It was a winter time when my beloved cousin sister hurried to the bathroom for taking bath and poured warm water on her body before mixing cold water in it… And guess what… She burnt her skin. Her mind was elsewhere…probably on a multitasking mode. As we know that there are tasks which don’t need our sole engrossment and our concentration can be divided. My sister knew that taking bath doesn’t need her soul engrossment though she forgot that her soul concentration was much needed before pouring down warm water on herself.  She had a tough time managing her wounds though we had so much fun discussing her absentmindedness.

Guess what? I just called her up right now and we had a laugh talking about the same incident all over again.

Let’s move on to the next cases…

It was a morning time and my wife was screaming at me, asking me to store water in the buckets before the water runs out. And I was about to get inside the bathroom when my aunt called me. I received the phone and kept talking to her while filling the water in the first bucket. I was fine till the water came to the brink of the bucket. I bent down to lift the bucket keeping my phone between my left shoulder and head. The handle of that bucket was broken and I had to lift it by using both my hands. As soon as I lifted the heavy bucket full of water, my second wife, my beloved Nokia E63 slipped out of my embrace and ‘plop’ drowned in the deep sea water… Oops, I mean in the bucket full of water.

I quickly rescued her, took off her clothes, applied resuscitation but to no avail. She went into a lifetime comma. I had to divorce her and claimed an alimony of Rs.500 from the bakra (scapegoat) that I handed her to.

I had loved her so much and regretted multitasking at her cost…. 😛

Many times I have climbed to the 4th floor leaving my office flat which was on the 3rd floor while chatting on WhatsApp or talking to someone on the phone. Many times I have thrown the tablets into the dustbin instead of the torn wrappers while my mind is occupied with my work on the computer.

Found them funny? Did you have a good laugh? Good! I wanted it too… 😉

So to speak I am not at all good at multi-tasking. I usually give up on one while doing the other. And when I am asked to multitask, I shout back literally or show my displeasure. When my wife requires my attention while the TV is on, I ask her either to switch off the TV to talk or let me watch…do just one thing at a time.

Rajnandini, offered some good advice this week as she usually does every time and most importantly she talked about how multitasking adds heavy loads on our shoulders like – Reduced effectiveness, Lowered productivity and performance levels, Increased stress, Disorganised and cluttered mind, In many cases, more time spent than saved. Don’t you think we should get rid of those loads before getting into troubles, either with the funny ones or the serious ones? Keep thinking about it.

In the end, I am happy to close this week by bringing smiles to your faces.

Stay blessed!


She: Hi!

He: Hello Dear! What’s up?

She: Nothing…just feeling bored and alone. What are you up to?

He: Working on my presentation for tomorrow’s meeting.

She: Oops…Sorry, I am disturbing you!

He: No…no, it’s okay! I can manage it! I’m good at Multi-tasking!

She: Thank you for giving your time… you’re a superhero!

He: Mention not! You too are important to me!

Isn’t this our everyday story? Then what’s exceptional and notable!

The daily demands of our professional and personal life are so much that hardly we have time for anyone. In school we were taught about 10 to 5 is work hours and the evening is meant for socializing…but alas today socializing only exists on social media. Whereas, in reality, the human is a social animal. Everyone needs at least a little amount of time for someone to refresh life.

The Bible says,

“Whoever refreshes others will be refreshed”.

But the big question is HOW?

Often we treat people multitasking like him (‘He’ in the above chat) as, Superhero! And there is no doubt we all have at least one such person in our life whether we have discovered it or not! But what is extraordinary in their superheroism? Are they from some other planet? Are they gifted and we aren’t? If they can do multi-tasking then why can’t we?

One of the brightest minds in human history, Sir Albert Einstein said,

Only a life lived for others is a life worthwhile.

Problems and Responsibilities in life are obvious and its journey only finishes in our grave! But that does not mean we will compass our life in I, Me & Mine. We all have problems and God often teaches and answers while we live for others. But DO WE LIVE FOR OTHERS?

The Bible says,

For with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.

Being multi-tasking is spending time, energy, and concentration. Every second is eternal after a second comes another second but not the same one! Hence, when we share our time diverting our attention towards a person and do our work alongside, it is an Eternal Gift that we gift to someone. The biggest gift we can give to someone is time! But DO WE DO SO?

“Everything that is good demands some amount of Sacrifice”.

Undoubtedly, multi-tasking demands an awful lot of sacrifices and often we may not get rewarded with our expectations rather we get cat-calls. But do we need to compromise with our goodness just because someone goes wrong! THEN WHAT’S THE RETURN?   

The Bible says,

And do not forget to do good and to share with others,

for with such sacrifices God is pleased.

However, will we still configure “MULTI-TASKING as the Super Heroic work” and inbox the term by categorizing it to a certain amount of people? How long will we be confined to our I, Me & Mine World? A life lived with giving the value of time – love and care to others alongside accomplishing our tasks and responsibilities is a life worth living…

Keep thinking!


In our school days we have studied about minerals and ores that are hidden underneath the warm bosom of our beautiful earth. And we know how the ores are extracted from the earth through mining. They are then refined to extract the valuable elements. That process is called Ore Dressing which we know very well. This ore-dressing begins with breaking down the ore to required sizes by crushing, grinding, straining etc. Thereafter, the ore is physically separated from any unwanted impurity. The impurities and unwanted materials are removed from the ore increases the percentage of metal in the ore. Then moisture is removed from it and further they are processed to separate the valuable metals from everything that are useless. Then those metals, say valuable metals like iron, copper and gold etc. are used in for many things.

I find those metals are very good allegories of the VALUES that we inherit genetically from our parents and ancestors. Though, recent research is suggesting that – the moral sense or values is largely developed after birth and requires particular kinds of experience. I don’t agree with these theories at all and the basis of their researches.

I believe, I am fearfully and wonderfully made in the image of God with the attributes like love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, faithfulness and just etc. These are all the innate values we have in us by birth even we are born to many different fathers named, ‘Tom’, ‘Dick’ and ‘Harry’.

To prove my point I want to pose few questions before you…

“Does a child seek love from the people around him, at least from his mother?”

“Does he fight for justice if another friend does injustice to him?”

“Does he try to be faithful to his family members by obeying them sometimes?”

“Does he offer a chocolate to his friend or friends those who don’t have?”

We all know the answers to these rhetorical questions…

A child always likes to be loved, accepted by all or his mother at least. The sense of love is there within him and when his mother or father nurture that value more by displaying the value LOVE in the family he grasps it more, the more refined love. Similarly he has the values like faithfulness, kindness, being just and so on which he displays at times as well. Unless someone has these values within themselves they won’t be expecting it from others as well.

Thus, everyone irrespective of their religions, castes, creeds, coulors, nationalities etc., has those innate moral values within them though everyone doesn’t get the right atmosphere to get them nourished and refined to display them prominently and in a more useful ways. Some display the crude love, some display little more refined and processed love and some show pure gold like love to let the whole world dragged towards them.

Now, when the issues of selfishness, cheating, hopelessness, injustice come into the picture we totter and get confused. But let me shock you again… These are all inherited as well. They genetically transmitted to us from our parents.

Why? How?

It’s because of our fallen sinful nature as I was sinful at birth, sinful from the time my mother conceived me.

But the good news is these are all not part of the image of God and can be pruned out, cleansed from, burnt completely from us.


Let me get back to what I had started with – The Process of Ore-Dressing.

Just as the ore is dressed and purified so that the metal extracted is useful for various purposes, so also when the sin that stains the pure values by virtue of our creation can be cleansed so as to ensure that our God-given values shine forth.

The sooner we realise that our pure values are not yet visible, the more eager we will be to discover them.

Have you ever spared a thought to it? We are mostly satisfied in the values we possess and are busy transmitting the values that we are taught. And so, we fail to recognize the need to unearth the God-given values embedded deep within us.

My dearest buddy had written a beautiful poem for the occasion which I would like to mention at the end as a conclusion to my piece. Her poem is the cream of the cake that I made tonight:

My dear little miss
Let me tell you a story
In which generations
Have bestowed upon us
The value of lessons learned.

(Image Credit: Google Inc.)

Embracing this child of new
I pass onto you
Nurture mother earth
For she is your home.

Lend a hand
Give a hug
To those who lack
Kindness and love.

Throughout your years
I will teach you the values
I hold dear
Inherited and gifted by God above.

(C) 8/2018 ME-sunderstood

Rise up and discover your values. You are worth more than what you think you are!

Stay blessed!


All through this week we read some wonderful insights of value. And today I am going to share a small experience of mine which showed that values are really taught.

I stepped out of the dentist’s clinic at the dusk hour. The sight of children playing outside the clinic was quite refreshing to watch during that otherwise gloomy hour. Some kids were playing on the slide and see-saw some were running around and two little girls were playing badminton. I was glad that there was no rush of vehicles around because the dentist’s clinic was located in a residential complex and these kids were safe from vehicles. And so was I!

No, I am not scared of vehicles but that time I used to prefer the road less used by vehicles because I was heavily pregnant and a rushing vehicle often scared me doubting myself whether I can jump away if need arises.

Well back to the scene. So these two girls were playing badminton. One seemed to be about 5 yrs old and other must be 7 or 8. I didn’t want to cross their invisible badminton court so took a longer way but coincidentally the little girl hit a shot harder and the shuttle cock landed on me. I was startled for a moment and as a reflex I looked at the direction of that little girl expecting an apology. She quickly looked away.

Kids after all! Or so I thought. I was reasoning to myself, “I can certainly do with a little sorry! I am pregnant, what if it had hurt me?” And quickly the sane side of my brain told me that a shot hit by such a little girl is no way capable of hurting my little one inside my tummy. True that! I was glad that the sane brain stepped in at the right time and I was not mad at the little girl anymore!

I continued dragging my heavy body towards the exit of the complex and soon that little girl came running from behind and said, “Aunty I am sorry.” She smiled at me after saying this and she looked so cute! My obvious reply was, “No problem beta, take care!”. I patted on her cheek and she rushed back to play.

I turned around to soak in a little more cuteness and innocence of her and what did I see? The elder girl patted the little one on her back and said “Good job!”

It made my day really! A small kid of 7 or 8 yrs had made even younger kid understand that she owes an apology and the younger one understood! Wasn’t this how values are taught? We sure inherit a lot from our parents but IMPLEMENTING what we inherit is very important. And this implementing is what needs to be taught. That evening, that little girl taught the younger one a lot of values unknowingly, like being humble and modest and respecting elders.

The point here is, how we behave teaches a lot of values for those who observe us. I remember we had a chapter in primary school which explained how an otherwise irate taxi driver calms down when a passenger says a simple “thank you” before getting out of his taxi. After this small gesture of gratitude the taxi drivers stays happy all through the remaining day and he passes on that gratitude to other people he meets through the day. Those other people in turn pass on that small thank you to many others and the chain continues. Isn’t this a lovely way to teach values and spread its importance? Since then, I always thank taxi drivers, auto drivers, janitors and anybody and everybody who helps me even a bit. Initially my husband found it funny that i say thank you to random people but I shared the story with him and he understood the importance and since then he also thanks everybody who helps him.

Bottom line: Be good, do good. People watch you and learn from you. Never hesitate to apologise when you must, thank when you can, be honest and own mistakes every time you make one!


Values …Phew !!  quite a small word, yet weighs a lot.

I have never actually thought about values, and how I am gonna inculcate the same into my kids and generations to come. It never disturbed me until I began to think about it. Ever since I knew my surroundings, all I see is my mom, who is dedicated as a mother as well as a teacher. For me, she is the one who tells me what is exactly wrong or right, and yes even though I might explode at times on her words, I have never ended up not following it.

Maybe that is Values to me

Values are something that actually lets us reach a conclusion on what needs to done or what needs to be said. It helps deliberately reach a choice of actually what we want. Values building up or I say piling up inside us, we react to the crowd around us.

I remember during my days of graduation, I used to stay in a hostel, where there were many like me staying away from parents. Some felt it is like a breath of freedom, even when holidays come by, they never wanted to go back home. They would rather stay in the hostel and spend time alone or with friends around. I wondered why ?? why will anyone don’t want to go home. As for me, a home was the arms of my parents, where I was safe indeed. Gradually I learned that they were never welcomed at home, they felt like an outsider.

What values do they inherit?

Where is family values?  Vanished into thin air. 

I realised a home should be where everyone is welcomed, cared for and never taken for granted. Even when people are far away, the only gravity that pulls them back to the home is the love and affection they receive. It is an important factor in Family Values, something that needs to be shared and gifted.

As I grew up, again facing challenges, qestioning the theory of values, I faced with the values at work, which indeed was quite challenging.

What are the values at work?

People are just behind, others pulling them down, just to reach higher and higher. It is hard to survive if you stick to values here. As professionalism is completely off-road. I had experienced the worst kind of work ethics to stay on top, and a fresher like me couldn’t stand it. As sacrificing my values for success, was not something I would choose for.

I chose my values and drowned in it. 

It is a great game of politics in organizational values that you have to encounter.  Honestly, I couldn’t survive, I was an utter failure as I burst out in anger and frustration, realising I couldn’t handle the office politics.

Was I lacking values? Or was it them? I am not sure about them, but for me, I forgot the strategical approach at one point in time.

In a relationship, the values are kind of fluctuating. A husband becomes perfect when they handle their roles well enough, not only as a better half but also being a parent. A wife is not just someone to share a bed with, but your equal partner to care for, love for. your children look out for you, to be the epitome of values indistinctly. I have been weird at moments, showing the worst part of me to my children, which I received the same way, at some other point in time through their similar reactions. Actually, it shocked me, rather than being dumbstruck to see a mirror image of me there. It was when I decided to change my self. To my utter shock, I was guiding them wrong. At some point, I felt I was wrongly mentoring them for life.

It brought me thinking, was it my values, that helped me correct myself there?

Yes, I guess, it was indeed the values I inherited – To accept the failures and turn them into success. My individual Values is something I showed up as an individual to the crowd. To me, personal fulfilment was prior to all, which I am learning gradually.

Indeed, at every stage of my life, I was learning values, and how important are they for Me.

Many values are never inherited, but it is like live training we get through experiences. Some teach us quite hard lessons, that we feel like dissolving, some others let us float above.


I, as an individual hold “generosity” in high regards of all values a human must possess.  Because that is what makes a human “A Human”.  If your heart is unmoved and untouched by other’s misery then you are just any other specie born on earth, scientifically called Homo-sapiens and just a link of this eco-system.  Nothing great to brag about, right?

And my very idea of being a human was shaped up by my father and in due course of my life I have met many people (some in my contact list and some unknown) who made me hold on to this value very dearly.

Talking about my inspiration, my father I would like to quote one thing best describing his outlook

“Exhibiting a value you believe in need no audience and no appreciation in reciprocation “

Yes this is how he was. I would like to mention one incident from his life that would suit the quote mentioned above perfectly:

We were having dinner when there was a knock at the door.  “Who it could be” was our question and when the door was opened my father found a neighbour of one our acquaintance in that area standing in front of him. “Yes, what happened he enquired.  They seemed to be in a hurry to finish matters “woh jo aapki bhasha bolte hain na unki tabiyat bahut kharaab hai aur ghar pe koi nahi.  Aakar dekh lijiye” (the one who speaks the same language as you is seriously ill and no one is around, come and check upon him) and left. It would be surely a wastage of space discussing such shallow minds here so I skip to the situation. When my father reached there the situation was worse than what he thought. That person was suffering all alone with dire cholera, lying in a pool of his own puke and faeces. That was a gross scenario to recreate. My father took him to the hospital immediately singlehandedly. Meanwhile he himself was drenched as that man puked on my father as well but that didn’t deter him from exhibiting the value he believes in. He served him whole heartedly and took care of him in hospital for two days at the expense of his own comfort till his family was back. But at the end that man for some reasons which my father had no knowledge of written off everything and uttered really mean stuff against my father. But as a real gentleman he was, he didn’t hold any grudge against him. When poked at being so generous always he said “neither his misery was planned by him nor my help was seek so why make an issue of an intentional act on my part. I was not expecting any accolades for what I did. And anyways we must not keep a count of our good deeds at least, someone else is already doing it”.

I have always seen him in this light. No complications whatsoever when reacting as a human to the other’s pain.

Coming back to the question “whether values can be passed as inheritance or not?”  Frankly, I am clueless. But surely to keep the values alive they need to be drilled in day in and day out. Since children imitate well it’s only through practice of values we care for, we can pass on to them the legacy, period! Had I not seen my father as a generous soul, doing his bit relentlessly how would I believe in such values?


Having seen my
parents in love
since childhood
no matter how worse
difficult times
tested their patience
I inherited
the art of loving
from my parents
as I grew up
society taught
me hatred

My family
is a palette of colors
my dad was black
so was my brother
my mom was wheatish
and I was born
with a color
that reminded
them of the beet
I inherited from them
to see colors as only colors
but society taught me

It was Christmas
our neighborhood
were all celebrations
while friends believed
santa will
come down the chimney
to deliver gifts
dad amazed me,
“It is not father santa
who delivers gifts
but it is me”, said he
once again I inherited
from my family
but as I
stepped out of my house
I had to lie
to please my friend
to make my teacher believe
to compromise in my business
to be rewarded for promotion
I learned to lie
head to toe
to please
the society
and me

While I inherited
the core values
struggled to abide them
society rewarded me
and irrelevant
I was forced to transform
to adapt to
the social stigma
to play the
Life game

Values are inherited
but life is the
hardest time
that teaches us
the most
valuable lessons!