam; so it is wise to drop the matter before a dispute breaks out and destroys everything. It is to one’s honor to avoid strife, but every fool is quick to squabble.

Intolerance is not maturity because a hot-tempered or intolerant person stirs up conflict, but the one who is patient and tolerant calms a fight. Unfortunately, who understands it?

There is another angle to look at this matter of being tolerant or intolerant. Sometimes there are instances when we are too tolerant for the things which we are not supposed to be tolerant.

For example, when we stay silent and get interested to hear a gossip about somebody else instead of being intolerant towards the slanderer. It is really sad when we see injustice happening in front of our own eyes yet we don’t say anything but tolerate it. It is horrible to even think that we tolerate the very sight of the poor children walk around on the streets without food and clothes. We do nothing about it. We can make a big list of such examples if we sit down to think on it a bit.

The bottom line is we are well aware of our actions which are supposed to be displayed to others. We have adequate wisdom to decide whether we should be tolerant or intolerant in a given situation or in regards to a particular person.

How good are we in balancing Tolerance with Intolerance today?

Keep reading & keep pondering…

Stay Blessed!

Author’s Bio: Chiradeep Patra is a finance man who works in a NGO at Kolkata. He is a writer, motivator & counselor. 

TOLERANCE NEEDS PRACTICE

I just smiled at myself when I read this quote by Helen Keller, the great:

“Toleration is the greatest gift of the mind; it requires the same effort of the brain that it takes to balance oneself on a bicycle.”

I have never ridden a bicycle in my entire life so it is definitely a difficult task for me but those who know it & do it regularly for them, I guess it is an easy thing to do.

Helen Keller must have practiced tolerance so much that it seemed to her like bicycle riding.

Yes, we need to practice tolerance daily to make it a habit in our life.

Stay Blessed!

SEEK TOLERANCE

“Finally, all of you, have unity of mind, sympathy, brotherly love, a tender heart, and a humble mind. Do not repay evil for evil or reviling for reviling, but on the contrary, bless, for to this you were called, that you may obtain a blessing. For “Whoever desires to love life and see good days, let him keep his tongue from evil and his lips from speaking deceit; let him turn away from evil and do good; let him seek peace and pursue it.”

If we sum up the whole scripture passage in one single word, then the word will be TOLERANCE.

If we have the power to tolerate each other’s behaviours then we can create a great environment around us.

Stay Blessed!

GRACIOUS WORDS!

” Gracious words are a honeycomb, sweet to the soul and healing to the bones.”

How beautiful the world will be if we learn tolerance every moment we talk to each other.