DO ALL TRANSITIONS END UP IN A POSITIVE NOTE?

We had a great week discussing on crossing the transition periods and coming out victorious.

But when I was thinking what to write on my ‘Final Note,’ I was unable to come to the conclusion that all the transitions has a good or positive out come in our lives. 

When I look back in my life I find few incidents that will clarify what I am talking about…

In 2001 I was admitted in Manipal Heart Foundation, Bangalore for my second surgery. There’s one 19 years old guy with me in my ward for surgery too. Both went through the difficult transition of heart surgery. I came out alive. He couldn’t.

In 2010-11, both my cousins met severe road accidents. Both were very painful and difficult transitions for all of us in the family. My cousin sister survived but my cousin brother didn’t.

We pray for many people who are suffering with terminal diseases. Some survive and some don’t.  

I struggle with the thought why there’s a disparity? Why there’re different situations? Why God listens to one and doesn’t for the other? Why there’s no dawn after some dark nights? All these questions really made me sad till I remembered these words of wisdom as under:

“There is a time for everything,
    and a season for every activity under the heavens:

     a time to be born and a time to die,
    a time to plant and a time to uproot,
     a time to kill and a time to heal,
    a time to tear down and a time to build,
     a time to weep and a time to laugh,
    a time to mourn and a time to dance,
     a time to scatter stones and a time to gather them,
    a time to embrace and a time to refrain from embracing,
     a time to search and a time to give up,
    a time to keep and a time to throw away,
     a time to tear and a time to mend,
    a time to be silent and a time to speak,
     a time to love and a time to hate,
    a time for war and a time for peace.

 What do workers gain from their toil?  I have seen the burden God has laid on the human race.  He has made everything beautiful in its time. He has also set eternity in the human heart; yet no one can fathom what God has done from beginning to end.  I know that there is nothing better for people than to be happy and to do good while they live.”

My uncle says we humans are spiritual beings… we are spirits and spirits live for eternity. So being eternal our ends are impossible whether we land up in heaven or hell.

Why did I say about this suddenly here? I said it because I wanted to stress on the fact  that we have purpose after this earth also. There’s always a purpose behind something that happens in our life. Even death is a transition after crossing it there’s life as we are ever living beings. I know we are really unable to understand certain things at certain point of time, because no one can fathom what God has done from beginning to end.” But I remember what Khristina said yesterday, Don’t be distracted – submit to God’s plan for you when things are not going on your way… when you think you are going through a phase… when you are thinking its just a transition period for you…

Change is inevitable. But it is important how we react to it.

Friends, are you going through difficult times? Are you going through a mind boggling change in your life? Take heart, submit everything in God’s hand. It’s just a passing transition…

Stay Blessed!!!

BETWEEN RELATIONSHIPS: A TIME OF TRANSITION OR DISTRACTION?

Anyone who has ever been in a broken relationship knows how important it is to “heal” before you can even attempt to think of someone else.

During this time, one can literally go through the seven stages of grief. Do you know what those are? It starts with shock or disbelief, then denial, then bargaining, guilt, anger, depression, and finally acceptance/hope. Unless one goes through most of these phases, it is difficult to move on.

I went through the same process many years ago, when I was heartbroken after a nasty break-up. I started off with disbelief, after which, for the longest time, I was in a state of continued denial (something that I laugh at myself for today!). 

During my state of denial – I realized something – I was bombarded with a bunch of guys who were seemingly great. And more than once, I was swayed. But this time, I prayed a prayer that I am proud that I did! I asked the Lord to help me – to take charge – after all, HE is the one who decides who my life-partner would be. So why was I running around trying to find my Mr Right? I just left it to Him, and to my to-be, to find me!

Of course, my Mr Right didn’t magically appear in front of me after I said that prayer. I had to wait another year and half; I went through all of my stages of grief – and even passed by some more “distractions”. But thankfully, my mind was clear.

A year and half later, my husband entered my life, and as they say, the rest of history.

So, if you have suffered a heartbreak, my earnest request for you is to take it slow – this is a time of transition, but also a time of distraction. Don’t be distracted – submit to God’s plan for you.

I had only one regret – I wish I had prayed that prayer earlier.

CHANGE IS FOR BETTER

“Change is the only constant in life”

We have heard this numerous time but with change comes a period of transition. We hate this period of transition because it brings us out of the comfort level that we enjoy. Change is always meant to be better but if the transition is not taken through well, the consequences of the change might be adverse. So, how we go about the transition is as important as the decision of the change itself.

We encounter many changes in life – some are small and others are big. Small ones include changing our daily schedules, changing our homes, cities etc. And there are big changes which include getting promoted, changing your career, role in career, your organization, or getting married, being a parent are all examples of big changes in life.

Before you start your transition journey, ask yourself the following:

  • Do you agree with the decision of change?
  • Do you understand the need for change?
  • Do you have a plan to transition through the change?
  • Do you agree with the plan?

Whether you are changing your daily schedule or getting married – the change is brought about because it is needed. Do you feel the need to change your schedule or get married and do you agree with the decision? It is important that you answer these questions for yourself – it will make the “Why” part of the transition very clear to you.

Secondly, do you have a plan to change your home or get used to the new role in your career? Have you considered taking help from others? In short, are you ready to take the plunge? This part deals with the “How” part of transition.  If you are ready then protect yourself and jump into the transition. Slowly and gradually, you will see the change working for you.

LESSON FROM THE BIRTH OF A PEARL

A process or the transition period is best understood when we study how a pearl is created in an Oyster. God’s creation is so beautiful and when we study each one of them we learn new lessons from them.

Other precious stones or metals are cut, shaped and polished to look precious and good but the pearls are different and they don’t need any such treatment. Pearls are beautiful naturally.

A pearl begins its life when an alien object, like a parasite or a piece of shell accidentally sticks itself in an oyster’s soft inner body. That is a kind of irritant and to ease this irritant, the oyster’s body secretes a smooth, hard crystalline substance around the irritant in order to protect itself. The oyster will continue to secrete as long as the irritant remains within its body and creates layer upon layer.

Over a period of time, the irritant will be completely sheathed with the silky crystalline coatings. The result of which is a lustrous and beautiful pearl.

The irritant is definitely a pain to the Oyster and when the defense mechanism of its body reacts to the pain, it creates a beautiful little thing. This happens after that period of transition. 

More interestingly, there are two ways to know the difference between a fake and real pearl.

Firstly, if we rub the real pearls together a small spec of the pearls will come off and it would end up having scratches. But when we rub over the scratch area of the pearl the scratch marks would go, and the pearls would be as if nothing happened.

Secondly, real pearls are fire resistant; they will never melt – to put it that way. But the burn marks disappear just like that when we rub over it.

A thorough process or a difficult transition period makes a pearl BEAUTIFUL, FIRE RESISTANT & STRONG. jewellery-509342_1920

Friends, do not be disheartened when you go through pain and suffering. Stay cool and endure the hardship to come out BEAUTIFUL, FIRE RESISTANT & STRONG after the transition.

Stay Blessed!