CHASTITY IN THE LAND OF LUST

Understanding Lust:

I have seen people using lust and love as similar meaning words on many occasions. But the meanings of these two words are completely different.

Unlike love, lust is extremely self-centered, it never allows a person to see anyone else but himself or herself, it lets a person focus someone’s physical body than their inner beauty and it lets a person to have physical intimacy than establishing a deep emotional bonding with another.

Let me explain how lust can affect a person…

Have you ever seen a drunkard blabbering on a road tottering from this side to that side of it? Yes, we all must have witnessed it many times on the streets.

Do people take him seriously whatever he says in that fully drunk state? No, because we all know it very well that the drunkard is not in his own control.

Lust is a state something of that kind. It is an experience of intense carnal urges and unbridled sexual craving. Lust is not an emotion, but it involves the experience of fleshly enjoyment with anticipation of sexual pleasure.

Mary C. Lamia, Ph.D., a clinical psychologist, and psychoanalyst says, “Lust provides a rare window through which you can view your vulnerabilities as you are swept away by your imagination.”

But the condition is, only if we can realise about our vulnerabilities then we can learn from it for a future reference otherwise we move towards destruction gradually.

Depth of Lust:

We all know, how different companies produce different products for their customers according to what they wished in their minds. In the same way, the media produces different films and series basing on the mindsets and desires of people of this world today.

Would you believe that the psychological disorders which I had studied while doing a counselling degree are now slowly being accepted as sexual preferences or choices?

Let me explain…

BDSM which has been unknown to most of the people previously has become popular among many today. I feel very scared to even think about it even.

I watched a series recently on the same subject and was amazed how it ended. A married woman who loves her husband a lot. The husband is a very good man and loves his wife as well. They didn’t have any problems whatsoever. But the woman always feels very lonely staying all the time at home when her husband is at work. She eventually meets a man on a chatting site who insists her to meet him at his place. She doesn’t agree initially but thought of giving a try as she is attracted to what the man used to write about sexual submission and dominance. And finally, she visits him and submits to his dominance. She suffers from a psychological issue later on and to help her out, her husband comes to know about her secret life. The story ends with the husband releasing his wife to that man. Message of the story was – Lust won over the chastity of marriage.

Examples like the above, are many, I can’t list them out all here.

Famous psychiatrist and author Judith Orloff, M.D. rightly says, “As a psychiatrist, I’ve seen how intense sexual attraction is notorious for obliterating common sense and intuition in the most sensible people.”

Crimes Led By Lust:

Lust is an intense mental state which leads a person to commit heinous and soul stirring crimes.

The Bible mentions a good king who fell for a beautiful woman, slept with her and to marry her, he murdered her husband craftily.

We are aware of the crimes against women and children in the forms of sexual abuses, molestations, rapes caused by lust.

Have you ever heard about ‘Lust Murder’? Wikipedia explains, “A lust murder is a homicide in which the offender searches for erotic satisfaction by killing someone”. I was shaken literally when I read this sentence.

Apart from strong sexual urges, lust can also depict intense cravings for food, money and power as well which ultimately leads to various small and big crimes happening daily around us. Lust of money leads people to rob things from others. Lust of food makes people sick and obese. Lust of power creates disparity in the country and war situations around the world.

Chastity against lust:

In this context of lust, talking about Chastity seems meaningless and impossible. Isn’t it? It looks like Chastity has been swallowed up by the lust of human beings in this world. But we all are aware of the consequences; lust can only lead us to destruction.

The Bible stirs our minds with few thought-provoking questions –

“Can a man take fire in his bosom
And his clothes not be burned?
Or can a man walk on hot coals
And his feet not be scorched?”

We know the answer very well. Lust is like fire, like burning hot coals that can burn our chest, our body if we embrace onto it. It can burn our feet if we walk on its path.

Chastity is also a state or practice of refraining from extramarital, or especially from all, sexual intercourse. Basically, chastity means sexual purity.

So, as human we can live in one or other way – live a life of purity or lead an impure life. We can’t stay in a 50-50 condition because, a tiny bit of impurity soils and spoils everything. Yes, I understand that we as human are not perfect, we have weaknesses but there have to have a constant striving within us for perfection – moving from impurity to purity. When we stay stagnant at a point, we stay impurity of lust.

In short, I want to mention a few helpful points for our striving towards Chastity in the land of lust. They are as under:

Guarding my eyes: The Bible says, ““I made a covenant with my eyes not to look with lust at a young woman”. There’s a tendency in us to look at another person of the opposite sex with lust but when we prayerfully practice it not to do so, one day we see the result ourselves. Practice makes a man perfect. But there has to have goal setting and willingness to strive for a life of purity.

Guarding my mind: The Bible says, “You have heard that it was said, ‘Do not commit adultery.’ But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.”The Bible verse doesn’t contradict the natural instinct of human beings getting attracted to the physical bodies of people of the opposite gender. In fact, that is how we are made! But, lust in the mind creates a craving for adultery in action – “a thought of having physical or sexual relationship with the woman I am looking at.”The eyes look at the woman, sends the message back and there’s a thought evolves in the mind instructing the eyes to look at the woman again and again. But when we guard our mind by constant striving, we can help stopping the lustful thought process and ultimately, we can hope for a positive result one day.

Guarding my steps: I always need to know whom I am following, what I am following. Am I feeding myself with filthy stuffs or feeding myself with good things? I can’t expect to be pure if I keep watching pornography. I can’t expect to be compassionate if I rear hatred in my heart. I can’t strive for chastity if I keep looking at this woman or that.

The Bible says,Don’t imitate the behavior and patterns of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect.” If I want to change the mindset of my community and the people around me then I have to first change myself. That is possible if I do what is right. I can do what is right if I know and understand what is right. If I follow what people are doing then I will surely be faltering sooner or later. I need to know where and how I am walking in my life.

Friends! Preaching is easy, practicing is very hard, and living it, is all the more difficult. It is a challenge for all of us to maintain Chastity in the midst of a lustful world but it is not impossible and also beneficial for us. Let’s keep guarding our eyes, our minds, and our steps.

Stay Blessed!

A CHANGE WITHIN

 

Oh for the sight of the clear bright sky,

Beyond the towers and skyscrapers rising high.

 

Oh for the health promised by fresh and pure foods,

That would push sickness away and lighten up all moods.

 

Oh for the knowledge imparted unalloyed,

Raising and training experts undiluted.

 

Oh for the innocence and bliss of childhood,

To enrich life and living until grey hairs pose the perfect hood.

 

Oh the unmixed emotions of human life,

That create ripples, but stay on past all strife.

 

The craving of the heart and the wisdom of the mind,

Demand all things pure and refined.

 

While a massive change in all we may not bring,

You and I can give birth to the change within.

 

FINAL WORDS – HANDS AND FEET

Let me stir up your sense of imagination with the final words for this week’s topic. Imagine a life without hands and feet. Yes, please do close your eyes and imagine looking at yourself in the mirror sans your hands and feet. What would your immediate reaction be? Shock, bewilderment, helplessness, grief, crashing dreams??

If by just visualizing our own selves without our hands and feet we feel so much despair, spare a thought about hundreds of people whose hopes are crashed because some person somewhere chose to use his / her healthy hands and feet against them! So disheartening.

Nobel Peace Prize recipient (1952) Albert Schweitzer chose to leave his homeland and travel to the dense African countries to spread the message of love by using his hands to treat the natives suffering of various sicknesses ranging from malaria, dysentery, fevers, sores to leprosy amidst fears of cannibalism.

Mother Teresa, another Nobel Peace Prize recipient responded to God’s calling and left her homeland to make India her home and spread the message of peace and love – picking up people from the streets and tending to them with comforting hands.

Florence Nightingale chose to use her hands to nurse the wounded soldiers during the Crimean War. Her exemplary dedication created a revolution in the world of nursing.

Here are people who chose to use their hands and feet to bring hope where there was despair, to bring love where there was hatred, to spread light where there was darkness. The only thing that put them at a place where they are the world’s who’s who today is that they chose right over wrong.

This calls for a self-check. Whose life have you touched with your hands and feet?

Imagining ourselves without hands and feet is so difficult. But Nick Vujicic born without hands and feet travels across the globe spreading the message of love, compassion and hope. ‘Born without limbs & without limits!’ – reads his tag line. One of the ways he reaches out to the wounded hearts is by giving them warm hugs (yes, you read it right…hugging without arms!!)

As we go along life’s journey, let’s choose to touch the lives of others with our God-gifted hands and feet. And today, if you are rendering yourself incapacitated owing to absence or loss of limbs, remember you can still make a huge difference to many around.

“PURE HANDS” – WHAT DOES IT REALLY MEAN?

My uncle always talks about keeping our hands clean before the men and the Almighty.

What that can be? What are the things that makes our hands dirty?

Let’s pause a moment and list down one by one thinking about our daily lives.

“Bribe,” receiving it or giving away… both makes our hands unclean. Even law says both are equally unlawful or wrong.

People have accepted it very easily with a terminology, “Processing Fees.” How easily we accept wrong things these days!

Why do we do that? Because we only think of our own self. We see only ourselves and rob others’ share, others’ opportunity by bribing.

Keep thinking about it as we discuss more on this topic the whole week.

Stay Blessed!!!