Many kings dreamt to conquer the whole world; none succeeded.
Dream to conquer just your inner tussles; you’ll discover paradise on conquest.
Pause is a very crucial stage, which becomes the reason for one’s turning point in life.
Man has evolved throughout the ages. We have been governed by our emotion and instincts. While emotion can be defined as a complex set of feelings resulting in physical and psychological changes that influence our thoughts and action, instincts are results of an environmental trigger occurring in order to satisfy internal drives. It was instinct which caused man to discover fire and it was emotion that made him create and protect a family. True that his needs were what he was aiming to satisfy. Though we have learnt and unlearnt ways to combat our instincts and deal with our emotions there is a fine line where we tend to confuse between the two. We use our emotions to react to situations as though they are our instincts and continue doing so for a prolonged period till they become a way of life. This is how we acquire an identity for ourselves and get to be known by it.
I was very infamous amongst my family and friends regarding my vicious anger. Most people haven’t seen me in this manner but my close ones have already borne the brunt of it. Such was my all-consuming anger that it was unable for a person to be around me when I was in that frame of mine. I would become spiteful and would end up hurting people with the most savage words. I had frequent fights with family and friends and after which I had a tendency to build up a wall around me, cutting people off and refusing to communicate. If you have known me as a person you would feel how different it is from the person who I am. Yes these bouts of anger happened almost twice a year but throughout I used to react offensively to situations. I reacted and overreacted, overthought about how I reacted and felt terrible, down and disgusting. It was these people who loved me to the core and would never think of abandoning me and I hurt them.
While I was in this frame of mind I thought whatever I was doing this was the only way of asserting me. There was no way I could make people understand my point of view. I was breaking under stressful conditions in the professional arena and hell broke loose in my personal sphere of friends as well. It was only because of the fact that I had begun to idolize myself. Therefore how other behaved in front of me used to be of first priority. I sought to be impressed by others around me. I thought if this particular person offended me it has to be the end of him/her in my life. I wasn’t responding, just reacting.
But the end of my foul behaviour had to come. I had the ugliest of fights at home at the end of 2016 on a petty issue where I thought I have been disappointed in my own family. Terrible thought, isn’t it? I too lost a couple of friends. It dawned that I had been going on offending people, depressing them, hurting them. I was crest-fallen. A throbbing pain shot through as I realized my position. I cried nights in repentance. I had a sort of epiphany back then where I realized the real source of the troubles. It was the absence of quiet-time in my life. I was so engaged with other things even spending my leisure time watching television and surfing the net that I had completely lost the time of meditating and introspection. I wasn’t reflecting on who I am becoming and thus the change of course.
This quiet-time that I am talking about is an evangelical term which we use in our community to introspect about the kind of person I am and how do I strive to be better with people around us. This is an individual session where we meditate, reflect and pray about our shortcomings and positives. The quiet-time proved to be really beneficial to me as it was informative. It made me learn about the various ways in which I can view myself and others around me. It encouraged me when I was crestfallen and strengthened me to face difficult situations with vigour and zeal. I learnt to attach less importance to my being and tried to consider others equal to me. There are still moments of misgivings but you know, “Rome wasn’t built in a day”.
My quiet-time really helped me a lot and gradually I am learning not to react in situations rather being resilient is what I would like to focus on. There are a lot of dynamics involved though as understanding and accepting the perspectives of people while maintaining your own without asserting yourself is not a cakewalk. Therefore in moments like these I remind myself of the quote I once read: “Every time you are tempted to react in the same old way, ask if you want to be a prisoner of the past or a pioneer of the future”.
SILENCE or Being Silent is the most difficult task to accomplish. At least for me it is near to impossible. Rajnandini said, “Silence is the language of the soul.” But how can the soul speak when the mind and body speaks differently silencing the soul!!!
Yes, I mean it is really very difficult sometimes to held our tongue back.
But there are some states of being silent which are definitely needed attention and care. Let’s discuss about it.
Silence or being silent can mean so many things. Like when the Government doesn’t take any steps towards certain issue then we say, “Why the Govt. is silent about this matter!!!” So overlooking the matter or not responding to an issue can be one type of silence.
So many times we keep ourselves aloof of the matter happening around us. Sometimes we see injustice happening in front of us and we still stay silent as just an observer. That silence is kind of very dangerous to the family, to the community and to the country at large.
When we ignore or delay certain things that is impending at home or in the family or for our loved ones… then that kind of silence is fatal and should be avoided.
When a person is hurt and withdraws herself or himself from life and drowns into the silence of depression then that silence needs to be addressed. That is fatal as well.
A student who is scared to answer his teacher and stays silent, then that silence needs attention and care. The girl or boy should be nurtured with love and compassion to learn and learn for his or her future.
The parents, a mother or a girl who stay silent for the sake of their loved ones… sacrificing their lives for them. Then that silence needs to be taken care of.
When there are fights between a husband and a wife. They stop talking eventually. Closing all the doors of communication and remain silent. But that silent is dangerous as well. As it builds the wall between them. That wall of silence needs to be broken right away or as early as possible.
“Silence is Golden.” No doubt about it. But the silence in the above mentioned scenarios are not golden but deadly pestilence.
Silence is not golden when there’s people who are being trafficked, sold and bought everyday in the country.
Silence is not golden when there are women who are being mistreated at home, in the society and everywhere in the country.
Silence is not golden when the female foeticides are in increasing numbers everyday.
Silence is not golden when the beggary and poverty are on the rise.
Silence is not golden when politicians use foul means to get to the power and exploit the public.
Silence is not golden when bribing is not considered as sin.
Silence is not golden when the relationships are getting strained day after day.
We need to understand the right time for being silent and when to raise our voice. If we can not judge it at the right time then it will be fatal for us in our life.
Silence is Golden when we stop preaching and start implementing.
Friends! Choose the right time to be silent or raise your voice…
The heavens declare the glory of God;
the skies proclaim the work of his hands.
Day after day they pour forth speech;
night after night they reveal knowledge.
They have no speech, they use no words;
no sound is heard from them.
Yet their voice[b] goes out into all the earth,
their words to the ends of the world.
In the heavens God has pitched a tent for the sun.
It is like a bridegroom coming out of his chamber,
like a champion rejoicing to run his course.
It rises at one end of the heavens
and makes its circuit to the other;
nothing is deprived of its warmth.
The above passage of a poet describing God’s amazing creation “SKY” fascinates me whenever I read that. I have a natural fascination for the skylines and I keep looking at the sky of different colour with different shapes of clouds at different times. And yes, I don’t loose the opportunity of capturing them whenever my camera is available with me.
Read the above poetic scripture portion as you watch the beautiful skylines… your heart will be quieten with God’s awesomeness in HIS amazing creation.
It is always has a great effect on our mind and body when we take a time out from out busy schedules and watch His beautiful creations. That silence will give you amazing peace and tranquility to work further.
When the motion ceases, vibrations in air retreat
Then trot into the silence, introspect deep.
Plunge into memory lane, dig flakes of lores,
Catch wisps of lessons, which experiences reap.
Silence is the language of the soul. When spoken words fall short, the silence of the soul takes over. Man has been uniquely blessed with the gift of speech and, language is the vehicle of speech through which thoughts are shared and feelings are expressed. However, silence has more power than words. That’s why the famous English proverb says, “Speech is silver, Silence is golden.”
The wise King Solomon in his words of wisdom said that there is “a time to keep silence and a time to speak.” Not all occasions demand silence. Had it been so, we would have found it easier to practice this art. To know when to be silent and when to speak up is an invaluable skill.
SILENCE IS A POWERFUL WEAPON
Questions elicit answers. Silence elicits action!
- Silence creates an ability to listen – Most arguments gather heat because none of the parties involved are willing to listen. Listening enhances the ability to understand. But, when no one is willing to be silent for a while there is no listening and no understanding.
- Silence passes on the message more effectively – It is natural to give back to people who hurt us. Remaining silent when there are storms raging within is difficult. Not all people possess the ability to interpret silence. Hence, exercising this skill before people who have the sensitivity to interpret it leads to the desirous results.
- Silence is a mark of wisdom – We have all heard it often said, “Empty vessels sound much.” People who resort to mindless chatter and unopinionated commentaries are people with hollow minds. Wise people listen more and speak less. And when they speak, there flow pearls of wisdom from their mouths.
- Silence helps keep the peace – Peace is the most elusive luxury in the world today. There is widespread unrest in almost all quarters, be it in families or workplaces. In such a scenario, practicing the art of silence helps reap rich personal dividends. It is a rare virtue to be at peace when all hell seems to be breaking loose.
- Silence is an indication of self-control – Self-control is a gift from the Almighty. It cannot be easily acquired or practiced without strength from above. Practising restraint with God’s strength is an indication of the work of divinity within.
The silence that amazes me the most is the silence of Jesus Christ in the process of His crucifixion. The Bible reckons that though He was without sin, He became sin for mankind, took upon Himself the abusive words, lies, cheatings, murders, rapes, adulteries, hatreds and all possible wrongdoings that you and I come across today. He had to switch places with the sinful humanity to redeem them from facing the gory consequences of their sins. Being God Himself, He humbled Himself to brace the torturous death on the Cross of Calvary. But, did He earn sympathy, appreciation and applause from the people around? Not in the least!
Adding on to His pain were remarks like, “If you are the King of the Jews, save yourself!”, “Let Him come down now from the cross, and we will believe in Him.”
How did He respond?
He did not open His mouth. He did not shout back at His critics and accusers. He did not try to justify Himself. He was as silent as a lamb which is taken for slaughter. The silence of God! And when He did open His mouth, it was to offer forgiveness to His offenders. What a picture!
Friends, when you face injustice, ridicule, criticisms, unfair treatments and your heart is raging against your offenders remember the picture of Jesus on the Cross. He silently offered Himself up for sacrifice and that is why His silence speaks volumes to all humanity today.
In the world of protests and contests for rights, not all can have the assurance of justice. But, remaining true to God and to oneself can ensure peace within. This does not mean that we should remain mute spectators to all the ills happening around us. However, remaining silent when one expects to be least heard adds weight to our demands.