YOUR HOBBY IS LOOKING FOR YOU!

“Is there something in the world that you do not like to do?” asked one my colleagues after I had listed down my hobbies in front of him.

“Sports, I don’t like sports!” I proudly answered back.

This conversation happened like 8 years ago when I was a young adult with little responsibilities in life. When I could spend 3 hours in gym because I liked it and then go for dance class for a couple of hours – again because I liked it. Later I would come back home only to write something in my diary – also because I liked it. Once in a while I would take out my painting brush and start creating something on the sketch book and would end up spending the whole weekend on it.

Now, life is different. I have a baby and old in-laws to take care of. There are tons of household chores that never ever end. By the time I reach home from work – I just want to be with my son and do nothing else. I literally have to drag myself to gym because it is quite a necessity after pregnancy. I write for Candles but that is all I write now. I haven’t touched my painting brush in almost 5 years. And sometimes, it is extremely disappointing to live a life like this. Many a times, I do feel that I wish I had a few hours extra in a day just for myself. It is monotonous, boring and lethargic as hell.

Then the other day my son who is just 1.5 years old was invited to a neighbor’s kid’s birthday party. We came back with a return gift and since my son isn’t old enough to be excited with gifts – it was just kept in one corner of the house for a day. While cleaning up the room I remembered that I never bothered to even open and see the return gift. And when I opened it – I kept staring at it for a while with a different kind of enthusiasm in me.

It was a packet of crayons and water colors. As soon as I saw that I realized that there is going to be time in near future when my son would start holding the crayons and I would have to teach him how to color that apple or that balloon. I would also do those experiments with colors that we did when we were young – blow painting, block painting, T shirt painting, nib painting, pot painting etc. I was rejuvenated at the thought of reliving my hobby again right from scratch. It would be all the more fun because I would be teaching somebody (my son) all this from scratch. I love colors and I hope my son does too.

Later same evening, I saw an advertisement from one of the dance schools that invited admissions to teach Hip Hop to 5 year old kids. Then I imagined my little one teaching me those difficult moves of hip hop that I still haven’t been able to catch up.

Of course, I have a whole new world of opportunities and hobbies to discover through my son. What he would grow up to like – I would learn with him too. Maybe he would like to play football or cricket like my husband does – I would learn that too and play with him. Maybe he would be interested in playing a musical instrument – that would be a “WOW” for me because I will get to learn with him.

So what is your reason for not looking back at your hobbies?

You will always find your hobbies in your way if you really want to be happy and creative. Your hobbies might come to you as an opportunity, discovery or something else. Be open, be aware – your hobbies are always searching for you but if you choose to shut the door to them…. well you shut the door to happiness.

REDISCOVERING A NEW SELF THROUGH HOBBIES

Turning the memory pages of my life when I peep into the pages of my childhood, I find myself and my cousin Anupam sitting on the floor, doing something very meticulously.

I tried to zoom in and see what were we both doing.

Hmmmm… We were listing the names of the countries and their capitals by writing on a piece of paper from the world atlas. That way we had remembered almost all the countries of the world and their capitals.

I tried to find some more memories by turning some other pages to find both us working together at a place sitting separately. Anupam was good in drawing or doing a sketch and I was good in coloring.

If something in life that engrosses us positively is our hobbies.  And I know how passionate and enthusiastic we both were working on our hobbies which we both probably lost in our busy schedules.

Whenever somebody asks about my hobbies I feel great to share about them with her/him. The simple reason behind it is, I love what I do and I know that they give me immense pleasure. The general tendency is, we love to share our joys and pleasures with all.

I remember the time when I was on rest for 5 months after coming out of the hospital in 2005, I had nothing to do and was terribly bored. An idea struck me , I bought plain t-shirts to paint on them. I wore one or two myself, gifted one or two on birthdays and rest I had sold them. In 2006 I discovered my writing skill and then soon started Candles, printed version.

In 2006, my wife was given the responsibility to sing in the wedding of my cousin sister. I showed interest to write the song and composed the music for the first time, rediscovering myself. From that day on wards I have been composing and writing songs as and when required.    

Being a super extrovert in nature one of the most satisfying hobbies of mine is to interact with different people and share views. Somehow I love crowd. I get attracted to the crowds. I don’t run away from them at all. I love mixing with people and talking to them.

My hobbies give me so much pleasure, and my mind always stay cool and calm and diverted from all my worries, pains, and sufferings when I am busy with my hobbies. They are my biggest stress busters. They have never been made me feel lonely.  

If I have to list out the benefits of the hobbies then I would do it as under:

  • Hobbies keep us cheerful and happy.
  • Hobbies refreshes us and helps us to refocus on our major assignments.
  • Hobbies have a positive effect on our mind and we stay composed mentally.
  • Hobbies are the greatest stress busters.
  • Hobbies in physical nature build our muscles and keep us healthy.
  • Hobbies help us to rediscover ourselves and help us to understand ourselves better.
  • Hobbies help us to define our strengths and weaknesses by letting us know our talents.
  • Hobbies help us to be confident and bring about self belief. 

One scripture portion always helped me and inspired me to be on my toes:

“Whatever your hand finds to do, do it with your might; for there is no work or device or knowledge or wisdom in the grave where you are going.”

And I know if I don’t do it here when I am living I can’t do after I die…

So friends! Work on your hobbies, rediscover yourself, rediscover your talents and stay happy always. 

Stay blessed!

WHAT ARE THE PASSIONS FOR THREE DIFFERENT LEVELS OF ME?

I had written an article on the topic: “3 wishes before you die.” That was quite some time ago. I thought of republishing it here in Candles Online after little changes here and there.

As a human, having a body, mind, and spirit I have three passions or wishes in respect of my physical, mental, and spiritual being which I wanted to be fulfilled in life before I die. I would love to share them with you all.

They are as follows:

Passions in respect of my physical being:

  1. I want my heart to function well and to be fit physically to do more work for God and His purpose on this earth. 
  2. I want to roam around and travel as many places as I can before I die. I love visiting new places.
  3. I want to help people physically as much as I can. 

Passions in respect of my mental being:

  1. I want to learn more and more about human psyche. So that I can help them more and more when they are depressed and sorrowful.
  2. I wish I would be a great motivator so that I can inspire people with all my good things and motivate them to do good.
  3. I want to learn humility, tolerance, patience more and more. They help building character and personality.

Passions in respect of my spiritual being:

  1. I want to know more and more about my savior Jesus and want to be like HIM more and more on this earth. I want to learn the compassion that HE had for all when HE was on earth. I want to learn the way HE had forgiven and loved the people on this earth. I want to learn everything from HIM and want to grow in HIS likeness.
  2. I want the whole world would know the true GOD and understand what He wants in our lives.
  3. I want to study God’s word more and more and grow in the wisdom which helps to use my knowledge.

These are my wishes and my passions. My heart longs for them to be fulfilled. May God grant me all of them before I die, miraculously or naturally.

Stay Blessed!

HOW MY HEART RUNS AFTER THEM!

When somebody asks me about my hobbies and passions I feel great to share about my hobbies and my passions. The simple reason behind it is, I love what I do and I know that they give me immense pleasure. I love to show case my activities and what I do for others to know.

Anyway, so without wasting any time let me share my hobbies and passions with you all, which are as under:

  1. I love interacting with different people and share views being a super extrovert in nature. Somehow I love crowd. I get attracted to the crowds. I don’t run away from them at all. I love mixing with people and talking to them.
  2. Then comes my writing. I have that passion to write and let people know what I know and believe. I love to help and motivate others through my writings.  I do not like to write articles which don’t convince me personally.
  3. Apart from this I love to cook, paint, compose music, photography, and write lyrics etc., which are not regular but I love to do them for a change.

The above things really give me so much pleasure, and my mind always stay cool and calm and diverted from all my worries, pains, and sufferings. They are my stress busters.

But one thing I must confess that my heart’s desire and for which I always keep myself ready is to listen to the problems of a needy, wounded, broken person; my heart always long to help them by listening and counseling them. I always look for opportunity that how can I reach them just to listen their cries. My heart cries when I see them. And if anybody is reading this article today, I want to declare that I am always available for them to listen as a friend. That’s my most loved passion…

What about yours? What is your passion? Comment and share under this article…

Stay blessed!

LIVE YOUR PASSION

The word “Passion” in dictionary is defined as “An excitement or uncontrollable desire”. I would say “Passion” is “to LIVE life”. To live passionately is the only justice that we can do to this life. Millions and millions of people spend their entire lives doing the daily routines and chores and they are just surviving not really living. Survival is very difficult, finding out our passion and living the life fully and completely is very simple. It is effortless and enjoyable. There are lesser heartbreaks and health problems and much more prosperity and happiness. The question really is – Why do people just survive?

There are multiple reasons for that.

Children today are brought up with loads of parental and societal expectation. This is particularly true in eastern countries where there is a huge population which is educated and trained to run in the rat race of life. So very less importance is paid to the fact that child is good in arts or sports, and child is pushed again and again to be a part of the rat race.

Parents themselves do not live a passionate life. They are busy 24/7, doing stuff that they are supposed to. They get stuck in the cycle of earning – spending. There are more EMI’s/mortgages to pay off and there is no way to get away from what they are supposed to do. With this kind of lifestyle, there is more and more stress, health issues and relationship problems. In this kind of scenario, the child subconsciously understands as this the only way to live and s/he doesn’t explore the opportunities of living life passionately.

So what do we do about it?

The only way is to get rid of this chain right now. This does not mean that you give up your current job and lifestyle, but it means that start paying more and more attention to your passions. Every person has one or the other passion, but for so many of us it is hidden so deep down inside us that we simply cannot resonate with it anymore.

The very first obstacle to figure out your passion. There is passion test to do this. It is not very tough but you might have to do it multiple times to get to your real passion.

Sit at a place where you won’t be disturbed. Take a paper and a pen. Meditate for a few minutes to get rid of all the pressing issues. Keep your mind completely off any kind of stress. Close your eyes and remember some incidents of your childhood or anytime of your life when you felt that you could do anything and be anyone. Remember the time when there were no restrictions and you got all that you ever wanted. Be in that state for a while. Try to experience that feeling again. Be in that state for a few minutes. Now open your eyes and start the exercise.

Make a table with 4 columns – Priority No., Passion, Score and Vision.

Start listing down something that you really wanted to be in present tense in the passion column. Do not think about how it is going to happen, get rid of all the negative thoughts. Just focus on what is it you really want. For example – If you really wanted to be a singer, write “I am a world famous singer.”

After you are done with writing the first passion, keep thinking and list down 9 more passions. Do the same exercise with each one of them.

Now you have 10 most important passions of your life. On the priority no. column of each one of them, write down a priority number, giving the “1” to the passion that inspires you the most and 10 to the passion that inspires you the least in that list.

So you have your passions right in front of you. The next step is to put the number against each one which states how much of your passion are you living currently. Give “1” to the passion that you feel you are currently living the least and give “10” to the passion that you feel you are currently living the most. This would be the score of that passion.

The next step is to write a vision about this passion. Just imagine that you are currently living that passion of yours. How your life would be? Add specifics to it like how do you feel being in that state? What is your lifestyle like? What kind of people do you meet? What kind of work do you do? Who do you live with? Add as much detail as you can. Close your eyes and imagine all this happening. Write your feelings in a sentence or two.

This gives you the vision on that passion. Be as specific as you can be. Write that vision down.

The following table gives three items from my passion table just for illustration.

Priority No.

Passion

Score

Vision

2

I am a writer. I have written a best selling book on transformation, spirituality and embracing change.

0

My picture as a author on the paper back of a book. Imagine that book on crosswords, flipkart, landmark, odyssey and all other famous book stores. I am also giving the preview of my book in these outlets.

3

I am a certified NLP Practitioner and I organize workshops to help people become aware of them and enjoy life to their complete potential and live a fulfilled life.

0

Imagine yourself facilitating workshops for around 20 people. Counselling people one on one.

 1

I and my family are in perfect health.

4

We are all healthy, strong and fit. There are 0 health issues, no more than 2-3 hospital visits in a year. All of us get our medical checkup done every year. And there are no long term issues.

This exercise will make you aware of what is it that will really excite you to the core. Scores will tell you how much of it are you living today. And the vision will inspire you to take steps in living that life. What steps to take to make that vision come true will also come while you do this exercise. Most of your question of “How will this happen” will get answered automatically. And the rest you will figure out because that vision will really inspire you. Try this for yourself. It doesn’t take a lot of time and you will benefit a lot from it. Do it every 6 months or so, because sometimes you might feel that you really want to do something but once you get into it, it doesn’t call you any longer. It is good to keep a check on your passions every few months and to revisit the scores to see how well you are living it currently. All the very best!

 

Author’s Bio: Prabhjot Kaur Saini, is a Software Engineer and is      currently working in Bangalore. She is an engineer by profession and  also  a  thinker  and  writer  with a philosophical heart. She can be contacted at: ‘prabhjot.varsha@gmail.com.’ Read her Other Articles on this site. 

CLINGING ON TO OUR HOPES AND DREAMS

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Our hopes and dreams, do they really stand a chance against reality? Can we make them come true and are we even given a chance to reach out and fight for our dreams? Easy to answer right! The answer in most cases is no at least in the burgeoning Indian middle class.

I believe all of us in our most wishful thoughts want to become someone in their lives. That someone is characterized by our passion for something, something that is ingrained in us or we are drawn towards it naturally. The inclination deepens gradually as we learn more and more about our passion. But the global rat-race spares no one. This affects the mentality of our parents first and then channels through them to us. The effect is you have to become a doctor or engineer, or do an MBA and what is the reason for this? It gives more money and status in the society. All the students are cajoled, forced at times and mechanically trained to take engineering or medicine. They are not even asked if they want to pursue anything else and if they have any unconventional career choice, it’s ruled out by the parents. Giving up on the dreams becomes the likeliest option for the youngster.

Coming to myself, I was considered good in science as I scored high marks in the subject. This immediately gave my parents the idea that their son should become an engineer. They had never enquired me about my interest. I had a liking for writing but at that point was never serious of making it as a career. I ended up in an Engineering college eventually and got placed in an IT organization. Meanwhile my liking for writing had grown and I had become more serious about it. The possibility of pursuing it professionally remains.

Life has changed a lot after college. Most of us are employed, busy into our jobs as we try to impress our bosses. Looking back into introspection a question pops up in my head “have you found what you are looking for or are you just fitting in?” I find it really difficult to answer that in an instant. If the answer is yes for you, life can’t get better. Everyone has hopes and dreams of becoming someone in their lives. Very few make it though and it’s not that easy too. Circumstances and lack of will power get better of most of us. Eventually, we have to be content with what we get. Yes, jobs which give you decent amount of earnings or more can seem the best that can happen to you, but we are never truly content until we find that one thing that we crave for. With a realistic view, we all can’t reach the levels of success that some people manage when their careers and passions meet but still; we can give it a shot, trying to fulfill our dreams and turn them into reality.

We have our talents or something that we love doing (The base of our dreams). These are the things which bring us joy and contentment and we enjoy every bit of it just because we love doing it. What if we can’t become legends? At least as a hobby we can keep our interests alive and find time for them in spite of the busy work schedule. The other day I went shopping with my friend. His eyes lit up as they set their gaze on a bundle of paint brushes. He told me that he used to paint a lot during his younger days and was pretty good at it. I told him to buy a paint brush and start it again. He replied with reluctance that’s it no use now as there is so much of work and he does not find time for it.

Looking back at the past brings in lots of “ifs” and “buts” but they won’t provide you the solution. Giving up, when knowing that you can make your mundane life more beautiful and fruitful should not be considered as an option. It’s never too late to start to follow the dreams unique to yourself. Someone has told, “Better late than never”. As per my own experience you can always start again if you stopped sometime back.

Author’s Bio: Peter Minj, is a B. E. in Electronics and Communication. He works as a Software Engineering Senior Analyst at Accenture, Bangalore. He loves Football, Reading, Writing, and Music. He is an optimist, who enjoys the simple things of life.