The whole creation explains how awesome and big is our Creator…
We realize it when we ponder upon His handy works, all around.
Passionate exploits help win battles,
Compassionate endeavours help win hearts.
My pillow at night and my bathroom are two such places where I let my tears shed. But when I am all alone at home I do shed tears freely without caring being conscious. Although when I break down I can weep loud in front of all others as well. It all depends on the situation I am in and the people around me. But that’s a rarest of case. And I really feel very good when someone count all my tears…I mean, when someone values my shedding of tears. That really feels great.
I remember a Bible verse which I want to quote:
You keep track of all my sorrows.
You have collected all my tears in your bottle.
You have recorded each one in your book.
When the Psalmist wrote this he was going through in deep distress and he cries out to the Lord. He lets God know what His character is and how He responds to his struggles.
I stopped there and thought about those two objects that have been used in the above verse, Bottle and Book. I took little time to understand about both the metaphors used here…
After understanding I thought of bringing out two very valuable applications from these metaphors – Book and Bottle for all of us to understand and apply it in our life. They are as under:
- Treat Tears as Facts (Book): We record facts and information in a Book/Notebook so that we read again or refer later about the same. So God records our sorrows, our tears for future reference which He will definitely going to use in some or other way for our good. I never respect those who laugh at me when I cry and weep in pain unless it’s a sibling jokes. Never say tears can be avoided. Tears explain some facts about the person who’s going through pain and we need to record them in our mind and use them for reference when we deal with a broken person.
- Treat Tears Empathetically (Bottle): The idea behind the keeping of “tears in a bottle” is remembrance. We store essentials in bottles. And our tears are like those precious liquids for God who stores them in a bottle. Of course, the verse doesn’t explain bottle literally but just as metaphors for us to understand how He values other’s tears. Now, when it comes to the application part from our side then we need to know that we should value tears of others empathetically. Collecting tears in a bottle means whenever we see it in a bottle stored we will relate with it and be empathetic towards the broken hearted.
In last two occasions I shed my tears while talking to two of my very close friends over the phone. I shed tears when I heard them weeping in pain. And how am I telling you all these…? Because I had recorded and stored their tears in the book and the bottle of my heart. And I definitely know they must have done the same with my tears. And that way the bond became stronger; the confidence on each other strengthened and in future we can always help each other in the times of distress.
We had a wonderful week on the Word Prompt – TEAR and I take the privilege to conclude this topic with these two beautiful applications at our disposal.
Most people are uncomfortable around tears, the society tells us we’re weak for crying; in particular that “strong people don’t cry”. It is beyond my comprehension. Well, ‘people’-again a term beyond my comprehension. We have all had days when our tears just won’t stop flowing which lead to double breathing at that moment.
Kathy, a friend of mine, is a “crybaby” according to everyone. Honestly, yes she is sensitive but she is a human and she is allowed to feel. She has her own issues but her walls are so high and strong that no one can ever break through. I used to find her very intriguing and wanted to get past her walls. After repeated failed attempts, I finally got her to talking. One fine day, in the wee hours my phone rang. Sleepily, I answered. I could hear Kathy crying on the other line. I patiently waited. She asked in between her sobs, “Why didn’t you stop me from crying? Why didn’t you tell me to stay strong, like others?”
I have dealt with many friends through their heartbreaks, be it an end of a relationship or work stress or even family issues. Usually everyone advises not to cry as it is not worth it, but I on the other hand always told them that if you want to cry then cry your heart out as I believe in the healing power of tears. Keeping everything inside for a long time leads to an explosion which is not healthy. Shedding tears doesn’t make one weak, it helps one to get up as a stronger person. Sometimes it’s about shedding the past and blooming anew. It helps release stress as well as expressing emotions. For many people, it is the best mechanism to self-soothe.
I hope people realise the fact that when someone sheds tears, they are breaking from inside and wants to be saved; Calling a person crybaby or ignoring makes a situation worse. A reassuring hug or some kind words may definitely help a little. We need to realise that crying is normal and nothing to be ashamed of. It heals one physiologically as well as psychologically. But one should never forget to rise back from the ashes or that cry was not really worth it.
“It is a relief to weep; grief is satisfied and carried off by tears.” -Ovid
My heart turns numb at times
sealing my lips, with the jumbled emotions
where my eyes convey all my emotions
with the tears in it.
like the mini-waterfalls soothing the rocks beneath
tears soothe my pain underneath my skin
calming my raging heart, like the coolest drizzle on a hot day
reclaiming my part, in a battling talk
like a dollop of ice on the skin, to share the joy
diamonds, on the cheeks, when your happiness knows no bounds
tears bring me a mixture of emotions
where words betray, but the eyes speak.
“There must be something strangely sacred in salt. It is in our tears and in the sea.”
― Kahlil Gibran
You fall incessantly from my eyes covering my face and drawing a veil on my emotions my secret keeper my promise bearer You roll down my cheeks as a reminder of the promise unkept as a reminder of my heart broken and the shards piercing and all the bridges I have been trying to keep in place you roll down gleefully as wishes and dreams are burnt alive I can't cup or hold you you are just bits of salty water you know a reminder of my heart as it fails to contain the insatiable joy inside the welling up of eyes when I can't hide the love inside I hide you behind all the curtains of the curved lip and cursed heart when I don't want you to see that I'm being burnt alive I'm your creator you are born out of me you every iota of existence is compensated by the blood running through my veins I create you but you still manage to defy me. My tears, defy me.
I hear the waves crashing inside me
as they push me to the edge,
amidst the thunderstorms raging in my mind
and aroma of sea salt and moonlit lilies
a doorway opens to the chasm of quiescence
that I was not meant to confront;
And as I wonder what lies beneath
those shining blue sapphires,
the string of ocean flows out of the ravines
caressing my cheeks with the salty brine
soothing and rocking my demons to sleep,
as the sailing anguish on the high seas
meanders it’s way towards the shore;
Those tiny shaking fingers cup the moonlit pearls
slowly waning through the night
into the hushed up dawn.
Just a moment of tranquility
and an aura of accedence,
a silver lining on those hovering clouds
as the ocean of no-thingness
replenishes its unfathomed abyss
with intolerable ocean of dolour again.