THE BEST WAY TO FACE DEATH IS TO BE PREPARED FOR IT

To emphasise on ‘preparation for death’ would be an unexpected topic to speak about. But yet, today I would like to share about my personal view regarding death.

I’m brought up in a family where I have been hearing from my childhood about life and death not only physically but spiritually too. I was a girl at my teens who always tried to enjoy every single moment of life happily and uncared of the further consequences, follow my daily schedule of life, enjoy performing my hobbies, going ahead with my passion and so on……But yet the matter of ‘Death’ was of much significance to me, it was a silly thing always neglected by me. Until the day came i.e 9th April 2006, when my Grandmom passed away leaving us in grief. On seeing her lying dead on the bed, my heart was shattered and was over-grieved with so much pain and sorrow. At that very moment I felt as if I have lost something very much precious and dearer of my life.

This incident led me to a traumatic situation and I quietly sat in the corner of my room and wondered why she left us. It took me some time to be out of this unstable situation. I was praying for some miracle to take place so that I can get my Grandmom back but then, I suddenly realized the fact that every individual has to die someday or the other. Sickness, accidents….etc. are just matters of reason but the fact is that we need to bid adieu when our time approaches. My Grandmom’s death was a turning point in my life and I started focussing on this very matter. Now I’m aware that I too have to face death one day, so I feel the best way to face it is to be prepared for it beforehand.

Death is of course an inevitable thing which every individual has to face one day. But the matter is how prepared are we to face it? In our enjoyment of life we forget the fact that we enter a new world after death where we can make a choice i.e heaven or hell.  It is something untold and unseen which we are unaware when to face it, so we should always be prepared for it.

I still remember before my Grandmom passed away she was so excited and ready to face death. Her last words to my family was an encouragement not to mourn over her death, but instead rejoice for she will now abide with the Almighty God.  I felt more encouraged when I recently read a poem  titled “May Be” by ‘Monalisa Changkija’, where she too reflects on the fact that death is to come in our life all of a sudden with no notification. But the best way to face death is to be prepared for it. According to the poetess ‘to be prepared’ is the only way to accept death readily with no grief and sorrow in our hearts to bid adieu to this world.

— Arpita Dutta

IS DYING A CHOICE?

Every beginning carries with it the inherent message of an end. Verily so with our lives! No matter how much exalted or how much wretched a person’s life may be, it is bound to reach an end. Scientific advancements have not yet discovered the elixir to immortality.

But, is death a choice that you and I get to make?

People in mere vegetative states lying on hospital beds for years together are pitiable sights before loved ones – brain dead, yet clinically alive. With the prospects of survival very bleak, what should the wisest course of action be? Would it be best to relieve them from their suffering and their loved ones from the daily hassles? Yes, one of the most controversial solutions offered is Euthanasia, otherwise known as mercy killing.

hanging-151491_1280The pressures of their day-to-day lives take a toll on many people. Unable to come to terms with financial losses, performance pressure, broken relationships or merely the monotony and purposelessness of life, several people contemplate suicide.

Complete-and-Incomplete-AbortionAbortion is considered to be the safe way out of an unwanted pregnancy, the possible fear of giving birth to a baby with mental or physical defects, the familial and social stigma of giving birth to a baby girl or the financial burden of feeding yet another mouth.

people-315910_1280Marrying outside the community or religion incurs the wrath of elders who contemplate snuffing out the lives of the erring individuals. Yes, that’s honour killing which is practiced even by many educated and affluent families in India.

All of the above are instances where man decides to play God.

Yes, death is inevitable. Once born, we all are bound to die. But, death is not a choice you and I get to make. Our times are in the hands of the One who has created us and has breathed life into us. Each life and breath is precious in the eyes of God. Preserve it!

DEATH DEMANDS A REALITY CHECK FOR THE LIVING

2It was at 3:30 am in the morning on 28th January 2011, when my Mom called me. I was shocked to see her number flashing on my cell at that hour of the night. I answered her call in fear and she told me crying, “Danny is no more…”

On 25th Jan 2011, my 21 year old cousin met with an accident. His bike slipped and he went under a running bus. The back wheel of the bus ran over his hip. He was waiting for help for almost an hour on the road in that condition. When he was being carried to the hospital by his friends and other people, he was searching for his father before becoming unconscious.

Danny was such a wonderful boy. He used to play guitar in his church. He was an ever smiling guy and was very helpful, caring and adorable. He was a dog lover. He loved them like anything. I can’t believe or imagine till now that he is no more with us.

16Death is always tragic especially those which are sudden. Danny’s death was really a tragic one which shook us all. We went on discussing the incident with each other for months. We cried together, over the phones and alone seeing his pictures. One of my sisters told me that it’s time for a reality check that how we are living on this earth.

Danny’s death made us feel how fragile and uncertain our life is. It is true that we are created fearfully and wonderfully by the Almighty God, but we should not forget our frailty. We and our life are always safe in God’s hands… No doubt about it, but death… Death is a deadly truth for every individual.

The psalmist says, “My times are in your hands” and truly so. Our times on this earth are in His hands. We just have to surrender our lives and live for His purpose before everything comes to a stand still.