MY DAD TOLD ME A STORY

My dad 👤 had told me a wonderful story
when I was a little child 👼.
I took it just like another story back then
but it is only now that I understand the wisdom hidden in it 🤷.

Read on…

We are always surrounded by happiness 😁 and sorrow 😔
and these two always compete to take charge of us.
Happiness is deaf 🙉 and Sorrow is blind 😎

Thus when we are going through a difficult time
we must not crib about it.
Why, you may ask!
Let me tell you,
the more we crib and curse 💀🗣,
the more we make noise.
The more noise we make,
the easier it is for sorrow to find us.
Since Sorrow is blind,
he comes in the direction of noise from cribbing and crying.
More the noise we make, harder he holds on to us. 😣

Whereas Happiness is deaf.
He can come 👣 to you
only if he sees 👀 a vacant space in your heart and mind.
If you have already invited Sorrow by making a lot of noise,
Happiness will never see the empty space
and will never come 👣 to you.

BOTTOM LINE: Never complain about hard times. Each one of us goes through it. Be strong and put yourself to test. Complaining or cursing (self, others or destiny) is not going to end the tough times. In fact, it will worsen the situation by making you more negative. Instead, stay calm. Do what is necessary. The storm is sure to pass. The dust is sure to settle. And after that shall come Happiness. Be contented. If you stay unsatisfied, you will start making noise again, thus attracting sorrow in your direction.

So, are you going to make some space for happiness today?

KEEP INSPIRING AS LONG AS YOU CAN – A SUMMARY

It was a superb 14 days journey for all of us, the authors and the readers. I personally enjoyed these two weeks reading and commenting. My co-authors have come out with such fabulous articles that we received a lot of feedback as well.

Let’s revisit all the articles one by one as I evaluate all with the little wisdom that I possess. 😉

Aastha – How do we perceive ourselves? Do we really know the real we? Knowing our own selves is really very important for us to live a purposeful life. And Aastha wrote it beautifully. A truly inspiring piece it was.

Kalpana – The policies formulated by any government of any country would only be successful if it is ably supported and accepted by the citizens of that country.  She also gave two very apt illustrations as witnessed by her in real to support her motivational call for all of us.

Prabhjot – “Think big and choose bigger problems.” What an eye opener it was? It changed my perspective as it did change others as well.

RajnandiniTrust me, it’s a joy to rediscover the child within you.  And she was right. Actually it is so important to find the child in us to have a fruitful and meaningful life.

Ruth – Her introspection throws a light in the darkness of this world when she said, “The spiritual gifts of LOVE, JOY, PEACE, KINDNESS, PATIENCE, GOODNESS, FAITHFULNESS, GENTLENESS, SELF-CONTROL is what God wanted me to cultivate.”

Saakshi – “I can proudly say I am Shopping Free.” Her confession of how she got rid of the shopping addiction was hilarious and quite interesting.

Thaddeus – His conclusion speaks everything about what he intended to convey: “May each reader be inspired to value their loved ones enough to share the truth and to discern when to withhold it.” Unless we discern and distinguish between the falsehood and the truth and understand the skill to present the truth then we will fail in our avenues.

Preeta – “Inspirations are everywhere around us, we just need to come out of our shells.” Somehow this has become my favourite line for complimenting beauties around me… 😉 But she made her presence felt on the stats of this site. It was one of the most inspiring articles of the week. 

Aparna – “Go beyond what is expected of you and create the difference.” She suggested to leave the self-centeredness and go the extra mile helping people. 

Sony – Hers was quite similar to Preeta’s. She said, “I hope this world extracts positivity of all kinds and minimize the effect of negativity.” It was her hope to bring the positivity from all negatives. 

Kuljeet – Her green eyes literally shook everybody, not in fear but with lots of fun and the readers relating to the experience she shared. “Let it be a small achievement, I try to celebrate it. I don’t need to prove anything to the world.” These lines made me realize that I am on the right track because I never think my achievements are small even if its negligible. I celebrate and enjoy everything that I do. And we all need to do the same to stay away from the “GREEN EYED JEALOUSY AND ENVY”. 

Avinash – “Shall we put a full stop to hypocrisy? Is it not possible for us to LOVE others with pious heart?” This article again quite similar to Kalpana’s. He urged his fellow citizens of his beloved country India on the occasion of 68th Republic Day.  

Chiradeep“Susceptibility follows deprivation, temptation follows vulnerability and devastation follows the temptation.” Looking at the present scenarios around me and within me I thought of writing this article about how our hearts go through deprivation and how important it is for us to counter it to safe guard ourselves.  

I hope you all enjoyed reading all these articles and learning from them. Get inspired and keep inspiring…

Stay Blessed!!! 

WHAT IS YOUR PROBLEM?

Inspiration is unlimited in this world. You just have to look around and it is full of possibilities, ideas and inspirations. Some can even change your life for better.

I want to describe one thought that has inspired me tremendously. This thought always makes me bounce back during a sad period.

It was the year 2008 and I enrolled myself in a life-transforming course called “Landmark Education” and my connection with this organization made me a much better person in a million ways. However, there is one simple thought that this education gave me that I will never forget.

“Think big and choose bigger problems”

When I first heard, my first reaction was – What nonsense is this? I already have enough problems in my life. Why would I want even bigger problems?

Then our coach began to explain what he meant. He asked a few of us about their biggest problems. Some people mentioned marriage, in laws, money, job, business etc.

He said –

While these problems are absolutely valid problems – you can choose not to deal with them.

That statement made all of us astonished and my reaction was – How can offload these problems off my head? These are my problems?

He said –

These are your problems because you chose them. You can always choose different problems.

At this point, I was totally lost and almost felt like I was wasting my time. But then he came to a point that brought me back.

He said –

There are bigger and better problems in this world. You can size the problems based on the number of people that it impacts. If you consider the problem of money in your household, it only impacts you and your dependents. If you consider the problem of waste management in your colony, it impacts the whole colony and so it is a bigger problem. Consider child labor as a problem that is even bigger because it impacts children in so many countries. Consider global warming or terrorism, it impacts the whole world.

He continued to say –

Your life is meant for bigger purposes. We always talk about bigger aims, bigger dreams and bigger life. Your life can be as big as your problem is. If you want to crib and spend all of your energy in solving a problem with your Mother in law that only impacts you – then your life is not big. To make your life big, choose a bigger problem. Make it your personal problem, give it your time and energy – only then you can go on to make bigger impact on the world.

It made all the sense to me and for that moment I really felt that my problems are just nothing and yet I am spending all of my energy in just trying to solve them which takes me nowhere.

Further down the course, we were also made to choose a bigger problem and work on it. I chose to work on “Child Sexual Abuse” and made quite a way into it. I got connected to some amazing people and their work in this area. I went on to become a “Sex Education Counselor” though I am not working in that area anymore.

This thought makes me think bigger, every time life pulls me down. I ask myself quite often “What problem am I solving and why am I solving this one? Is there a bigger problem that I just want to choose?”

And almost every time just this thought resolves my petty problems.

REDISCOVERING A NEW SELF THROUGH HOBBIES

Turning the memory pages of my life when I peep into the pages of my childhood, I find myself and my cousin Anupam sitting on the floor, doing something very meticulously.

I tried to zoom in and see what were we both doing.

Hmmmm… We were listing the names of the countries and their capitals by writing on a piece of paper from the world atlas. That way we had remembered almost all the countries of the world and their capitals.

I tried to find some more memories by turning some other pages to find both us working together at a place sitting separately. Anupam was good in drawing or doing a sketch and I was good in coloring.

If something in life that engrosses us positively is our hobbies.  And I know how passionate and enthusiastic we both were working on our hobbies which we both probably lost in our busy schedules.

Whenever somebody asks about my hobbies I feel great to share about them with her/him. The simple reason behind it is, I love what I do and I know that they give me immense pleasure. The general tendency is, we love to share our joys and pleasures with all.

I remember the time when I was on rest for 5 months after coming out of the hospital in 2005, I had nothing to do and was terribly bored. An idea struck me , I bought plain t-shirts to paint on them. I wore one or two myself, gifted one or two on birthdays and rest I had sold them. In 2006 I discovered my writing skill and then soon started Candles, printed version.

In 2006, my wife was given the responsibility to sing in the wedding of my cousin sister. I showed interest to write the song and composed the music for the first time, rediscovering myself. From that day on wards I have been composing and writing songs as and when required.    

Being a super extrovert in nature one of the most satisfying hobbies of mine is to interact with different people and share views. Somehow I love crowd. I get attracted to the crowds. I don’t run away from them at all. I love mixing with people and talking to them.

My hobbies give me so much pleasure, and my mind always stay cool and calm and diverted from all my worries, pains, and sufferings when I am busy with my hobbies. They are my biggest stress busters. They have never been made me feel lonely.  

If I have to list out the benefits of the hobbies then I would do it as under:

  • Hobbies keep us cheerful and happy.
  • Hobbies refreshes us and helps us to refocus on our major assignments.
  • Hobbies have a positive effect on our mind and we stay composed mentally.
  • Hobbies are the greatest stress busters.
  • Hobbies in physical nature build our muscles and keep us healthy.
  • Hobbies help us to rediscover ourselves and help us to understand ourselves better.
  • Hobbies help us to define our strengths and weaknesses by letting us know our talents.
  • Hobbies help us to be confident and bring about self belief. 

One scripture portion always helped me and inspired me to be on my toes:

“Whatever your hand finds to do, do it with your might; for there is no work or device or knowledge or wisdom in the grave where you are going.”

And I know if I don’t do it here when I am living I can’t do after I die…

So friends! Work on your hobbies, rediscover yourself, rediscover your talents and stay happy always. 

Stay blessed!

LIVE YOUR PASSION

The word “Passion” in dictionary is defined as “An excitement or uncontrollable desire”. I would say “Passion” is “to LIVE life”. To live passionately is the only justice that we can do to this life. Millions and millions of people spend their entire lives doing the daily routines and chores and they are just surviving not really living. Survival is very difficult, finding out our passion and living the life fully and completely is very simple. It is effortless and enjoyable. There are lesser heartbreaks and health problems and much more prosperity and happiness. The question really is – Why do people just survive?

There are multiple reasons for that.

Children today are brought up with loads of parental and societal expectation. This is particularly true in eastern countries where there is a huge population which is educated and trained to run in the rat race of life. So very less importance is paid to the fact that child is good in arts or sports, and child is pushed again and again to be a part of the rat race.

Parents themselves do not live a passionate life. They are busy 24/7, doing stuff that they are supposed to. They get stuck in the cycle of earning – spending. There are more EMI’s/mortgages to pay off and there is no way to get away from what they are supposed to do. With this kind of lifestyle, there is more and more stress, health issues and relationship problems. In this kind of scenario, the child subconsciously understands as this the only way to live and s/he doesn’t explore the opportunities of living life passionately.

So what do we do about it?

The only way is to get rid of this chain right now. This does not mean that you give up your current job and lifestyle, but it means that start paying more and more attention to your passions. Every person has one or the other passion, but for so many of us it is hidden so deep down inside us that we simply cannot resonate with it anymore.

The very first obstacle to figure out your passion. There is passion test to do this. It is not very tough but you might have to do it multiple times to get to your real passion.

Sit at a place where you won’t be disturbed. Take a paper and a pen. Meditate for a few minutes to get rid of all the pressing issues. Keep your mind completely off any kind of stress. Close your eyes and remember some incidents of your childhood or anytime of your life when you felt that you could do anything and be anyone. Remember the time when there were no restrictions and you got all that you ever wanted. Be in that state for a while. Try to experience that feeling again. Be in that state for a few minutes. Now open your eyes and start the exercise.

Make a table with 4 columns – Priority No., Passion, Score and Vision.

Start listing down something that you really wanted to be in present tense in the passion column. Do not think about how it is going to happen, get rid of all the negative thoughts. Just focus on what is it you really want. For example – If you really wanted to be a singer, write “I am a world famous singer.”

After you are done with writing the first passion, keep thinking and list down 9 more passions. Do the same exercise with each one of them.

Now you have 10 most important passions of your life. On the priority no. column of each one of them, write down a priority number, giving the “1” to the passion that inspires you the most and 10 to the passion that inspires you the least in that list.

So you have your passions right in front of you. The next step is to put the number against each one which states how much of your passion are you living currently. Give “1” to the passion that you feel you are currently living the least and give “10” to the passion that you feel you are currently living the most. This would be the score of that passion.

The next step is to write a vision about this passion. Just imagine that you are currently living that passion of yours. How your life would be? Add specifics to it like how do you feel being in that state? What is your lifestyle like? What kind of people do you meet? What kind of work do you do? Who do you live with? Add as much detail as you can. Close your eyes and imagine all this happening. Write your feelings in a sentence or two.

This gives you the vision on that passion. Be as specific as you can be. Write that vision down.

The following table gives three items from my passion table just for illustration.

Priority No.

Passion

Score

Vision

2

I am a writer. I have written a best selling book on transformation, spirituality and embracing change.

0

My picture as a author on the paper back of a book. Imagine that book on crosswords, flipkart, landmark, odyssey and all other famous book stores. I am also giving the preview of my book in these outlets.

3

I am a certified NLP Practitioner and I organize workshops to help people become aware of them and enjoy life to their complete potential and live a fulfilled life.

0

Imagine yourself facilitating workshops for around 20 people. Counselling people one on one.

 1

I and my family are in perfect health.

4

We are all healthy, strong and fit. There are 0 health issues, no more than 2-3 hospital visits in a year. All of us get our medical checkup done every year. And there are no long term issues.

This exercise will make you aware of what is it that will really excite you to the core. Scores will tell you how much of it are you living today. And the vision will inspire you to take steps in living that life. What steps to take to make that vision come true will also come while you do this exercise. Most of your question of “How will this happen” will get answered automatically. And the rest you will figure out because that vision will really inspire you. Try this for yourself. It doesn’t take a lot of time and you will benefit a lot from it. Do it every 6 months or so, because sometimes you might feel that you really want to do something but once you get into it, it doesn’t call you any longer. It is good to keep a check on your passions every few months and to revisit the scores to see how well you are living it currently. All the very best!

 

Author’s Bio: Prabhjot Kaur Saini, is a Software Engineer and is      currently working in Bangalore. She is an engineer by profession and  also  a  thinker  and  writer  with a philosophical heart. She can be contacted at: ‘prabhjot.varsha@gmail.com.’ Read her Other Articles on this site.