WHO KNOWS ME THE BEST?

Questions are imperative in human life. It is the questions of the human mind that instigates him towards the meaning and the purpose of life and defines the why behind its twists and turns. Questions are either raised by an individual or in reference to an individual. Behind every question, there is a Questioner! Ravi Zacharias in his recent book “THE LOGIC OF GOD” says, “The convergence of intellectual and existential struggles drives a person to a brutal honesty in the questions he or she has.”

One among the biggest questions of human life – “WHO KNOWS ME THE BEST?” Like every other question of human life, this question is always in reference to a human struggle. Because we question only when life’s millstone burdens us. As a matter of fact, since my childhood, I have been frequently juggled and altered by this question – WHO KNOWS ME THE BEST? 

When I was a kid, I complained – “No one understands my choices.”

When I was a teen boy, I was hurt – “Why should I be like him? I am who I am!”

When I was in the twenties, I argued – “Why should I do that? It’s my life-my choice.”

When I turned thirty, I find myself – “Being misunderstood and misinterpreted.”

Towards the end half of 2018, there were some family issues and when I had to raise my voice to sort-out the misunderstanding between my family members, I was misunderstood being partial. In the meanwhile, I find one of my best friends going wrong in quite a handful of matters, as I attempt to correct my friend, again I was misunderstood being unfriendly, arrogant and bossy. Being too sensitive to relationships, being misunderstood and alone in four walls created havoc on my mind. The only question that distorted the peace of my mind is – “WHO KNOWS ME THE BEST?”. Why no one takes time to understand me or questions me – why do you think so? All that everyone thinks – BLAME HIM! 

Often in professional life, we are asked to keep the personal worries outside the office door but that’s someway too difficult. One individual life with two parts – the Personal and the Professional has enough possibility to tilt.

Each individual’s existence is caused and causes “Relationships”. Relationships is not the presence of one individual rather it exists between two individuals completely different from one another decide to come together and form a relationship irrespective of their differences. The presence of differences in the possibility of confusion and misunderstanding. But these misunderstanding is NOT MEANT to the breaking of relationship rather IT IS TO educate and enhance the relationship. 

BEING MISUNDERSTOOD and QUESTIONED BY SELF – 

“WHO KNOWS ME THE BEST?”, IS APPARENT! 

DO I KNOW MYSELF? – How about that! 

Flipping the pages of history, wise King Solomon was garlanded with WISDOM, POWER, WEALTH & GLORY. Materially speaking there is nothing that he lacks in his life. But at the end of his life’s journey, he concludes: “I put my hands into all that my mind found good. I acquired everything I desired. I applied myself to the understanding of wisdom, and also madness and folly, but I learned that this, too, is chasing after the wind. Everything is meaningless”. The question remains – WHO KNOWS ME THE BEST?

In my imaginative visit to the potter’s house, I saw the potter’s house is filled with varieties of clay pots. 

I: Who designed all these clay pots? 

Potter: “I”!

I: Where did you got the pictures to design these pots?

Potter: Their pictures were in my mind and I designed them accordingly.

I: Why each of them is entirely of different shapes and size. 

Potter: Because each of them is made for a different purpose.

I: Can this small flower vase be used to store water?

Potter: No, it cannot be. It is meant to give home to the flower plant.

I: Can your vessel explain why it is made?

Potter: Nope. Does it know how long it will exist? Where it will be tomorrow?

Potter: But I know where it will be tomorrow and How it will be used and What will be its worth.

The Bible says, You are like the clay in the potter’s hands, and I am the potter.”  – this is the message of the Lord.

WHO KNOWS ME THE BEST? – The Potter has the answer.

How about asking HIM? 

THE HARDEST THING I EVER DID WAS TO BE JUST ME

The hardest thing I ever did was to be just me all the time.

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Life is set with rules and regulations for everyone. It is just that all these rules do not let you be what you are always. Every rule portrays you to be someone else according to someone else’s rules.

That is life – that is what everyone replies to who cribs about this.

Even when others lay the rules, it is not easy to be not who you are at times. I have encountered myself, quite a number of times in my life till now. Every time I come face to face with my own self, I just have to bid goodbye to it and take up the burden of being an epitome of a rule book.

If I have to pick the hardest moments I ever had to be just myself, then there are plenty of them. As most of the times, my life is not what I always wanted it to be.

When I wanted to study and conquer my dreams, my family wanted me to start a family and be bounded by the marital laws. It was hard. Even after conflicting thoughts with myself, I had to sacrifice and be bound to their rules. Yet again I failed to be just me.

When I struggled in my career, I again lost the ambitious me to the laws of family. Wherein I set my priorities higher for my family than my job. Just to blame me in the end for the magnificent end of it.

When I began to write, it was a natural fight with the society rules and just my rules. I write a lot more about the expression of love either emotionally or romantically, they entice me, but again it was ‘just me’ writing without abiding by the rules of a  ‘good woman’. Even when I am character assassinated as many things unimaginable to me, I still continued to do what I always wanted to do. It is hard to make a decision in favor of one’s own consciousness at times, but I decided to pen down only my true emotions which I wanted to write and not anything that never touched my heart.

Most of the time, it is hard to be what you want to be, but it is better to be what you are. Lying to oneself leads you to a downfall, be true to yourself and you will see you are happy.

Self-love is never harmful, it is the best medicine to your soul. Mostly, it is not selfishness or self-indulgence but it is more of taking care of one’s self rather than just giving away everything.

LET IT GO

It’s time to see what I can do

To test the limits and breakthrough

Let it go, let it go…

2017 was a roller-coaster for me- so many ups & downs, new ventures, new friends, taking some harsh decisions, sulking sometimes in difficult situations and sometimes crying with joy. But, the ride did come to an end and the uncertainties of life brought a new dawn of hope.

The biggest lesson that the last year taught me is that life is too short. You never know what’s going to happen tomorrow. So, treasure the people around you who care for you and love you unconditionally. Live every moment, for you might not be there to witness the next moment.

Life is difficult, sometimes too harsh that one may want to just run away, rather than facing the ordeal. The qualms of life make you think- ‘Why Me’ and you just want to go inside your shell, don’t want to interact with anyone and just pray that life comes to an end. But, life is uglier and crueler than what you believe. It will keep taking your assessments every now and then until you stop giving up. Yes, the day you stop giving up, life will change for you. It will become beautiful and worthy.

It is said, “The one who suffers only he knows the meaning of suffering.” It is easy to just pen down some good thoughts and talk about being positive. God has been kind enough on me for He has given me so much and almost a perfect life that one can dream of. But, trust me, I was also sulking and complaining till the day I chose to be happy in the situation I am.

Being crabby over life’s atrocities is easier than to face them. No one else is responsible for your own happiness, except you. And the day you realise this, life will completely transform in front of you.

It’s time to see what I can do

To test the limits and breakthrough

Let it go, let it go…

These lines from Disney’s frozen song really motivate me. True, when you can’t hold, just let it go and move on. But, don’t forget to cherish the good things that life gave you in the past.

HOW GOOD IS OUR MASK OF PRETENCE?

Few days ago I was listening to an audio clip of my favorite Christian Preacher Rev. Dr. Ravi Zacharias. There he shared a beautiful story, which goes like this –

Once a man was in the search of a job. He was walking by a zoo when he saw the advertisement of a job vacancy. He spoke to the zoo manager and was appointed as a monkey. His job was to reach the zoo before sunrise and to put on the costume of a monkey. He was to be fed peanuts & bananas the whole day by the people and his work would be to entertain the children. On the first day while the man in monkey’s costume was entertaining children by swinging from branch to branch, he fell down inside the cage of the lion. The man looked at the lion and screamed in fear & shouted “Help!! Help!!”… Immediately the lion started speaking, “Shut up! Don’t shout or else we both will lose our jobs.”

The greatest lesson I learned from this story is that like those two men every one of us in this earth is wearing a mask. We are exactly the opposite of our looks. What others see is just a mask, not the man behind the mask. When I looked for the reason of this act of pretence the Bible answered me that we are simply imitating the patterns of this world, rather than being transformed by the renewing of our minds. We think that to sustain and succeed in this fictitious world we need to wear the mask of pretence. We have failed to discover our real identity. Even though man has reached the peak of success and knowledge he is still struggling with the issue of “Identity Crisis”. This crisis has ultimately made ‘India’ the global capital of suicide cases.

The biggest question of this generation is, “WHO AM I?” All our worldly achievements have failed to answer us. Our true identity is that we are created in God’s IMAGE and God’s Spirit resides in us. So with an unveiled face before the mirror we ought to change into the godly image by accepting all our sins and seeking His godly power to live a life which can reflect God’s glory.

Our IDENTITY is that we are the IMAGE of God to reflect the exact proportion of His character.

Be blessed & stay tuned!   

Avinash Das

‘PICK’ YOUR TRUE IDENTITY

‘Who am I really?’

Have you ever asked yourself that question? I had asked that question to myself a few years ago when I was struggling to find the purpose of my life.

Let me explain the FOUR basic pointers that determine our identity. I call them P I C K in short, so that it can be remembered easily (though the pointers are not according to the right order).

P – Purpose of Life

The understanding of life’s purpose reveals your true identity to yourself as well as to others. Let me explain what I just said for you to understand.

The web definition of  ‘Identity Crisis’ is “a period of uncertainty and confusion in which a person’s sense of identity becomes insecure, typically due to a change in their expected aims or role in society.”

According to psychologist Erik Erikson, “an identity crisis is a time of intensive analysis and exploration of different ways of looking at oneself.”

In Erikson’s stages of psychosocial development, the emergence of an identity crisis occurs during the teenage years in which people struggle between feelings of identity versus role confusion.

When a person knows and understands his / her purpose of life he / she gets clarified what to do and what not to do in life. He finds confidence and peace in what he does or decides to do further. During the adolescence or teenage stage he/she goes through difficult periods of finding his/her own role to fit in the society and struggles with the issue of identity crisis.

We all know the purpose of life drives a person. Our purpose in life drives us to pursue a certain kind of career and follow a certain profession to earn our living.

Our purpose determines our identity through our profession. For example, our identity becomes ‘A Teacher’ when our purpose in life is to build the foundation of the children by teaching.

I – Image we are created in

“So God created mankind in his own image,
    in the image of God he created them;
    male and female he created them.”

We need to know that God, our creator created us in His own image and that itself becomes an identity for all of us. Before we judge somebody for being beautiful or ugly we need to know that we are shunning the image of God. Although we have been soiling the original image or identity of ourselves because of sin and self gratification but we should always remember this fact that we all humans, men and women are created in the image of a Creator God.

C – CharacterIsTICS we possess

The characteristics we have and the characteristics we develop in us as we mature also determine our identity. Our characteristics are like our face through which people identify or recognize us. For example, if I possess the characteristic of helping and serving all the people around me then people identify me as ‘a helpful man.’ Like wise when I lie to everybody in everything then people identify me as ‘a liar.’

K – Knowledge WE acquire

As we grow in health and mind we acquired knowledge through our education and our interests. We discover the talents we have and sharpen it with the knowledge we acquired from different sources. And our knowledge gives us an identity too.

The children who are good in studies are reckoned as ‘very intelligent.’ The same way we identify and name others as ‘idiots or fools.’

If we arrange the pointers in the right order then it might be “I C P K” because our Image will come first, Characteristic second, Purpose third and the Knowledge will come at the end. But for easy remembrance let’s call it PICK.

Are you confused about who you are?

Think about your purpose in life, acknowledge that you are created in the image of the Creator God, understand that the characteristics you possess & the knowledge you acquire will make you known amidst the people around you.

So are you ready to P I C K your Identity?

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Stay Blessed!!!