WHY DON’T YOU BUY A NEW PHONE?

Exactly 16 years back I bought my first mobile phone. It was a second-hand phone at Rs.2000, that I bought from my cousin. If someone will give me the same phone free of cost today, I will not accept it because it is an obsolete product it has lost its value forever. But that time, it was so precious to me.

Now, if I look back on my journey of buying different phones in the last 16 years then if I am not wrong, the phone in my possession now is the 10th phone. Surprisingly, the phone I am using now has already stepped in its fifth year with me. This means the previous 9 phones were bought within a span of 11 years. BAD!!!

Maybe, I can blame on the evolution of phones which made me keep on buying the recent ones progressively. And I stopped buying any more after I reach a point where I can’t afford to buy another having better features in it than what I am using now.

So the question I asked myself after I read Aastha’s article on this topic, “Why did I stop buying phones after 2016?”

Is it because I learned a lesson about using my money wisely or because the price of the phone I want is not so pocket friendly for me?

I was repeatedly coxed to buy a new phone and was offered money even but I just didn’t go for it but to be honest, a number of times, I had been tempted to just go for it and buy a brand new phone.

I truly do not have greed for a lot of luxury in life. I don’t want clothes, a house, any furniture, a vehicle, home appliances, and a TV, etc. But when my eyes fall on any stationery or gadgets or phones especially, I feel the greed demon dancing within me, coaxing me to give a thought about arranging money and buying them.

But each day as I am maturing I am trying to focus on self and spiritual disciplining. I want to quote the Bible verse that has always made me understand the deeper meaning of acquiring and accumulating wealth and assets.

The verse reads –

“Watch out! Be on your guard against all kinds of greed; life does not consist in an abundance of possessions.”

I understand very well that I should not worry about my life, what I will eat or drink; or about my body, what I will wear. Because I know that life is more important than food, and the body is more important than clothes? Different cuisines won’t improve my life or all different fashionable clothes won’t make me stay healthy. In fact, I should worry about things that are more important for my life and body.

So if I am challenged with the question – “Why don’t you buy a new phone”, I am strong enough to say, “I will buy a new phone only when the present phone is out of order or I will enjoy a new one if you are buying one for me.”

I have learnt to say NO to my greed and the desire to accumulate. Have you?

Stay blessed!!!

REFUSING THE KNOCK OF TEMPTATION

Being tempted is not just one time incident. There’s temptation when a child secretly takes a peek or teeny weeny bite from Mama’s special dish for the guests. It lies in the curiosity of reading someone’s personal letter and leaking company secrecy. It lies in stealing chalks from classroom and going for bank robbery. It lies in giving an adulterous look and in raping someone. It lies in taking diet cokes and becoming a drug addict. It lies in teen time infatuation and in cheating beloved spouse. Every now and then temptation pings you. But the remarkable thing is temptation will always appears before you in its best and stunning form to entice you (Because the devil catches most souls in a golden net – German philosopher).

Now the question is “What to do, if temptation is so committed to me?” Shall I compromise and quote like Oscar Wilde?

Or, shall I say, I can resist temptation with my will power and strong sense of right and wrong?

In one of my youth leadership development training seminar, I and my colleague observed that in our class, there is a guy who is over-caring a girl and is doing his best to convince that girl for friendship. After our lectures we called that guy and tried to know his intention for that girl. Then he disclosed us that, “no sir, there is nothing. I am attracted by her beauty and am interested to have friendship with her!” So, we both advised him that, he is going in a wrong direction and needs to correct himself. During our counseling my colleague quoted him, “fleshly desires are very obvious during young age and it is a good hormonal symptom of our good physical condition. But our fleshly desires need to be under control.”

It is just an example. Like this there are also many other temptations (failing to take diet food, allowing filthy thoughts, staring at opposite sex lustfully, taking cigars/wine, visiting unwanted webpage) that we face every day. Each time we say, this is the last time, next time I will resist myself but alas. I also face many of these temptations in my everyday life. And I resist the temptation by thinking about the consequences and the fall of self-identity if I yield to it! We cannot deny the logical out-work of every action is a reaction. Suppose I take wine with my friend and babbles, then what will be my identity before my friend and people close-by! I will spoil my repute and tag myself as drunkard!

As I am weak before temptation, I need to depend and listen to someone who is strong enough to rescue me.

Who is that?

Is he another human like me?

Is that some human knowledge?

Is that any exercise?

It’s just seeking God’s help. God doesn’t allow temptation to overwhelm us. When we feel its pull, He shows us a way-out.” He shows us the rescue path by reminding us His commandments.

The first knock of temptation comes with an offer. Accepting the offer is giving birth to sin and sin gives birth to death. But all offers cannot be entertained so, the first refusal of the enticing offer can sustain you till the end.

WHAT DO YOU SAY?

Avinash

MONEY IS IMPORTANT BUT NOT EVERYTHING

“Money is the lifeblood of business.”

That’s what we have studied from the very beginning of our commerce classes from 11th standard. Money, in some form, has been part of human history for at least the last 3,000 years. Before that time, it is assumed that a system of bartering was likely used. But slowly as human brain developed the system became of exchanging goods developed and became complicated.

Money was introduced first in some 3000 years ago which was not even known by the scholars exactly. But this instrument has the most talked about, most desired, most needed, most essential one of all things. MONEY MAKES THE WORLD GO ROUND!

But we all know that money has been the cause of a new character that popped up inside the human being… And that is GREED. So it is better to be going through a self-examining the process by asking a question ARE WE GROOMING OURSELVES TO BE MONEY-MINDED?” or “MINDFUL ABOUT MONEY OR MONEY MINDED?”

And there will be a startling fact revealed when we introspect when we understand money is actually what we don’t require but we needed something else. Because WEALTHY ISN’T PROSPERITY which we misunderstood previously.

Sometimes our laziness makes us give an excuse that I am not money minded but we need to be practical and need to be money minded when it comes to taking responsibility. At those moments we might repeat in our minds, “I CONFESS – I AM MONEY MINDED.” 

The bottom line is we should always understand that the SUPERNAL GLEE is THE HEART’S PLEA when we are conscious. 

I had never craved for money in life. I can be considered as lazy or idle sometimes but it is a sense in my heart that makes me feel that money really can’t make me happy and it will come definitely from any source when we really need it in life.

I work in a donation based organization which is solely dependent on donation. If it stops flowing in we will close down. But the amazing fact is donors are very keen on the intention behind our projects. They agree right away when they are convinced of our intentions towards the project which we present to them.

You might ask why I am talking about all this…!!!

I am sharing all these just to convey that money comes when our intentions are right. So I really don’t care about how much money I have. But who said I am not money minded p??? :p

Money has a bad reputation with people who don’t have it.

It has been blamed for everything from wars to infidelity, from destroying friendships to wrecking families. In the minds of the masses, the more ways they can demonize money, the more validated they feel for not seeking their own fortunes.

Instead of seeing the positive ways that money can enhance the most important things in life like our health, family relationships, and friendships, most people would rather scorn money and tell you how it can destroy the things we hold closest to our hearts.

We all are money minded but may be the degree is different.

Don’t be greedy, good night and stay blessed!

I CONFESS – I AM MONEY MINDED

Hello Everyone,

Yesterday night I was struggling hard to add Google Adsense on my WordPress site.  Only aim was to monetize my blog site.  But I failed.  Actually possibility of  monetization of blog sites encouraged me to start blogging.  Or let’s say one of the reasons.  And I don’t shy away from admitting so.  I don’t mind if you call me money minded, I really won’t.  Because if desire to be financially independent or make an extra stream of income is being money minded then I am “IT”.   Not only this but I think of money in every possible situation.  For example I wait for months of sale to shop loads because they offer huge discounts, if electricity bills flare up that gives me sense of tension, an unwanted expense that could affect the monthly budget definitely puts me off.  Though I have a comfortable life but this is the way I think, can’t help it.  And I am not alone who thinks this way.  We all are money minded but not greedy, calculative but not misers, there’s a lot of difference.

To start with I used to work before marriage but marriage and relocation rendered me jobless.  And my quest for job as well as for myself started seven years back and still continuing :).  In this materialistic world success stands synonym for worth of a person.  And what measures the success?  More often than not it is “net worth” I mean how much you earn, properties possessed and likewise.  It is a harsh reality whether we have the courage to accept it or simply turn a blind eye towards it.

Let me give you a simple example of how materialistic the world has become.  Even the donations offered in Hundis (donation boxes) are accounted as annual turnover (can check example of Tirupati, pilgrimage destination in India, even the presiding deity is referred to as “richest god”). Actually what brings a sense of relief is that the money collected is channelized for various agendas like free meals, education, shelter for homeless and so on. But my point is when donations are meant to be secret (if your right hand donates your left hand shouldn’t be aware of it) we often come across news of so and so person donating so and so amount, read millions and billions or kind, read precious things such as gold and diamonds.  Why such publicity?  I see two possible reasons behind that:

  • Tax evasion
  • To let know people their net worth and earn respect.

Now coming back to my case as I admitted earlier, I am a money minded person.  I think of making money day and night, my brain churns out possible ideas of feasible employments (guys wish me all the best so that at least one idea hits bull’s eye ) and there is nothing wrong in that.  For a person who have witnessed difficult days in life the desire to earn money by every possible (legal and moral) way can never be wrong and that person could be anyone.  A money minded person is futuristic as always tries to see into and prepare for future – be it their own or family.  And I am sure we all are traveling in the same boat, right?

To conclude there is nothing wrong in being money minded but your heart should be at right place.  I firmly believe that it’s not necessary to be devoid of morals, principles and emotions to earn money and not every money minded person is scrupulous.  Had it been so then all the millionaires and billionaires would have been cheats and not referred to respectfully.  What do you think?

MONEY MAKES THE WORLD GO ROUND!

“Yes ! Money is the thing that’s making our worlds spin”, this was a quote taught to me by my father as a child. I never completely was able to realize its real power until I myself experienced the difference it makes in my life and those around me.

A few years ago, I was respected, adored, appreciated, loved, sought and pampered by everyone who worked for me directly or indirectly. The street guard would give a stiff salute upon seeing me, he would say Namaste and ask about my wellbeing, how humble I thought. A masseur came for papa, all the way from Birla Mandir, he would daily bring flowers and Prasad from the temple, and tell me how good and beautiful I am, and made me laugh till my belly hurt by reciting anecdotes from temple life. The wait staff at hotels would come running on the nod of the head, they would hover around ready to serve, refilling my glass with a turn of my wrist. They all left me believing that I am real good, that they are most humble.

A few months after my father passed and I tried to gather my wits and start interacting with people again, I noticed a sudden shift in their conduct towards me. The guard kept chewing tobacco when he saw me, gone was the respect, the masseur uncle would no longer bring flowers, the fatherly affection he showered on me had vanished, the waiters wouldn’t come to the table until I asked for them several times, gone was the pampering.

I wondered what wrong I did, self-analysing myself and then I came to know the harsh truth. My father used to tip them all heavily, and money was the driving power that was making them suck up to me, to please him ultimately. It was both exhilarating and distressing. It certainly helped me realise that never take things on face value, there is a lot in underplays to people conduct towards you, and among them, money is the supreme reason.

There’s no such thing as free lunches, even if you are being given and offered anything for free, just know in your heart that its price would be extracted from you one way or another. Even a beggar is expected to give you blessings for the coin you gave him, every little favour done to you is rigged, at least most of the time. You might not see the price tag hanging around its neck, but I am sure that you will be able to see the price you have to pay, whatever form its takes.  But yet one must know it’s worth to know its value.

It’s said money can’t buy happiness, but it certainly helps end the misery. Money is silent, it creeps into your relations and friendships and ends up souring them, keep it in your pocket but not in your heart. Remember the best things in life are free ! 

Money can buy you a bed but not sleep. Money can buy you a clock but not time. Money can buy you a book but not knowledge. Money can buy you a position but not respect. Money can buy you medicine but not health. Money can buy you blood but not life & Money can buy you sex – but not love.