WHY THEY ARE NOT LOVE?

ATTRACTION

A feeling of being drawn towards a person of the opposite sex on the basis of her figure / his physique, enchanting looks, lovely eyes, cascading hair, captivating personality, etc.

It is short-lived.

ATTRACTION IS NOT LOVE

 

CRUSH

 Occurs right away.

 Doesn’t last long.

 Is not a powerful feeling.

 Masks the other person’s flaws.

 It is all about physical attraction.

 Drains one of energy.

 Involves jealous.

CRUSH IS NOT LOVE

INFATUATION

 Occurs almost instantaneously.

 Is powerful, but short-lived.

 Seeks & flourishes on perfection.

 Focusses more on the physical.

 Drains one of energy.

 Involves jealousy & obsession.

 Infatuation means being in love with love.

INFATUATION IS NOT LOVE

LUST

 A physical emotion in reaction to the physical appearance of a person of the opposite sex.

 Involves physical & sexual attraction.

 Is a short-lived, but intense feeling.

 Craves for immediate gratification.

 Does not care for the other person’s emotions.

LUST IS NOT LOVE

 

LOVE

Develops gradually overtime.

Accepts the other person completely, along with his/her imperfections.

Grows deeper with time.

Is much more than mere physical attraction.

Is energising, not draining.

Is considerate, not jealous.

Is built on the foundation of trust.

Love involves being in love with a person.

LOVE NEVER FAILS

IF WE CAN CONDEMN PRIDE, GREED, ANGER… THEN WHY NOT LUST?

God created humans in his image. From times immemorial it has been conceived that we are called to be one and one with God but given the present circumstances that is far from being true. This week’s topic talks about ‘Attraction and Lust’. This is something that has been dealt in each one of our lives.

While interacting with people, individuals come across the members of the opposite sex and during their growth years, experience major changes which have already been discussed earlier. Now the changes have been experienced by everyone but not all of us know the emotional and ethical folds that are in this. Attraction here deals with something that happens between two individuals and that can be considered a step further than friendship but later on leads to two broad pathways, Love and Lust.

To talk about something like this one has to have an uninhibited mentality as these topics are seldom discussed in the public forum. But it does not mean it is less important.

Love and Lust are two separate entities and by no means have they overlapped each other. While I was attending a seminar on Following God in an X-rated World I was enlightened by the following which I really think needs to be shared. This is how love and lust differ from each other. But before going about it I would like to say that Lust is listed under the seven deadly Sins of the world and Love as we all know is a gift from God.

When individuals indulge in Lust they look forward to using their partner while in love they care. This destroys the partner while in love it nurtures. Love is sharing a life with the partner while Lust is just a mere action. Lust involves separation in every way while in love a person emotionally bonds. Lust is visual and genital but love involves the mind, body and soul. Lust most importantly curses the image of God in the partner whereas in Love the image is honoured. Lust later on leads to depravity as it never completes but is temporary. Love on the other hand is a sign of sanctification. Lustful people are always irresponsible and are concerned about their own pleasure. People in love take up the responsibility. Actions done in lust are an act of rebellion against the Almighty while love is an expression of the joy of obedience to Him.

Therefore, friends we all get attracted but the choice is ours. Where do we want to go, the way of Lust or the way of Love? Through this, I don’t wish to condemn or judge anyone as we are all judged for something or the other committed. On another perspective if we can condemn Pride, Greed, Anger, Gluttony, Sloth and Envy, why not Lust?

IS IT NATURAL SEXUAL INSTINCT OR PERVERSION?

Today is a world where we get everything in its distorted form mostly through media. Media highlights only which is trending or happening instead of what is right or should be trending.

The normal instinct of attraction of a female to a male and vice versa is also distorted and projected in a very erroneous way through different types of means. Various magazines, newspapers, adult movies, different adult internet sites & cell phones are the major among the medias.

Women are projected as a sex objects through different types of sexual contents specially made for internet sites, movies, whatsapp sharing.

These sexual contents reinstate our natural sexual instincts with perversions. This is not good and needs to be addressed or countered as early as possible.

 The adverse & after effects of sexual contents and Fantasies:

– Sexual contents mesmerize our minds, make us addicted to it

– It captures our attention and we start fantasizing day and night all kinds of imaginary and unnecessary things.

– This makes us forget our responsibilities and duties given by our parents and teachers.

– Our academic performance declines.

– Our social relationships with family and friends deteriorate, because as adolescents or youth we are too immature to handle our sex drive and its effects.

– Sexual contents motivate and force immediate gratification, which is impossible for the children and youth in reality. This frustrates us and makes us depressed.

– As sexual fantasies are wrong, the children and youth suffer from the sense of guilt and feel extremely shameful.

Friends! Careful of your instincts, let it be natural not perverted.