We had a very good week on the topic: “Selfie & Psyche“, click and check all the articles if you haven’t read them yet. But all the writers warned about the dangers involved in taking selfies with a mindless psyche. As human we have been given the best brains than all the living beings in this whole universe and thus it is necessary for us as human to be wise while capturing our selfies.

I found this video which describes few shocking incidents about selfie. Hope this will scare you enough to keep yourself safe and sound while capturing your fun picture.

Capture Safe Selfie, Stay Safe!



* 8 year-old-kid accidentally shoots himself while taking a selfie with a gun in Ghaziabad.

* A Chinese businessman tried taking a selfie with a walrus but was dragged into the pool and drowned to death by the massive- toothed creature.

* Two Russian soldiers were posing for a selfie with a live grenade that detonated unexpectedly. Only the phone with the photo survived.

* A 66-year-old Japanese tourist lost his balance and fell backwards to his death down the steps of the Taj Mahal while taking a selfie at the Royal Gate.

*Taking a selfie with friends atop a train turned lethal for a class 10th student who came in contact with an overhead electric wire and was thrown off the train.

We have come across many such ghastly cases where taking a selfie went wrong and where the fun turned fatal.

Selfie is the latest fad which has made the masses crazy selfies indeed have proved a boon for us, especially for those who love getting clicked.

No doubt clicking photos have become a cinch. We don’t need to depend on anyone anymore for photos.

Not only that selfies, can be a great stress buster. Yes! Studies have shown that clicking selfie photos have a positive effect, making people feel connected, elevate confidence, thus helping to reduce stress.

In the words of Billy Cox, “Technology should improve your life, not become your life”.

Similarly selfies should be taken safely. You are not going to win an award for clicking a selfie in the zoo, are on top of a cliff, or at the seashore. Use technology wisely. It’s good to smile at the phone, but it’s more important to be cautious while you do that.

Stay happy, stay alert!

Happy Selfie’ing’!





I turned my face this way, that way, pout faces, everything I tried, the more I clicked the worst I looked. When someone noticed me, I never took a selfie, it was an odd form I felt. I did not want to be put up in the list of selfie madness.But yes, there I was falling into the trap of “selfie obsession”.

Do I term it as a “self-obsession”?

No, It is not the self obsession, its like self- realization for me. I am not someone who is fond of mirrors or anything that showcases the outer beauty, but of late, the front cameras started to grab my attention. I started taking my photos, to see how I react to the cameras, how do I capture my moments, special moments that I want to cherish. Even though it was the camera click, I looked into the eye of the camera, focus my attention, trying to involve myself in the picture, and as I clicked, the picture was not only on the screen but also in my memory. Every special moment with my child, I wanted in my heart, selfie was indeed helping me to create a collage of memories.

The way I played with the different shades of colors, fillers, beautification etc. was almost thrilling me. I loved the black and white shade, the  reflection of me in it. Indeed like many others, I tried different styles, but Never it worked on me. Until unless the picture speaks of me, I never uploaded them in my social media profiles.

It might be an obsession for others, a weird madness as I term it.I still pursue it, to get rid of my camera shyness. I was from the very beginning a camera shy, always the one who spoils the group picture, hence this selfie madness revived the thought in me “I am also beautiful”, helping me to stand upright and smile in my photos. I am shy to take selfies in front of other scared of being categorized as one among those mad collections.

Yet all these thoughts vanished .. as I went on clicking my own memories.

Selfies are total madness….Memories of Madness as I would love to call it.



I always carry my 📷 for trips, in some groups, they call me the ‘official photographer‘, the downside to it is, I capture pictures of everyone, but I won’t be there in any of those. There are some people who gracefully say, “let me take a picture of you”,that is when the problems start, first – I am camera shy, second – since they are operating my camera most of the time I am giving instructions on how to take a picture, third – consciously I am waiting for the sound of the click to unfreeze myself, the result is a not so good picture. 

Let me share with you the funny moment I often experience. Subject, exposure, positioning of the subject in the scene are very important for a good picture. I know that others may not have an idea to balance these, so I usually make them stand in the scene, do the settings, take a picture and show it to them, so that they can do the same, all they have to do is hold the camera and click !! When I am the subject 90% of people are no where close to how their picture was, sometimes it brings a smile on to my face, anyway, I finally end up with no picture of mine with that surroundings. 

I don’t know who got this wonderful idea of adding a camera to the front of a mobile phone, thanks to him/her. It’s very handy because it’s not bulky, just by holding in one hand, at the press of a button I have my picture. As someone rightly said, a photographer should know how to take a selfie if their picture has to be taken!! 

Most of my problems are solved with the advent of selfie. I don’t have to request another person to take a picture. I can position myself aptly for the scene, I can see what I am capturing, if I don’t like it, I can click many times till I do. Since I am the one taking the picture, I don’t feel shy anymore. Of course, a selfie looks different than a picture captured by someone else, but for me, it totally works…

When I am with group of friends or family, capturing a groupie(ussie), makes me satisfied in two ways, I am the photographer and I get to be in the frame too !! 

Couple of years ago, I had an accident in the kitchen while I was on business trip in the US. I took some selfies on my friend’s request, may be he was worried, I had burns all over my face and hands. It made me feel so better that someone is caring for me from other side of the world, I tried to portray myself strong in the pictures so that I don’t scare him of, it boosted my confidence. 

Few months later I did skydiving when my face still had dark scars from the burns, all the selfies captured on go-pro show the marks of the accident I had. It took more than an year for me to completely recover, but those selfies, ah, even today they do remind me of the accident scene, the pain, the struggle and a fighter in me. Thanks to my friend, if not for him, I wouldn’t have captured any pictures or had a chance to reflect on them later. Nevertheless, it was possible because of selfies. A selfie taken at hospital while I was on my way for medical procedure made me relax, imagine, how do we ask someone else to take a picture while we’re on the hospital bed 😋

I won’t say I am obsessed with selfies, my selfies are only for those whom I am very very close to. I won’t mind taking it any time of the day, even when I look half dead. Sometimes, I do ask people to share their selfie, and when they do, it’s a feeling of being together. I can feel that connection with a person thousands of miles away. It is as if the person is with me looking into my eyes. I wish they weren’t that far, but selfie makes me forget that distance at least for a few moments. 

Last but not least, I came across a video on WhatsApp, where a man expresses that selfie is for those people who are alone, don’t have another person who can take a picture. I differ, selfies are for those who are happy and content with themselves, who can love themselves and express themselves. Selfie has a lot of positives when we put it to good use !!

By the way, my gravatar display picture of WordPress is a selfie !!!! 


“I need an inspiration right away… Please send me a one liner of your own to inspire me…” I gave a task to my co-authors in the group and few others two days ago and they sent me following the lines:

“What have you done so far.”

“At least I have these people in my life!”

“Even in tough times hold my hand in yours and heart in mine.”

“Lofty are the mountains, loftier still are my dreams.”

“Every morning when you wake up, among the million things that pull u back, look for the one thing or thought that takes you towards your goal.”

“Be the best in your own eyes, rest of the world will not matter.”

“You are not ‘Everyone’, you are WHAT you Are.”

“Either you run the day, or the day runs you.”

“Let your smile change the world but don’t let the world change your smile.”

“The world has many contagious thing, smile and success is one of the many.”

“Speaking the truth in love…”

“We may not be perfect but we are certainly not useless… We are God’s most wonderful creation designed in His image.”

“Know your worst fears, know your worst enemies, know your darkest secrets and then confront them all; that’s how you build on your worth and your strength.”

Now you may ask why I performed this exercise and why am I mentioning them in an article on a completely different subject…

All of the above statements were either written by themselves or taken from someone else… But all the statements reflect their feelings, their expressions and represent their psyche in connection with me or about themselves or about the situation they are going through. These are all Invisible Selfies of themselves.

I really want to appreciate all of them for sending me such beautiful inspirations. 🙂 And the above one is a ‘Video Selfie’ for expressing my gratitude.

A ‘Selfie’ always declares a person’s present state of appearance. How does a person look at one particular time? A Selfie gives the answer.

I love to take selfies… Why? Not because I am self-obsessed or NOT to post it on FB showing how handsome I look or how beautiful or expensive my clothes are… but to send them to my loved ones to let them know my present ‘state of appearance’ making them feel about the distant and real me. And I do expect them to send their selfies too to know their present state of appearance.

In my group there are many who are quick to send their selfies including me but some are extremely pushy or rocky or unshakeable. If you ask a selfie from them they behave in such a way as if I have asked their eyes or nose etc. 😉

I have one friend. She simply sent her morning selfie when I was in the hospital. And that gesture really touched me.


Usually females don’t like to send their selfies early in the morning when they look shabby and without make up. They always like to look good and presentable before capturing themselves. They are very cautious and conscious. But she wasn’t. She wasn’t formal. She just wanted her real-present-state of appearance to be reflected to a close friend like me. I thanked her for that informality.

Now let’s talk about the spouses who are far from each other… Don’t you think it’s so beautiful to send selfies to each other letting each other know how they look at that particular time…? A selfie from each other when they are missing each other so desperately makes them feel loved and brings a delightful glee on their faces. Lovely, isn’t it?

Sometimes when I send a selfie to Aastha… she would immediately react like a sister saying, “Dada, you look tired… Take rest”, “Dada, that shirt doesn’t suit you”, “Dada, ask Bhabi to smile” and so on… I do the same when she or someone else sends me a selfie too.

My psyche behind a selfie is expressing myself to my loved ones… And it’s not that bad at all if handled well; in moderation and with wisdom. There will be many more views to ‘Selfie’ which we will be reading in the subsequent days of the week.

So friends! Keep capturing and sending selfies, keep expressing… But be CAREFUL!

Stay Blessed!!!


It was the summer of year 2007 and I was somewhere around Times Square, New York. It was an official trip and we were a group of 5-6 people working together in Boston. So, we took a weekend trip to New York and I totally fell in love with that city.

Around 12:30 in the night we were roaming around Times Square and it was as alive as it was 6 in the evening. We were 2 girls and 2 boys and we were in no mood to go back to the hotel.

We girls got really excited when we saw an amazing white limousine parked outside a hotel and all we wanted to do was to pose and take pictures with it. So, we took out our cameras and posed in every possible way. Remember year 2007 – front camera phones weren’t that common and concept of selfie wasn’t born.

We spent 15 minutes only taking pictures while the 2 guys with us were standing in one corner laughing at us. By this time, we had learned to ignore them, they would find everything that we did silly – our shopping, our photo-shoots, our girlish talks.

We were almost done and ready to go when a guy on a bike came over to us and said “one of you can come with me” and he gave a weird look that kind of made really uncomfortable. I immediately snapped “Why?” and then we just ran away from there without a clue about what just happened. The guys were still laughing but now even harder.

When we were finally away from that spot, we understood what really happened there. We were in a high standard red light area of New York and that explained all the pretty ladies dressed up nicely walking around there (they were really nicely dressed, at least we girls could never make out their profession by their appearance). The call girls usually travel in limousines and when we were posing in front of a limousine it gave an impression that we were one of them. Later on the guys told us that there were so many men who were staring at us and that was the reason these guys were laughing at our stupidity.  Finally when a guy really approached us, we kind of freaked out and ran away from there but we still didn’t understand what he meant.

This story became really popular in office at the expense of our embarrassment. Everybody had a good laugh at us. And I know that I could have never recognized a red light area because I had never been in one. But I made a swear to myself that I will always be more alert of my surroundings even when I am in a complete fun mood and that would also mean that I would keep myself safe no matter how adventurous I feel.