SHAVING OFF MY DARK-UGLY-LOOKING HAIR

All that I have done in my life were mostly need-based rather than for fun and pleasure. And on the 29th of the last month, I sat down to trim my hair and I went on to shave them till I was almost bald. As I looked at my dark and ugly-looking hair falling on the newspaper, a thought came to my mind. 

How often do we tend to tread the path of sickness, suffering, and sinfulness in a particular time period of our life? The preconceived, the preoccupied, the presumed thoughts, ideas, and prejudices we tend to gather as we walk. These thoughts or ideas either turn us into persons having a closed mindset or judgmental. Neither it helps us on a personal note nor solves the purpose of our creation, that is being an instrument for God towards the fellow human.

So what should we do? How should we help ourselves to be more useful for the sole purpose of our creation? My answer to this question is – GO THROUGH A PROCESS OF UNLEARNING.

Unlearning every thought that tells me I am better than others, unlearning the prejudice I have that people should revolve around me, unlearning the very idea of I should stay self-sufficient without bothering about what is happening in my neighborhood. The days have changed after the onset of the Pandemic. And it is high time that we get rid of this mindset of revolving around our own set rules for life.

When I look at my completely shaven head today, I see a blank slate of my life and feel happy that I am ready to learn afresh without having any preoccupied ideas or prejudices about people and their life. As new hair starts growing on my head, I will learn things that are new and something very different than what I have never experienced before in life. And I know, I need to unlearn from all that I have previously before being active on what I want to do afresh this year onward.

How about you? Are you ready to shave off and unlearn along with me? Then don’t have second thoughts to it, just do it.

Stay Blessed!!!

HOW DO WE LEARN FROM OUR LIFE?

Yesterday, I talked about learning from life through the people we meet in our life journey.  And today in my Final Note I will talk about the other two ways through which we get the opportunity to learn.

So, we learn from –

  1. The persons we meet
  2. The mistakes we make
  3. The situations we go through

Learning from life through the mistakes we make

A small child wants freedom to execute what he or she wants to do without knowing what is good for him or her. Eventually, he or she does some mistakes, suffers pain and runs to his/her parents crying and being consoled by them. Next time he or she becomes careful about the mistake he/she had committed earlier. Building of different personality traits in the kids shows up in the later stage when they start learning from their past mistakes.  

Usually teenagers want to taste and test everything that comes their ways. They don’t like suggestions and they don’t like restrictions around them. They sometime don’t share what wrong had happened to them with their elders. But they try to solve them through all by themselves or through friends. Sometimes the results are fatal.

Most of us learn from our mistakes.

We fail in a particular plan then learn to be ready with other alternatives to tackle a similar problem and avoid failure in future. We suffer a heart break and then correct our ways of dealing with people next time. We fail in our exams and study well for the next time. But in some cases we find ourselves in soup. Because we are bound to accept certain things in life and try to adjust to that mistake we had committed.

Probably, we need to go through a process of sanctification as Rajnandini talked about in her SNIPPET to mend our ways or rectify our mistakes staying in that same situation that we chose earlier. 

That is why the wise people always learn from the mistakes of others and change their approaches and choices.

Learning from life during the situations we go through

I had a very bad fight with my wife. Because she was angry and I was harsh and argumentative. And the saga never stopped for few hours. 

So?

The learning point is – “A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.” 

I knew it but didn’t apply it when it was needed. 

This was just a mere example for us to understand what I mean by events or situations that we sometimes have to go through and we get some lessons to learn out of them. There are many other occasions when we have to go through serious pain and sufferings without we being directly responsible for them. But when the transition period is over we collect some pearls of leanings from our life by reflecting on the past. 

Life situations like accidents, deaths, suicides, sicknesses, failures, joblessness and even situations like divorces etc., are the examples through which we go, people go. When we reflect on them later in our life we get to learn different lessons out of them. 

“God breaks us to make us.” 

We need to hold unto this fact for our moral boosting and encouragement forever. 

Avinash‘s The Formula “L 3” applies to this segment of my description very well. In the school of life we have to learn from various situations and events that we face every now and then on our journey till death. 

What should I say in my conclusion? 

Yes, as Aastha said, “Every day of life is a gift, indulge in it and make the most you can while you can. Have an open mind and a honest heart.” Then we can really learn from our life.

Because –

“…suffering produces perseverance; perseverance, character; and character, hope. And hope does not disappoint us.”

So, don’t be disappointed but keep hoping and keep learning… 

Good night and stay blessed!!!

FROM JUNK TO GLITTERING GLORY

As I took a look at my trophies, I put my hands up in despair. They had lost the luster. They were no longer the glittering trophies I had once been proud to put on display. I realized my old cleaning method would be to no good this time. Better to discard them all!

Before actually discarding them off, I browsed online for any guaranteed cleansing procedure. I picked out one of the methods to see whether it would work out or not. I started the experimentation. Lo! Behold! The shine was back again in minutes! And, I had categorized it as junk just a while before….

I was so happy. My trophies are back on display!!

I learned an important spiritual lesson from this episode.

Often as we look at our lives, we see how dirty we actually are. Our façade of goodness vanishes the moment we measure ourselves to God’s standards. There seems to be no hope. We feel like giving up. All seem to be lost.

However, God doesn’t give up on us!

He uses different procedures to clean us. Sometimes He treats us through narrow pathways, at times He permits us to experience pain and at times He takes us through strange alleys. But, He never gives up till we shine again! And after the cleansing process is over, we come out glittering again. God doesn’t render us useless and discards us all together. He continues to chisel us and polish us.

I was so grateful to God for teaching me this life lesson through a menial task.

No matter how low we fall in our life circumstances, the Almighty’s polishing hand is sufficient to transform us!