INTERACTION – AN EFFECT UPON ONE ANOTHER

Communication and interaction are absolutely two different things altogether.

Communication is the act of conveying intended meaning to another entity through the use of mutually understood signs and semiotic rules.

Interaction is a kind of action that occurs as two or more objects have an effect upon one another.

The expression “an effect upon one another,” made me think about the importance of interaction. It does not merely refer to communicating or letting each other know of some intended information but also to have an effect upon one another.

Interesting!!! 

My wife always tells me that I am very good with people. I can easily mix with people and start a conversation on any topic of interest.  And I have seen my wife to be very good with children. She interacts so well with them that they rarely feel like leaving her.

But sometimes we both do struggle to relate to and make ourselves part of a certain group of people or start a conversation with a particular person or child.

Throughout the week we have discussed many things on the topic of ‘Dynamics of Interactions’ from different writers and I would like to conclude with THREE words that will help us to “have an effect upon one another,” – I mean help us to interact with others.

I call them RIP in short… Lol, it’s not ‘Rest in Peace’ but something else which I have mentioned as under:

Respect: I have seen people talking rudely, sarcastically, with pride, being boastful and sometimes humiliating others. These kinds of people switch off the minds of others for themselves the next time they are seen. When we show respect to others, they feel safe with us and they know that they won’t be mistreated with our company.

So respect is something which helps us to have an effect upon one another.

Interest: Suppose you are in a group where a certain conversation is going on and you start talking something else in between, that is considered improper. Show interest in others and they will find you interesting too.

Patience: This is another aspect that helps us to keep an impact on others and people feel like interacting with you. Patience is inevitable in any kind of interaction.

RIP is not something to be maintained step by step but happens all together in different proportions during any interaction. The length of the interaction will depend on how strong the RIP system of a person involved is.

I accidentally met a person online. We started interacting. We started feeling an urge to continue the friendship. We called each other. We shared our family matters and even exchanged information about our family members with each other. And we are now partnering in our writing business together in Candles Online.

And it all happened within just 3 months of time. It happened because we both had a very good RIP system.

So check your RIP system today before getting into an interaction…

Stay Blessed!!!

IMPORTANCE OF INTERACTIONS

Usually when I search for quotes I search it in a site called “Brainy Quote.” Today also I found some very thought provoking quotes from this site on human interactions which are as follows:

“Social media is an amazing tool, but it’s really the face-to-face interaction that makes a long-term impact.”  – Felicia Day

“For good ideas and true innovation, you need human interaction, conflict, argument, debate.”  – Margaret Heffernan

“Real answers need to be found in dialogue and interaction and, yes, our shared human condition. This means being open to one another instead of simply fighting to maintain a prescribed position.”  – Malcolm Boyd

The above quotes make it clear that face to face interactions in anyway are so very important in life. Always crave for it.

Stay Blessed!!!

 

 

LISTENING : AN IMPORTANT COMMUNICATION ESSENTIAL

Effective interpersonal communication requires active interchange of verbal messages and non-verbal cues between the people involved. Imagine a classroom situation where the teacher is teaching but the students have put their heads down and are in no mood to listen to what is being taught. This is an example of ineffective communication even though the teacher is playing her part well. In this case, effective communication happens when the students sit up straight and listen to what the teacher is teaching, some keep nodding their heads as a gesture of understanding and some raise their hands to get their doubts clarified or to answer the questions asked by the teacher. Hence, decent verbal expression skills by one party and focused listening by the other, renders communication effective.

The golden rule is: Don’t just hear, LISTEN. Surface hearing results in unclear understanding and the consequence is – miscommunication, which may lead to a lot of chaos and confusion.

 There was this lady at the Confectioner’s who had to order her supplies for the next day from a new shop as her regular supplier was out of town. She called up the new shop late at night and ordered for ‘12 dozen eggs’. The consignment was to be delivered at her doorstep within an hour before the shop closed for the day. The doorbell rang in 45 minutes and there was this guy from the shop handing over ‘12 eggs’ to her!!! Imagine the lady’s bewilderment! On enquiry it turned out that the person who had picked up the phone had heard it wrongly, hence the miscommunication.

Well, this incident may bring a smile to our lips. But, there are other instances where careless listening results in disasters. Just think if a pilot hears a ‘NO’ when he asks the ground crew for landing permission, as ‘YES’ and steers the aircraft to descend, what would happen?

Listening is an art. Patient listening is a virtue.

Attentive listening is one of the important ‘communication essentials’!

COMMUNICATION: MISS OR HIT

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Communication refers to the transfer of information from one person to another. A consistent mode of communication results in progressive interaction between one and more than one groups or individuals. Interactions lead to building up of a connection which grows strong with facilitation. This gives rise to relationships that can stand the test of time. But we have heard of broken trusts, broken contacts and broken hearts, most of which have their source ion miscommunication.

Miscommunication is defined to be a “failure to communicate” adequately. Yes, communication too demands to be adequate.

We gather information related to various fields as we need to meet our diverse needs. The language in which we communicate is different regarding different topics. The terminologies, sentence construction, intonations in speech are differentiated. Dialect varies from person to person. The dialect of every individual refers to as idiolect. Our idiolects express our uniqueness and sociolects express the cultures we come from. But we need to be aware of the certain terms and phrases while maintaining formal and informal discourse. Failure to do so results in miscommunication.

Miscommunication in Formal Discourse occurs because of innumerable reasons. The major ones are stated briefly. In Misplaced vocabulary one confuses one word with the other and uses wrong words while communicating. If a speaker uses words not understood by the audience, he fails to communicate adequately. Disorganized thinking too, results in miscommunication. A person should know what his listeners would comprehend; therefore, organized speech should come into his view. In formal discourse spontaneous speaking should be avoided, rather one should think before delivering. Use of colloquialism, assumptions, and stereotypes should be avoided in formal discourse.

Miscommunication in Informal discourse refers to the ones in marriage, relationships and friendships. There are times when your friend or partner behaves in a different way than they used to previously. It’s time to look for the deeper meaning behind their behaviour instead of taking them on a face value. You can take cues from the mega article of this week while communicating to people close to you. Accusing your spouse for their flaws also is a form of miscommunication. We all have grey areas; therefore pulling down someone should not be our cup of tea. Ego-centrism acts as a catalyst in generating miscommunication. If you are too full of yourself you will fail to notice the beautiful efforts others do to bring a smile to your face. Moreover, a little love never hurt anyone as it conquers all. Therefore, lace your words with love each time you want to convey your thoughts.