MEET THE PROCRASTINATION QUEEN

OMG look at the time!

I still have so much to do.. Where did the time fly.. Why does it always happen with me….

Hi all meet the procrastination queen.. Yes. That’s me. Give me a dead line and I will wait for the last possible time to meet that dead line. No I don’t do it knowingly it just happens. In my defence I would say that it was never the case that I didn’t do my work. My school / college work was always complete and I was in the good books of my teachers. But I was constantly swaying between a state of complete inactivity and burst of frantic or frenzied activity.

This was the story of my college days. I must say I have come a long way from that. Now being a homemaker and mother I am much more organised (Need to set an example for my kids  …) but still I am far from perfect. Even today, one day before the project submission at my kid’s school you can see a glimpse of the former me and my children, running around trying to complete the model or project on time.

To a certain extent I guess it happens with all of us. We tend to put off work or chores that are uninteresting and boring. But what has to be done – has to be done. So finally we end up doing it hurriedly and in a haphazard manner.

Does it really help to procrastinate? Actually no. If there is something in our to do list that we are just delaying doing, its always there in the back of our mind. A small nagging feeling that does not go away even though we try hard to ignore it. All we are doing is increasing our tension.

And then when the work is over we have that guilt feeling of not giving our best to it. And a small regret that had we done it systematically we would have done a better job. Like even today I carry the regret that had I been more serious during the last few years of my school life I would have been an engineer today like my sister. I would also have a proper career. It was never the case that I didn’t have the brains or capacity it was just that I was lazy. Didn’t want to put in extra effort. And that habit of doing the thing at the last moment was my nemesis.  I had that typical Indian ‘Chalta hai ..’attitude. Never took my studies that seriously.

So guys my learning here is that no matter how boring or uncomfortable the work assigned to you is do it when the time is there in your hands. However much we try to ignore it the work never goes away rather it keeps becoming a bigger monster every time we sneak a look at it.

I really admire the people around me who have mastered the art of time management. I am learning from them. As I understand it’s the best to tackle the most uncomfortable or difficult task first this way we won’t have any excuse to procrastinate. Make a to-do list and start ticking it off systematically. Remember the clock keeps ticking and soon very soon we would regret our decision to procrastinate.

GO ON ACHIEVING LIFE’S BEST

Learning to set smart realistic goals and working hard to accomplish them marks the character of people who aspire to taste success in everything that they do.

A life without goals, is the life of a wanderer who keeps on moving in all possible ways having no particular destination in mind. It is just like an octopus on roller skates – moving for sure, but having no sense of direction. Without set targets, life loses objectivity and meaning and becomes dull and drab.

A life replete with lofty unrealistic goals creates a ripe field for stress, anxiety and depression. Dreaming big is not wrong. But, those dreams have to be backed by setting realistic targets and striving to meet those targets. Setting unrealistic goals, renders them unattainable.

After the wonderful lessons on goal setting throughout the week, there is indeed nothing new and novel to be served on the platter. Some quick points to remember –

G – Genuine goals ensure success. If you have been consistently scoring around 65% in your exams, set a target of 75% at an initial stage and work out a plan to reach there. Don’t aim for 95% and sit with your head in your hands wondering how to score that high.

O – Optimistic approach propels the mind. Believe in your potential and hone up your skills. Push aside all thoughts that threaten to divert you from working towards your goal. Brush aside negative company and destructive criticism.

A – Analyzing the pros and cons keeps surprises away. When you set your goals, be sure to analyze the possible roadblocks and the imminent consequences. That way, you would have a fair idea of what to expect and what to not.

L – Living your goals every moment ensures that you are on track. Putting up visible reminders and having people around who would wake you up to your set targets will keep you moving ahead.

S – Start small, aim big. Accomplishing a series of small goals leads to attaining the ultimate bigger goal. A hungry stomach doesn’t become full by putting the entire plate of food into the mouth. Small bite-size pieces, chewed and swallowed overtime make the stomach full. So, start by setting short-term goals.

Life’s best is at your doorstep. The way you set your goals and focus on attaining them would define and refine the purpose of your life!

WHY DON’T MOST PEOPLE SET GOALS?

There are many reasons why don’t people set goals. Some of them are mentioned as under:

1. PESSIMISTIC ATTITUDE: Some people often have a pessimistic view towards life. They only look at the negative side of everything rather than the positive ones.

2. FEAR OF FAILURE: Before trying to attempt something, some people often give up thinking, “What if I don’t make it?” People feel subconsciously that if they don’t set goals, they can’t fail. But they are failures nevertheless… for, having no goals is the sign of failure.

3. FEAR OF SUCCESS: Low self image or fear of having to live up to their success causes some people to fear even their success.

4. LACK OF AMBITION: Our limited thinking prevents our own progress. There was a fisherman who while fishing used to throw the big fishes back to the river and keep the small fishes for himself always. A man watching this unusual scene asked the fisherman why he was doing so? The fisherman replied, “because I have a small frying pan.” Most people never make it in life because they are carrying a small frying pan i.e limited thinking.

5. FEAR OF REJECTION:  Some people are worried of what other people will think if they are not able to make it. They are scared of being rejected and criticized by their family, friends, relatives, neighbours, etc.

6. PROCRASTINATION:  We all procrastinate at some point of time in our life. But procrastination only leads to build negative attitude and leaves us in a regretful state of mind. Some people practise procrastination by hiding behind high sounding words saying, “I’m analyzing”. And six months later they are still analyzing. What they don’t realize is that they are suffering from a disease called “Paralysis by Analysis” and they will never succeed. There is still another breed of people who procrastinate by saying “I’m getting ready”. A month later they are still getting ready and six months later they are still getting ready. They are suffering from a disease called “Excusitis”.

7. IGNORANCE OF GOAL SETTING: Some people have no one to encourage them to set a goal. They think they can be successful in their life without even setting a goal. But they ultimately end up in failure and start blaming their fate.

Are you thinking the same way and not setting your goals ahead?

Arpita Dutta