HAIL THE MEDIA

Encyclopedia and Wikipedia are the wholesome twosome,

That tickle minds in ways so awesome.

The international, national and local dailies,

Reach out to people merrily or wearily.

 

Live broadcast of sixers or bouncers,

Greedy in-laws who are sly pouncers,

Plane hijacks or illegally hoarded onion sacks,

Refuge crises and the killer seismics,

Create ripples in all circles.

 

Deprivation, Devastation or the programmes for Immunization,

Pollution, Corruption or Mass Frustration,

Forecast of raging cyclones and the birth of new clones,

Stupendous athletic feats and exposing big cheats,

Give rise to opinions bittersweet.

 

Regular newsfeeds and crafty tweets,

Keep channels on the heat.

Opinion polls and crimes on roll,

Stir up the human mind and soul.

Big and small scams on people’s faces slam,

A picture of reality behind the masked morality.

 

How detached the globe would’ve been,

Had so much been left unheard and unseen!

The media definitely is a big boon,

Which lets us know all things very soon.

 

Information and commerce,

It does aggressively endorse,

Reaching the masses without absolute remorse.

A responsible pillar of knowledge dissemination,

The media at times is wily in its articulation.

 

So hail the media and those behind it,

We nail those opposed to free permit.

May the voice of people reign on high,

And the banner of democracy freely fly.

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LAUNCHING OF ‘FACE 2 FACE WITH CHIRADEEP’

I have a longing to understand human heart. I love people. I love human emotions and the way it reflects somebody’s inner self. Knowing or understanding a fellow human heart to heart is the most fascinating thing in the entire universe according to me.

I had a desire that I would interview people from different walks of life. And Candles Online is the best thing that happened in my life on which I thought of launching it in this web platform.

So finally, Candles Online launched a new column called, “Face 2 Face” as a new page yesterday. By clicking on that page, you will find the current interview on the top, and a list of interviews at the bottom of that page. There will be pages of different interviews under the main page “Face 2 Face”.

I chose my childhood friend Smruti who is a mother of two and a great homemaker as our first guest to be interviewed. She was amazingly honest, truthful and humorous while replying all my queries. Read her interview to understand and learn very important lessons regarding marriage, parenting and family by clicking HERE.

In coming days, I would be interviewing many more interesting personalities from all over the world including my co-authors of Candles Online.

If you have something very special to share with the whole world then you can approach me and I would love to see if I can interview you as well.

Don’t forget to click on the page: Face 2 Face… 😉

Stay Blessed!

INTERACTION – AN EFFECT UPON ONE ANOTHER

Communication and interaction are absolutely two different things altogether.

Communication is the act of conveying intended meaning to another entity through the use of mutually understood signs and semiotic rules.

Interaction is a kind of action that occurs as two or more objects have an effect upon one another.

The expression “an effect upon one another,” made me think about the importance of interaction. It does not merely refer to communicating or letting each other know of some intended information but also to have an effect upon one another.

Interesting!!! 

My wife always tells me that I am very good with people. I can easily mix with people and start a conversation on any topic of interest.  And I have seen my wife to be very good with children. She interacts so well with them that they rarely feel like leaving her.

But sometimes we both do struggle to relate to and make ourselves part of a certain group of people or start a conversation with a particular person or child.

Throughout the week we have discussed many things on the topic of ‘Dynamics of Interactions’ from different writers and I would like to conclude with THREE words that will help us to “have an effect upon one another,” – I mean help us to interact with others.

I call them RIP in short… Lol, it’s not ‘Rest in Peace’ but something else which I have mentioned as under:

Respect: I have seen people talking rudely, sarcastically, with pride, being boastful and sometimes humiliating others. These kinds of people switch off the minds of others for themselves the next time they are seen. When we show respect to others, they feel safe with us and they know that they won’t be mistreated with our company.

So respect is something which helps us to have an effect upon one another.

Interest: Suppose you are in a group where a certain conversation is going on and you start talking something else in between, that is considered improper. Show interest in others and they will find you interesting too.

Patience: This is another aspect that helps us to keep an impact on others and people feel like interacting with you. Patience is inevitable in any kind of interaction.

RIP is not something to be maintained step by step but happens all together in different proportions during any interaction. The length of the interaction will depend on how strong the RIP system of a person involved is.

I accidentally met a person online. We started interacting. We started feeling an urge to continue the friendship. We called each other. We shared our family matters and even exchanged information about our family members with each other. And we are now partnering in our writing business together in Candles Online.

And it all happened within just 3 months of time. It happened because we both had a very good RIP system.

So check your RIP system today before getting into an interaction…

Stay Blessed!!!

IMPORTANCE OF INTERACTIONS

Usually when I search for quotes I search it in a site called “Brainy Quote.” Today also I found some very thought provoking quotes from this site on human interactions which are as follows:

“Social media is an amazing tool, but it’s really the face-to-face interaction that makes a long-term impact.”  – Felicia Day

“For good ideas and true innovation, you need human interaction, conflict, argument, debate.”  – Margaret Heffernan

“Real answers need to be found in dialogue and interaction and, yes, our shared human condition. This means being open to one another instead of simply fighting to maintain a prescribed position.”  – Malcolm Boyd

The above quotes make it clear that face to face interactions in anyway are so very important in life. Always crave for it.

Stay Blessed!!!

 

 

HEART TO HEART INTERACTION

Interaction happens whenever two or more people gather together.

I work in customer service. Every day I interact not only with Co workers but the general public as well. Some days are really good and others, not so much.

One incident that clearly stands out in my mind is the day my Co workers and I worked with mentally handicapped young adults. I work in a grocery store and these young people came to help bag.

I had a customer, upon seeing the young lady helping and her disability, became a bit upset. She was not comfortable with her bagging her things. I looked her in the eye and politely told her that she was welcome to go to another line.

The young lady  stuck with me that whole day because I took the time to talk to her and sorted out the groceries so they would be bagged properly.  In between customers, I spoke with her and learned that her favorite color was sky blue, she had two dogs and a baby bunny. Oh, and that her favorite food was tacos. The mentors for the group were thrilled and a bit surprised that I took the time to interact with this girl. I looked at them stunned. “Well of course I interacted with her. She came to help me!”

That was one of the best days I had ever had. When I got home my husband looked at me and smiled. “Someone had a great day.” I just grinned, kissed him hello and went to make dinner….tacos.

Author’s Bio: N.Gonzalez lives in the USA, married for 27 years with two grown children. Have been working for retail grocery for last 17 years. Writing is something enjoyed in free time.

COMMUNICATION ESSENTIALS

Human beings are blessed with an ability to communicate in languages that other animals lack, yet we land up in a million instances of misunderstanding and miscommunication in our daily lives. Why does that happen even if two people talk in the same language? Very simply because the interpretation of the words could be different for different people!

Interpretation of language is different based on different cultures. I get reminded of one instance in my life when I was in the US working for a US MNC. The American guy who was my lead would always say, “We can solve this problem in this particular way. Could we try this by the end of this week?” What he meant to ask me was if I could try to solve this problem by end of this week. He was asking me for a commitment. But he never said as “Can you do this?” He would always say, “Could we do this?” This confused me so much initially. I was perplexed as to what he was really asking me to do. Did he expect me to do this work on my own or does he want to do together with me? Only with time I understood what was meant by “We” in his statements.

Interpretation of language also differs when different people talk in different context. For example, one of my cousins would always start a conversation from the middle. Out of the blue she would just say, “You know what happened with that person…” and we are totally lost as to which person and what point of time is she talking about. We used to make a lot of fun of her for this. But then this also used to be serious problem in communicating with her.

I did a short training on leadership at my work and I learnt something very essential to powerful communication. Although, training mostly was given in context professional communication yet these essentials can be applied to all the types of communications.

5 Stages of communication

Following are the stages of a good communication. So, when you talk to somebody keep in mind to follow these stages especially if it is a difficult conversation.

Open

This stage is how you open a conversation. “Can I talk to you for a minute?” “There has been something I wanted to talk to you about” “We need to talk about a few things” “There are some issues that need our attention”. These are the examples of how to open your conversation. The way you open a talk could scare another person or make him/her nervous. So it is very important to keep a good open attitude in your tone.

Clarify

Once you open the conversation, you need to clarify what you need to talk about. Describe what the problem is and why it needs attention. Or explain what your concerns are. Again be extremely open in your attitude so that the other person doesn’t feel cornered or imposed upon.

Develop

This is the stage when the other person starts to share what s/he feels about the situation. It is important to ask open ended questions rather than closed ended questions at this stage. A good example could be “What do you think about this idea?” rather than asking “Do you like this idea?” This is the stage where conversation goes on and on. Also most of the arguments or clarifications happen in this stage. So, it is very important to keep yourself open and inviting in this stage.

Agree

Based on the discussion that happened in previous stage, you come to a certain conclusion. What is the agreement? Do both of you agree with what has been decided? If not, then Develop stage was not done very well. Reach an agreement or a conclusion which makes both of you comfortable.

Close

Finally, close the conversation by thanking the other person and appreciating him/her.

Even if you are talking to your spouse or child, it makes a world of difference if you just keep these 5 stages in mind. Almost every conversation goes through Develop stage, but if Open and Clarify are not done properly, a lot of misunderstandings can crop up in Develop stage and Agree stage might never happen.

5 Pillars of communication

There are also 5 pillars of communication that each one of us should keep in mind to have a healthy communication.

Esteem

Always try to uplift the other person’s esteem. Even if s/he has done something terrible, it is important that the person’s esteem should not go down.

Empathy

This is one pillar that most of us never use. It is very important to step into other person’s shoe and feel what s/he might be going through. Every time you communicate, remember to empathize to gain the confidence of the other person. This would take your conversation to a different level.

Involvement

When talking about issues and problems, ask the person how s/he wants to contribute. Tell him/her that you need help. If esteem and empathy is taken care of, the involvement of the other person should just happen.

Share

Nobody likes to be preached, it really helps if you share your concerns, fears, good/bad experiences along the conversation. Sharing with a clean heart makes the other person feel more comfortable and at ease.

Support

You obviously need to support the other person in every way that you can. Most of us never ask this question to our spouse – “What can I do to support you?” and yet this is the most powerful and giving question of any conversation. It is easy to ask for support but it is important that from time to time we offer our support as well.

Different conversations focus on different pillars. There could be talks which demand a lot of esteem, empathy and support. There could be other talks which could be revolving only around involvement and share. So, it really depends on what is the context of the conversation.

Keep these communication stages and communication pillars in mind always. Together they make the foundation of communication essentials and can take your relationship to an all-new level.

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