HOW CANDLES ONLINE BECAME MY PASSION?

The first inspiration behind starting my blog is my own life. I had known pain & suffering closely. I was deprived of happiness from the childhood because of my health conditions. It is quite evident that my physical health condition affected my mental health too making my life miserable.

There was a constant feeling of worthlessness which made me fearful, pessimist, irritable, sad, and lonely. That again led me to weird habits and obsessions. I developed a habit of day dreaming and fantasizing things which could have never happened in my life.

A day came when one of my closest friends committed suicide making me think that I should be taking care of others than just dying with self-pity. But I was unable to do anything at that point of time because of my age and scope to initiate.

In 2001 I had to go through my second heart surgery. My eyes opened clearly in the hospital when I saw many young and old patients were in more critical and devastating conditions than mine.

The second inspiration was my Creator, my God. God used the feeling of worthlessness in acknowledging that I am still in much better condition than many others in this world. He made me think that I should help others to live a life victoriously overcoming all kinds of barriers or obstacles that come in the way.

The change of perspective became my passion to observe people and reach them with helpful advises and inspiring pieces through my write ups. I had found a new way to reach out to people through blogs. But aimless blogging took shape of a purposeful printed booklet called Candles. Candles was born in 2005 and was came to lime light in 2006 January. Though it stopped half way in the beginning of 2014 it was rekindled last July 11, 2015 as a webzine and it had never stopped showing its light since then.

This is how Candles Online became my life’s purpose and passion. Once I started following my passion I never looked back.

Keep reading and keep visiting to find more on Candles Online

Stay Blessed!!!

 

HOW MY HEART RUNS AFTER THEM!

When somebody asks me about my hobbies and passions I feel great to share about my hobbies and my passions. The simple reason behind it is, I love what I do and I know that they give me immense pleasure. I love to show case my activities and what I do for others to know.

Anyway, so without wasting any time let me share my hobbies and passions with you all, which are as under:

  1. I love interacting with different people and share views being a super extrovert in nature. Somehow I love crowd. I get attracted to the crowds. I don’t run away from them at all. I love mixing with people and talking to them.
  2. Then comes my writing. I have that passion to write and let people know what I know and believe. I love to help and motivate others through my writings.  I do not like to write articles which don’t convince me personally.
  3. Apart from this I love to cook, paint, compose music, photography, and write lyrics etc., which are not regular but I love to do them for a change.

The above things really give me so much pleasure, and my mind always stay cool and calm and diverted from all my worries, pains, and sufferings. They are my stress busters.

But one thing I must confess that my heart’s desire and for which I always keep myself ready is to listen to the problems of a needy, wounded, broken person; my heart always long to help them by listening and counseling them. I always look for opportunity that how can I reach them just to listen their cries. My heart cries when I see them. And if anybody is reading this article today, I want to declare that I am always available for them to listen as a friend. That’s my most loved passion…

What about yours? What is your passion? Comment and share under this article…

Stay blessed!

GO ON ACHIEVING LIFE’S BEST

Learning to set smart realistic goals and working hard to accomplish them marks the character of people who aspire to taste success in everything that they do.

A life without goals, is the life of a wanderer who keeps on moving in all possible ways having no particular destination in mind. It is just like an octopus on roller skates – moving for sure, but having no sense of direction. Without set targets, life loses objectivity and meaning and becomes dull and drab.

A life replete with lofty unrealistic goals creates a ripe field for stress, anxiety and depression. Dreaming big is not wrong. But, those dreams have to be backed by setting realistic targets and striving to meet those targets. Setting unrealistic goals, renders them unattainable.

After the wonderful lessons on goal setting throughout the week, there is indeed nothing new and novel to be served on the platter. Some quick points to remember –

G – Genuine goals ensure success. If you have been consistently scoring around 65% in your exams, set a target of 75% at an initial stage and work out a plan to reach there. Don’t aim for 95% and sit with your head in your hands wondering how to score that high.

O – Optimistic approach propels the mind. Believe in your potential and hone up your skills. Push aside all thoughts that threaten to divert you from working towards your goal. Brush aside negative company and destructive criticism.

A – Analyzing the pros and cons keeps surprises away. When you set your goals, be sure to analyze the possible roadblocks and the imminent consequences. That way, you would have a fair idea of what to expect and what to not.

L – Living your goals every moment ensures that you are on track. Putting up visible reminders and having people around who would wake you up to your set targets will keep you moving ahead.

S – Start small, aim big. Accomplishing a series of small goals leads to attaining the ultimate bigger goal. A hungry stomach doesn’t become full by putting the entire plate of food into the mouth. Small bite-size pieces, chewed and swallowed overtime make the stomach full. So, start by setting short-term goals.

Life’s best is at your doorstep. The way you set your goals and focus on attaining them would define and refine the purpose of your life!

“SMART” GOALS FOR PERSONAL LIFE

If at all you want to set goals – set SMART goals. SMART stands for

S – Specific
M – Measurable
A – Achievable
R- Result oriented
T – Time bound

Most of us have heard of SMART goals at our workplace, but how many of us really apply it in our personal lives as well. Personal goals are as important and should go through a proper planning and direction. What are some examples of SMART goals

  • Financial goal – Save upto Rs. 1 lakh by end of July
  • Pleasure goal – Go for an international vacation by end of December
  • Health goal – Eat junk food not more than twice in a month
  • Health goal – Reduce at least 2 kgs by end of January
  • Hobby goals – Read at least 2 novels by end of March
  • Hobby goals – Paint at least 1 canvas painting by end of June

It also helps a lot if you make time to note your progress on each goal. Say if your goal is to save Rs. 1 lakh in next 4 months, you should have clear plan of how much will you save each month/week. How exactly will you save? Where will you cut your expenditure? Which bank account will you keep your saved money?  Making a clear and concise plan of achieving your goal makes it achievable.

So, there are many such personal things that you can have goals for. Having clear goals gives us a very clear direction and more importantly it gives us a huge sense of achievement if we are successful. If we are not successful then it gives us a better analysis of why we failed and hence a better learning.

I personally try to have a lot of hobby related goals because hobbies are the things that get ignored a lot in interest of work and family. But I realize that it is very important for me to have a good “me time”. Having hobby goals also makes every day very interesting. I don’t have to think what to do with my free time, I just have to look at my goals and set my priorities right – even the free time is my travel time or few minutes before I sleep.

Having SMART personal goals enhances personal life tremendously. It makes you way more organized and arranged. It can give you amazing fruitful results in the long run.

 

7 LITTLE KNOWN GOAL SETTING TRICKS

Lesson 1: The most important rule of writing your goals down is that you must follow if you want to achieve success.


Most of us already know that it is vitally important to write your goals down.The simple mechanical act of writing makes your goal visible and tangible.That’s no longer just a thought! Now it’s a commitment. But there is one rule you must follow to succeed that very few know.

It’s not enough to write your goal down…

… You have to describe it in complete detail!

Make it as specific as possible.

Compare: “I want to buy a new home” and “I want to live in a new two story gorgeous Victorian style home with 4 spacious bedrooms, luxurious living room with a fireplace and hardwood floors. I will enjoy my large backyard with swimming pool and patio…”

 “I want to make a lot of money” is not the goal. It’s just a wish.

“I want to make $10.000 monthly with my business by July 1st.” Now that’s the goal.

fountain-pen-1053697_1920After writing your goal down in complete details don’t forget to make it visible! You can write it on a yellow note and stick it on your computer. Or even better-print it so it would fit 4×6 picture frame, then frame it and put it on your desktop. You can also print it on your business card and put it in your wallet. Try to surround yourself with little reminders. This will help you to stay focused on your goal and create a clear mental image of what you want.

Lesson 2: The one question you must answer before you take action.

There is one question you must answer before you start achieving your goal. Failure to answer that question will result in lack of motivation and failure to follow the plan. Take a piece of paper and answer this question in writing:

WHY do you want to achieve your goal?question-mark-1026527_1920

No, not just because “I want”. There are reasons behind your dreams, usually dozens of them. And if you realize why you want to reach your goal, you’ll be most likely to follow your plan till the end.

For example, why would you want to lose 15 pounds in 2 months?

  •  To look good
  •  To feel good about yourself
  •  To fit in your favorite dress
  •  To impress your spouse

List every single reason. Try to imagine all the benefits. The truth is that the longer the list, the stronger your motivation will be. Read your reasons first thing in the morning. Even better, frame them and hang them on the wall. It will keep you focused and motivated.

Lesson 3: How to trick yourself to finally get started working on your goals and stay on track until the goal is accomplished.

I’ve heard this hundreds of times.

“Think Big!”

“Dream Big Dreams!”

“Make Your Goal As Big As You Can Imagine!”

run-1013729_1920So, okay… I’ve written down my BIG, almost out-of-reach goal. After all, I don’t want to underestimate myself. I know I can do this but…But often after a full day at work I’m just so exhausted…to start working on my big goal. I don’t have enough energy for BIG goals. So I make a dinner, watch TV, do the homework and think “I’ll do it tomorrow.”

But tomorrow never comes.

Every evening I’m too tired to work on my goal. Day after day I’m feeling more and guiltier. As weeks pass by I’m getting more depressed….Have you ever been in this situation? If yes, there’s a small trick that will help you to get started no matter how big your goal is. Every night write down a small task for the next day. Make it as tiny as you can. Something that would take 10-15 minutes. Let’s say your goal is to lose weight and you decided to work out every day for 30 minutes. You could write down your assignment: “Do one exercise for lower abs 10 times.”

Yes, just one exercise, just 10 times. It would take you about 3 minutes. The secret is that the most difficult thing is to get started. Once you got started you’ll 95% most likely finish the whole 30 minutes work out! Even if you just do one exercise for 10 times, it is better that nothing. You wouldn’t feel guilty and depressed  you’ve fulfilled your assignment! And if you do more you’ll feel even better! The trick is to give yourself a really small task: To make a phone call, or to read one page of a textbook. And once you get started you will actually find out that you won’t mind doing more than you planned!

Remember, set big goals, but make your tasks small.

Lesson 4: One simple yet powerful technique that drives you into action every day and helps overcome procrastination.


writing-427527_1920Unfortunately very few recognize the astonishing power of personal success journal. It takes only 10-15 minutes a 
day to write down your achievements and the tasks you’ve accomplished. But these 15 minutes a day have the power to transform all your life.

Success journal motivates you: By writing down your achievements you will be able to feel the progress. You will see how by small steps you’re moving closer and closer to your goal.

Success journal eliminates temptation: It will be easier to resist temptations since you know that you have to write down what you have done tonight.

Success journal simplifies your life: Things become much simpler when they are written down. A journal makes you more tolerant of life’s distractions.

However you should be aware of three rules of keeping a success journal:

  1. Write only what you’ve done: Don’t write what you still haven’t done and what you have to do tomorrow. List only accomplished tasks and achievements.
  2. List even small things: Everything counts! A phone call, a chapter of a textbook or your decision to pass by the chocolate cheesecake…
  3. Make it a daily habit: Don’t skip days! Even if you’re exhausted make sure you write at least 1-2 sentences in your success journal. Even if the only thing you did was thinking about your goal.

I urge you to take a notebook and start to list all your completed tasks. In 30 days you wouldn’t possibly be able to live without it.

Lesson 5: The secret formula that helps you define the perfect moment for working on your goal.

clock-1060458_1920Are you waiting for a perfect moment to work on your goal? Are you sure you will be able to recognize the perfect moment when it comes? There is one simple formula that instantly tells you the perfect time to start achieving your goal.

The perfect moment = NOW!

Yes, right now, this very second is the ONLY perfect moment to start working towards your goals. No, it’s not tomorrow or Monday or the first day of the month. Right now. Don’t waste your life waiting for a perfect conditions or perfect opportunity. They don’t exist. Use what you have, start right now, never ever procrastinate! Have you ever noticed that all the successful people are very dynamic? They don’t lie on the couch…waiting for the perfect time to start doing something. They get up and DO it. If you’re still trying to put things off and make excuses to do it later, in the next lesson you will learn how to overcome procrastination and become a person who loves the thrill of getting things done.

Lesson 6: How to stop putting things off and convert yourself from procrastinator into productive, effective person who loves the thrill of getting things done.

Are you the person who always puts things off and promises himself to do it later?

Then this technique is for you. Next time you catch yourself trying to put important tasks off, take a piece of paper and answer three simple questions.

  1. Where you are?
  2. What do you want to do?
  3. How you will feel while doing it?

While writing down what do you want to do you will already imagine yourself doing it. And it won’t be very difficult for you to get up and do it.

dreams-1015613_1920Let’s say you’ve been putting off organizing your closet. You always find more important tasks to do and it’s never enough time to clean it and put everything in place. Just sit down, take a piece of paper and begin writing: “It’s Saturday, 3:45pm. I’m sitting in the living room couch, drinking tea. I want to organize my closet. It will only take me about 1 hour and I will feel energetic and satisfied that I finally got it done. My closet will be clean, everything will be sorted and in place….” Just as you’re writing it

you feel the desire to get up and do it. Because you want your closet organized, you want to feel satisfied and you’ve already imagined yourself doing it.

Remember, all you have to do is to answer three questions. Where you are, what do you want to do, and how will you feel while doing it. It’s a very simple technique but it works like a magic!

Lesson 7: The one simple technique that will make any boring task a pure fun and increase your productivity by more than 125%!

Do you know how to turn monotonous boring task into fun? Make a game out of it!

folder-1016290_1920For example, time yourself and keep trying to improve your time. Let’s say you have to peel 20 potatoes. Challenge yourself! Set a record of how many potatoes can you peel in 3 minutes. Then try to beat your own record. Or you can time yourself to see how long it takes you to peel one apple. And beat your record again! The good thing is you will always be a winner. You can turn any boring task into fun game. Just use a little imagination! This simple trick has proven to increase productivity by more than 125%! Use it and you’ll notice that you’re getting more work done in a less amount of time.

So that’s all from my side in this edition. Enjoy your weekends, achieve your goals, and don’t forget to have fun!

Author’s Bio: Sulagna Dasgupta has been writing about self-improvement and relationships for more than 5 years. Her websitewww.loveinindia.co.inis India’s first dedicated relationships & marriage blog, also offering FREE unlimited anonymous relationship counselling. Her mission is to facilitate more open thinking about love & relationships in India in the long run.