I reached the crossroads where I had to choose between living and dying. I chose to live.

Imagine the life of a woman who fell in love with a man and left her parents for him, at the rebellious age of 17. Her love story had a disastrous end when she left her abusive husband who was also a drunkard and a drug addict. With no finances, apart from her two children as assets,  she had arrived at the life’s crossroads. She chose to live and is now an independent flourished businesswoman.

She is Patricia Narayan,  director of Sandeepha Chain of restaurants in Chennai. Starting with a negligible income of 50 paise per day,  her earning has touched ₹2 lakh per day. She started with making and selling jams and pickles, and now owns a restaurant chain. It’s all because of her determination to live and succeed. She didn’t give up at any point and continued to struggle.

We often arrive at that point in life where we are clueless to go. The life comes to a standstill and we think that this is just the end. It’s easy to give up and wait for the right time. But, to keep working hard and not giving up is difficult.

Above-cited is just one example. There are so many people in real life whose hard work,  determination and the ‘never give up’ attitude has made rags to riches, misery to success stories.

Try finding out such heroes near you. Someone might be struggling at the workplace, someone might be having a terrible marriage or someone might even be working hard to earn a loaf of bread for the family. The point is they don’t stop doing their work but, keep on working harder and harder. They don’t blame the destiny for their ill-fate,  but try to make their own future by finding a way out.

So,  keep knocking that door. Who knows the door may be answered the next moment!


there is a lilt
in our words
when blue moons
meet dark skies
serenaded by silent
dreams ~

conjuring words
isn’t easy
cause feelings are

the ones that float
in salt water
longing for the
softness of pink lips
in a warm night

oh! did I say hard
nope, feelings are honest
only if
we don’t have to talk
about them ~

pain is a
cracked perception

but words find it
thrash it
enslave it

and poetry
seeps out of cracks
where we hide
in plain sight

no one can find us
scraping out
the pain

as we make
feeble attempts
to glue back
our torn skin
into beautiful words ~

words were never
meant to be called

and blindness
is not an option
when you crawl
through the
contoured verses ~

our hearts hold
but the fear of
burns it

I think
‘never’ is kinder
than ‘perhaps’

but ‘perhaps’ has options
just like poetry

it cuts too deep
too easy

also pulls us out
let us empathize,
verb words
and changes us
into patterns
of free flows
straining out the pain ~

all we are left with
is words

‘beautiful inkblots’
in a different
of darkness ~


At times when I think of the power of speech that we human beings are blessed with, I simply marvel in awe. Over the centuries, numerous words have been added to dictionaries. And what is interesting is, how some words that spell the same mean different (homographs); some other words that both spell and sound the same (homonyms) while certain words with different spelling and different meanings sound the same (homophones).

(Think of some homographs, homonyms and homophones without searching over the internet or consulting your dictionary. It’ll be interesting! You could mention them in the Comment box.)

Then there are portmanteaus (combining two words to form a new word), like infotainment, shopaholic, etc.

Playing with words is an art. And, in my opinion none can beat the Shakespearean pun! It is par excellence. Rich literature and knowledge of language is present in almost all cultures of the world, with the exception of certain primitive tribal cultures.

With such a rich repository of words available for constructive dispensation of feelings, emotions and information, there has been ample space for obnoxious words to creep into the vocabulary. So much so, that many an awful word is uttered without the sayer knowing its meaning.

There are foul words in every language. And, readers would agree that foul intentions are best expressed in one’s own parent language. There seems to be a fixed set of such words that continue to be used over the ages. As I have mentioned above, new words continue to be added to the dictionary on a regular basis. However from years of observation, I have found out that the list of foul words in a particular language remains more or less fixed and it is relatively lesser in number than the constructive words.

In spite of this being the reality, how frequently do we hear people using profane, coarse, cuss, and blasphemous words? Are these the only words to spew the venom on people around us? If you, dear reader, are one among the many who can’t help, but use foul language, it’s time for a self-check.

Why use foul words?

A person who is hurt will not mind hurting others. Built-in frustration leads to the first few foul words, before it becomes so much a habit that the speaker fails to distinguish the foulness in those words. They become a part of the person’s regular vocabulary.

Remember, what you do is being observed and maybe even imitated by a few people. A five-year old was once brought to me for counselling because he had said outrageously foul stuff to a fellow classmate. While speaking to him, I found out that he had heard his father speak those statements. Now, what is the little one’s fault? He simply imitated what he heard his father – one of the most reliable persons in his life, say!

The Bible says –

“For out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks.”

If the heart is full of good, noble, pure and praiseworthy thoughts, that is what the mouth will express. If the heart is filled with discontent, vengeance, hurt, malice and bigotry, those are what the mouth would spew forth.

“But those things which proceed out of the mouth come forth from the heart; and they defile the man.

 For out of the heart proceed evil thoughts, murders, adulteries, fornications, thefts, false witness, blasphemies…”

Is there a turn-around?

Yes, there is.

But, the problem is that when we get so much used to something, we don’t like to leave it, even when we are apprised of the harmful consequences of it. For most people, it’s cool to use foul words. For men, it’s a trait of masculinity to use such words. For some, it’s fun to spew out a volley of abusive words.

However, …in repentance and rest is your salvation…

The sooner we deal with the problem of the inner heart and seek God’s control over our words, the better it is for us. A deep peace would set in and joy will fill the heart.

‘Oh Lord! Set a guard over my mouth and keep a watch over the door of my lips’may this be your prayer and mine.