A DECEPTION CALLED – “SELF-CONFIDENCE”

“I am sorry… we won’t be able to do anything more… Only if God wants or does some miracles then he can be recovered…”

That’s what doctors generally say when things go out of their hands. There are very rare cases when they submit everything in God’s hands and then start their diagnosis. Things happen the similar way when we have to accomplish something. We keep planning and doing everything till something goes out of the way… Then we turn to God and ask for some miracle to happen. Everybody depends on their acquired knowledge and pre-instilled wisdom in the beginning without letting God be the controller, though anyway He controls everything. We turn to God when we are deceived by our ‘Self-Confidence’. Self- confidence or self – belief is not wrong at all… without that we can’t do anything in our life. But tightening the rope of trust around ‘self confidence’ is such a deception of Satan or the devil that can take us away from the reality and land us on the verge of destruction.

I liked two articles this week and I would like to quote few of the things to explain my point.

No matter how much we believe in others, trust in God, have a support system, all of these are external factors, the important factor lies within us. Others can guide and help us but cannot fight the battle for us…

That was so well said by Aastha. But there’s a small twist in it. God is not just one of the many options that we believe or rely on. Rather, He is solely responsible for our survival – being the Creator and Sustainer of all who was constantly denied and ignored by His own creation, called human. He not only can guide and help us but can also fight the battle for us which we sometimes don’t see even when we have our senses and eyes open for everything around us. It is only when we surrender ourselves into His hands for Him to take control of ourselves and our situations He fights the battle for us. He has given us free will and He is not going to force us to depend on Him.   It is we who need to initiate the process of giving God the first priority and credit in our life because – “The horse is prepared for the day of battle, but the victory belongs to the LORD.”

Adversity has been a theme in my life, be it in terms of education, career, friendship or love. I’m always battling someone or something who threatens to destroy my peace of mind, all that I stand for, all that is ‘me’.

We got to know about our co-author Pradita a little more after reading her article from which I quoted the above statement.  Her persona as to what she is today was built on her adversities which she faced or facing right now in her life. We all were created in such a fashion that we have that quality to fight for our survival. If we don’t change ourselves while fighting or adapting to the situation then we will be like dinosaurs soon. God has already created us in that fashion to stay in the fight… not against our fellow humans though but against the devil and the humans that are guided by the devil. God definitely has fashioned the fittest to survive but when the fittest find themselves vulnerable and weak at times He is always there ready to lift them up from falling down.

And when Pradita concludes she advises, ‘look within yourself. You have all the help you need right there. Leave the rest to God. If I interpret this, then it will be – God has given us the ability to do many things on our own and stand against every odd life brings about but in all that we do we need to recognize God for who He is – the Creator, the Sustainer, the Owner of everything.

When I look back in my own life then I find my  “Self-Confidence” is just a phrase which means “nothing” for me. What good my self-confidence could have done when my previous surgery was useless and the shunt was blocked? How my self-confidence could have helped when I was coughing blood and my oxygenation went down to below 60% and I was just tottering around? The doctors just wonder and expect my end somewhere at some point of time very soon… my self-will or confidence can’t stop me from what has to happen in my life. So I denounce  my reliance on self-confidence because my confidence lies in Him who knows when the life comes in an human embryo and when the life goes out of a human body.  Because –

In Him was life, and that life was the light of all mankind.

Trust in God who can make you do everything with all the strength and skills He has given you. Change your slogan from “believe in yourself and have self-confidence” to “believe you can do everything through God who’s the author of life”.

Stay Blessed!!!

MULTIPLE PERSONAL BRANDS !!?

I was in my final year of my engineering course and went to attend a campus interview. Many companies participated, there were many students from various colleges.  As usual, my dad accompanied me. I went in at around 10 in the morning, as I was progressing through the rounds of the interview, I was also wondering what my dad was doing alone in the campus, as he is a very reserved person and doesn’t talk much.

Finally, I came out of the interview at 11 in the night, with the confirmation letter in my hand. It was the happiness of having secured a job I guess, I was very thrilled to share the same with my dad. I completely forgot to ask him what he did the entire day while I was in the interview.

The next day in college, one of my classmates came to congratulate me, “Congratulations ! I know it means a lot to have a job in hand and you succeeded on your first shot..”, I thanked him, he didn’t stop there, “Your dad is so awesome. He helped all of us so much during the interview by talking and relieved us off the stress. He is so jovial, you are so lucky to have such dad who is so cool …“, My dad found comfort with strangers, that’s sounds different than him… “Both of you talk like friends, and I am actually surprised that you are so friendly too. I have never realised in the last three years, you are so different than what others think you are“. 

I was getting curious to know what others think, he continued, “You know, all others think you are a serious person, not easy to get along with, in fact you are named after fire crackers… (flower pot, 5000 wala)” By now, I was smiling within me, “Many do think twice before they have to talk with you and are quite afraid of you“.. I bursted into laughter at the end of it, I am sure he was taken by surprise. I don’t get angry or shout at people, but yes, I don’t smile often either.

I have been the school leader in high school, the same continued in PUC too, I was in-charge of many activities, have had the responsibility to take many decisions and lead many programs. I always thought that was the reason why my fellow students have developed a kind of fear towards me. Come on, college is supposed to be different, isn’t it ? We are in our teenage, our hormones are on high, the attention we get from boys and I don’t have to explain the rest of it. I was a little different. I always used to enjoy the way boys used to stay in limits the moment I glare at them ( Does that sound unusual ? )  It used to feel like an achievement to me. 

I have become friends with many people when the association is ending or about to end, last days of college, either I am leaving the company I work for, or some colleague of mine resigns for a better opportunity. There are people, who read me well and took an early chance to extend the association into friendship and vice-versa, most of those are successful acquaintances.

No matter, how conscious we are, we leave an impression. Slowly, the perception builds into a brand. If you are not building a brand for yourself, you can be sure others are doing it for you…  My language, body language, as well as many shades of mine together left an impression that I am totally unfriendly, but if you ask my friends, they would give a totally different perspective of me. So, I have two brands. Oh Boy ! Two Brands ???  I gave a thought to it, and I am completely fine to have two brands of myself. Both are very different from each other but both of them are true and authentic..The same “not so easy me” continues today too, but all of it is very healthy, and keeps unnecessary problems out of my life.

As long as the brand you have created doesn’t interfere with what you want to be, your family ‘n’ friends, your career aspirations, you really don’t have to worry if you have multiple brands. As I have continued my observations, my dad has multiple brands, many of us actually have more than one… Manage the brands carefully and one would be very successful.

At the same time, it is extremely important that the brand reflects you, fits to the situation, so that you achieve your goals. Don’t get too carried away if some people misunderstand you, that’s fine too. Unless, it is absolutely required to correct your brand, don’t try for it, while making an attempt to change it,  you may end up making more mistakes and create altogether a new brand, which is not so you and as all of us are aware it is very hard to maintain a false self.

Personal brand is your identity, create one that works for you and others as well!!!