WHAT IS REST FOR YOU?

I have too many To-do lists for different times of the day and different activities. So, what are all types of “To Do” lists that I have on my phone (using various different apps) . . .

There is a To do list of household chores for each day. This is an obvious one – I think all women have it if not on the phone then in their heads – List of household never-ending chores.

There is another one for office work. Of course that is needed to keep things in structure at work.

There is yet another important one that contains the list of things I have to do on my commute to and from work. It takes me about 1.5 hours to reach work and that is an important time that can be used quite well. This list contains items like ordering online gifts or groceries, writing articles for Candles, sleeping, watching movies, checking emails and replying to some, talking/chatting on phone with few people, read news etc.

These 3 hours in bus are totally a “Me-time” for me. This is the only time I get to do things that matter to me. Of course, it is not very convenient to do all this in a bus – but if you know Bangalore traffic, you would know that this traffic really crawls. So rash driving is not really a problem.

Relaxation doesn’t always mean vacations. It could be a small time out as well. Something that you just do because you like it. Doing things that you are passionate about can be very relaxing.

There are days when I am so stressed out mentally that I have no energy to think anymore. However, my physical energy is too high, it is so high that I am not tired physically to sleep but mentally I just want to rest. This is what is called a restless sleep. At this time, all that is needed is to match the energy levels of your physical and mental self. In this situation – I hit the gym. And that is rest for me. Because my physical body works out and my mind gets to rest just listening to music. It is a huge stress buster for me after a bad day at work. Once I come back from gym – I am all ready to sleep peacefully.

Definition of rest is different for different people. But it is important to know what is rest for you. If you do not know – life can be extremely difficult.

My 2 year old son is not mature enough to understand that he is sleepy when he really is sleepy. He is so interested in playing that he resists sleep till he has even an ounce of energy left. But playing in a sleepy state is also not enjoyable for him. He is cranky, doesn’t like his toys, cries every now and then, starts hitting others – all this because he simply doesn’t realize that all he needs to do is to close his eyes and rest.

This happens to adults also when they don’t realize that if they take a restful break – life will be much better. Make sure you identify what is relaxing for you and you fill the voids in your day with that activity. It doesn’t matter if it is sleeping, watching TV, listening to music, going for a walk etc. Don’t judge yourself about what you do during this time. Just be yourself and take enough rest and relaxation so that you return to your life feeling more motivated and productive.

HOW CANDLES ONLINE BECAME MY PASSION?

The first inspiration behind starting my blog is my own life. I had known pain & suffering closely. I was deprived of happiness from the childhood because of my health conditions. It is quite evident that my physical health condition affected my mental health too making my life miserable.

There was a constant feeling of worthlessness which made me fearful, pessimist, irritable, sad, and lonely. That again led me to weird habits and obsessions. I developed a habit of day dreaming and fantasizing things which could have never happened in my life.

A day came when one of my closest friends committed suicide making me think that I should be taking care of others than just dying with self-pity. But I was unable to do anything at that point of time because of my age and scope to initiate.

In 2001 I had to go through my second heart surgery. My eyes opened clearly in the hospital when I saw many young and old patients were in more critical and devastating conditions than mine.

The second inspiration was my Creator, my God. God used the feeling of worthlessness in acknowledging that I am still in much better condition than many others in this world. He made me think that I should help others to live a life victoriously overcoming all kinds of barriers or obstacles that come in the way.

The change of perspective became my passion to observe people and reach them with helpful advises and inspiring pieces through my write ups. I had found a new way to reach out to people through blogs. But aimless blogging took shape of a purposeful printed booklet called Candles. Candles was born in 2005 and was came to lime light in 2006 January. Though it stopped half way in the beginning of 2014 it was rekindled last July 11, 2015 as a webzine and it had never stopped showing its light since then.

This is how Candles Online became my life’s purpose and passion. Once I started following my passion I never looked back.

Keep reading and keep visiting to find more on Candles Online

Stay Blessed!!!

 

LIVE YOUR PASSION

The word “Passion” in dictionary is defined as “An excitement or uncontrollable desire”. I would say “Passion” is “to LIVE life”. To live passionately is the only justice that we can do to this life. Millions and millions of people spend their entire lives doing the daily routines and chores and they are just surviving not really living. Survival is very difficult, finding out our passion and living the life fully and completely is very simple. It is effortless and enjoyable. There are lesser heartbreaks and health problems and much more prosperity and happiness. The question really is – Why do people just survive?

There are multiple reasons for that.

Children today are brought up with loads of parental and societal expectation. This is particularly true in eastern countries where there is a huge population which is educated and trained to run in the rat race of life. So very less importance is paid to the fact that child is good in arts or sports, and child is pushed again and again to be a part of the rat race.

Parents themselves do not live a passionate life. They are busy 24/7, doing stuff that they are supposed to. They get stuck in the cycle of earning – spending. There are more EMI’s/mortgages to pay off and there is no way to get away from what they are supposed to do. With this kind of lifestyle, there is more and more stress, health issues and relationship problems. In this kind of scenario, the child subconsciously understands as this the only way to live and s/he doesn’t explore the opportunities of living life passionately.

So what do we do about it?

The only way is to get rid of this chain right now. This does not mean that you give up your current job and lifestyle, but it means that start paying more and more attention to your passions. Every person has one or the other passion, but for so many of us it is hidden so deep down inside us that we simply cannot resonate with it anymore.

The very first obstacle to figure out your passion. There is passion test to do this. It is not very tough but you might have to do it multiple times to get to your real passion.

Sit at a place where you won’t be disturbed. Take a paper and a pen. Meditate for a few minutes to get rid of all the pressing issues. Keep your mind completely off any kind of stress. Close your eyes and remember some incidents of your childhood or anytime of your life when you felt that you could do anything and be anyone. Remember the time when there were no restrictions and you got all that you ever wanted. Be in that state for a while. Try to experience that feeling again. Be in that state for a few minutes. Now open your eyes and start the exercise.

Make a table with 4 columns – Priority No., Passion, Score and Vision.

Start listing down something that you really wanted to be in present tense in the passion column. Do not think about how it is going to happen, get rid of all the negative thoughts. Just focus on what is it you really want. For example – If you really wanted to be a singer, write “I am a world famous singer.”

After you are done with writing the first passion, keep thinking and list down 9 more passions. Do the same exercise with each one of them.

Now you have 10 most important passions of your life. On the priority no. column of each one of them, write down a priority number, giving the “1” to the passion that inspires you the most and 10 to the passion that inspires you the least in that list.

So you have your passions right in front of you. The next step is to put the number against each one which states how much of your passion are you living currently. Give “1” to the passion that you feel you are currently living the least and give “10” to the passion that you feel you are currently living the most. This would be the score of that passion.

The next step is to write a vision about this passion. Just imagine that you are currently living that passion of yours. How your life would be? Add specifics to it like how do you feel being in that state? What is your lifestyle like? What kind of people do you meet? What kind of work do you do? Who do you live with? Add as much detail as you can. Close your eyes and imagine all this happening. Write your feelings in a sentence or two.

This gives you the vision on that passion. Be as specific as you can be. Write that vision down.

The following table gives three items from my passion table just for illustration.

Priority No.

Passion

Score

Vision

2

I am a writer. I have written a best selling book on transformation, spirituality and embracing change.

0

My picture as a author on the paper back of a book. Imagine that book on crosswords, flipkart, landmark, odyssey and all other famous book stores. I am also giving the preview of my book in these outlets.

3

I am a certified NLP Practitioner and I organize workshops to help people become aware of them and enjoy life to their complete potential and live a fulfilled life.

0

Imagine yourself facilitating workshops for around 20 people. Counselling people one on one.

 1

I and my family are in perfect health.

4

We are all healthy, strong and fit. There are 0 health issues, no more than 2-3 hospital visits in a year. All of us get our medical checkup done every year. And there are no long term issues.

This exercise will make you aware of what is it that will really excite you to the core. Scores will tell you how much of it are you living today. And the vision will inspire you to take steps in living that life. What steps to take to make that vision come true will also come while you do this exercise. Most of your question of “How will this happen” will get answered automatically. And the rest you will figure out because that vision will really inspire you. Try this for yourself. It doesn’t take a lot of time and you will benefit a lot from it. Do it every 6 months or so, because sometimes you might feel that you really want to do something but once you get into it, it doesn’t call you any longer. It is good to keep a check on your passions every few months and to revisit the scores to see how well you are living it currently. All the very best!

 

Author’s Bio: Prabhjot Kaur Saini, is a Software Engineer and is      currently working in Bangalore. She is an engineer by profession and  also  a  thinker  and  writer  with a philosophical heart. She can be contacted at: ‘prabhjot.varsha@gmail.com.’ Read her Other Articles on this site.