CATCH THE TIME

Consumed by indolence,

idle being the frame of mind.

Moons  later, remorse-stricken,

he mourned over

the failures enshrined.

 

Couldn’t catch the wings of time

when it went high and low.

Didn’t have anything to reap

‘coz he did nothing sow.

All he has now

are lessons from the past.

How he could’ve used each day

as if it were his last.

LAZY PEOPLE HAVE NO TIME

If my buddy Kuljeet invites to meet the procrastination queen then I should invite to meet the procrastination king.

Are you ready to meet the king? 😛

Yeah! Sadly I procrastinate a lot and perspire at the end of the course of an assignment or deadline. Anyway, I don’t want to expose much about myself today so feel sad that you might not be knowing more about the Procrastination King. I want to go little more deeper into the subject of “Being Lazy”.

Throughout the week my busy writers (except Kuljeet) spoke about “being busy” and how it has become a habit of saying “I am busy.” But I want to draw your attention to that category of people who have no time at all. They say they are very busy but the story is kind of the opposite as the saying goes, “Lazy people have no time”.

I would like you to consider THREE major areas concerning lazy people or laziness which have been briefed in the book of Proverbs and I have the privilege of quoting them as under on after the other:

1. Mindset of a Lazy Person

 How long will you lie there, you sluggard?
When will you get up from your sleep?

A little sleep, a little slumber,
a little folding of the hands to rest—

The sluggard says, “There’s a lion outside!
I’ll be killed in the public square!”

As a door turns on its hinges,
so a sluggard turns on his bed.

A sluggard buries his hand in the dish;
he will not even bring it back to his mouth!

Conclusion: So we can clearly see that the lazy people sleep a lot, avoid work, give numerous silly excuses, they are kind of passive, depressive and habituated with the slothful lifestyle they are leading. They don’t like to change.   

2. Consequence of laziness:

Poverty & Starvation

Lazy hands make for poverty,
but diligent hands bring wealth.

A little sleep, a little slumber,
a little folding of the hands to rest—
and poverty will come on you like a thief
and scarcity like an armed man.

Those who work their land will have abundant food,
but those who chase fantasies will have their fill of poverty.

Sluggards do not plow in season;
so at harvest time they look but find nothing.

Laziness brings on deep sleep,
and the shiftless go hungry.

Under Subjection

Diligent hands will rule,
but laziness ends in forced labor.

Death & Destruction

The craving of a sluggard will be the death of him,
because his hands refuse to work.

Conclusion: Can you believe how devastating consequence a lazy faces? There will be starvation, scarcity, poverty, stagnancy, no development, no growth, humiliation, low self-esteem because of low status and at the end fatal end.

3. Words of Wisdom for a lazy:

Go to the ant, you sluggard;
consider its ways and be wise!

Conclusion: How important it is to literally follow the instructions of a wise person!!! An instruction to consider the ways of an ant. A lazy loses his/her status of being crown of the creation and needs to learn lessons from a mere ant. A lesson of work ethics, work culture, being hard working and leave procrastination and the habit of being lazy.

 Wonderful! Isn’t it?

Today, I came across a blog of a beautiful professional, Chelsea Suzanne who in her article: “REFUSE COMFORT AND STICK TO THE PLAN” prescribes some wisdom which need to be considered as well for our daily lives. I love one sentence of her article which I want to quote here to end my blabbering:

 I believe comfort hinders many from achieving great things in their professional careers.

Great things never come from comfort zones.

MEET THE PROCRASTINATION QUEEN

OMG look at the time!

I still have so much to do.. Where did the time fly.. Why does it always happen with me….

Hi all meet the procrastination queen.. Yes. That’s me. Give me a dead line and I will wait for the last possible time to meet that dead line. No I don’t do it knowingly it just happens. In my defence I would say that it was never the case that I didn’t do my work. My school / college work was always complete and I was in the good books of my teachers. But I was constantly swaying between a state of complete inactivity and burst of frantic or frenzied activity.

This was the story of my college days. I must say I have come a long way from that. Now being a homemaker and mother I am much more organised (Need to set an example for my kids  …) but still I am far from perfect. Even today, one day before the project submission at my kid’s school you can see a glimpse of the former me and my children, running around trying to complete the model or project on time.

To a certain extent I guess it happens with all of us. We tend to put off work or chores that are uninteresting and boring. But what has to be done – has to be done. So finally we end up doing it hurriedly and in a haphazard manner.

Does it really help to procrastinate? Actually no. If there is something in our to do list that we are just delaying doing, its always there in the back of our mind. A small nagging feeling that does not go away even though we try hard to ignore it. All we are doing is increasing our tension.

And then when the work is over we have that guilt feeling of not giving our best to it. And a small regret that had we done it systematically we would have done a better job. Like even today I carry the regret that had I been more serious during the last few years of my school life I would have been an engineer today like my sister. I would also have a proper career. It was never the case that I didn’t have the brains or capacity it was just that I was lazy. Didn’t want to put in extra effort. And that habit of doing the thing at the last moment was my nemesis.  I had that typical Indian ‘Chalta hai ..’attitude. Never took my studies that seriously.

So guys my learning here is that no matter how boring or uncomfortable the work assigned to you is do it when the time is there in your hands. However much we try to ignore it the work never goes away rather it keeps becoming a bigger monster every time we sneak a look at it.

I really admire the people around me who have mastered the art of time management. I am learning from them. As I understand it’s the best to tackle the most uncomfortable or difficult task first this way we won’t have any excuse to procrastinate. Make a to-do list and start ticking it off systematically. Remember the clock keeps ticking and soon very soon we would regret our decision to procrastinate.

WHAT MOTHERHOOD TAUGHT ME ABOUT TIME

I need to make time for working out.

You should make time for the kids.”

He needs to make time for his check-ups.

These are just random sentences, from everyday lives, but notice how they all use the phrase ‘make time’. How do you think this phrase originated? I mean come to think of it, you can’t make time. It’s there already, right? Did the English make a mistake? Remember how Amitabh Bachaan says in the movie Namak Halal, “English is a fun-ny language”? Not really. There is a lot of wisdom in that phrase.

Why we say ‘make time’ is because, even though time itself is infinite, we have only a finite amount of time to do everything that we want to do; we have to fit it all in those few minutes, hours, months or years that we have. Making time means shifting around your finite amount of time, to make space for that something that you have been sitting on. Ultimately, it’s upto you to manipulate your time to find the time to do something.

These days everyone is busy. We have jobs, bills to pay, our homes to look after, families to tend to, and social events to attend. Getting a breather is difficult and we’re often even working on vacations and on days off. We are so busy that we don’t have time to call, pay visits, celebrate festivals or events with those who matter to us. We just text them  or WhatsApp them and tell ourselves, ‘That should do. They’ll understand because I’m busy’.

But are we busy? Or are we hiding our laziness behind our ‘busyness’?

Do we really have no time to spare, no time to ‘make’ for things that we want or ought to do?

 

Why am I patronizing? I’m no less.

When I was working full time at a law firm, I used to think that I was the busiest person on the planet. I had no time for anything at all. No time to meet friends or family, no time to care for my health, no time to indulge in my hobbies, no time to prepare for my CS exams. I would always cry, ‘I have no time!’ Yet, I would find time to watch the latest flicks, chit-chat non-stop with my homies or go our on shopping sprees with my besties.

Then I got married and suddenly, even though I wasn’t working anymore, I was busier than before. Boy, those late nights watching reruns of shows or Whatsapping friends over the phone, were history. Chores at home won’t end. One would finish and the other would line up for my attention, and by night time, I would be dead tired. But then I enrolled for Masters in Law. And then everything went for a toss! Days blurred into each other as I tried to cope up with the syllabus and the truck-loads of assignments. My family used to complain how they never got to hear from me for days on end. But even then, I would find time to hang out with friends, go out, work out, what not. I hope by now, you’ve noticed something.

But motherhood changed everything!

Time is elastic. When you’re a parent, suddenly you’ll feel like time is flying by and you have no control over your own life. And yet there are moments, like when you’re trying to put your child to sleep, or in my case, when you’re trying to make her eat, you’ll feel like time has come to a standstill. There were days when I had no time to brush my teeth, take a bath or even change my clothes! Everything took a backseat and the one thing I was giving all my time to was my baby. Eventually the baby grew a little self-dependent, but I still found myself struggling with time. Then came a knee injury which finally put things into perspective for me.

I realized that I need to ‘make time’ for doing all that I want to do – like getting a job, or working out to keep myself in sound health. I realized that my excuse of not having time was just a farce for hiding my laziness. I also realized that if I carried on this way, I’d have a lifetime of regrets of never being able to do what I want. That’s when I started working as a freelancer, started my blog, picked up all those hobbies that I’d left behind, reconnected with friends and family that I hadn’t spoken to or seen since forever. In short, I started managing my time so I could ‘make time’ for all that I wanted to do.

I realized that time management comes from constant practice, trial and error, but most importantly, from trying.

The two most important lessons that Motherhood taught me are –

  • While you care for someone, you must care for yourself too.
  • No one will give you free time; you must make it for yourself.

Two years down the line, I’m happy to tell you that I’m a happier person. It doesn’t matter whether my job is working out for me or not, or that my blogging or hobbies are going unnoticed, or that I don’t get to see friends for more than a few hours every once in a few months. But it matters to me that I’m doing all of this while not sacrificing my duties as a mother or as a wife. I’m not giving myself the excuse ‘I’m busy’ anymore. I’m keeping busy in the real sense of the term.

To optimize the use of your time, you have to prioritize and compartmentalize your time so that you can squeeze the most from the very last second of your day. Read a book while you’re putting your child to bed, or call a friend while you’re taking that train to work. If you keep telling yourself that you don’t have time, or keep turning down opportunities on the pretext of ‘being busy’, then you’ll never get anything done, not even your jobs, because there will always be a part of you aching to do something else.

Being busy does not just mean working at a desk job. You can be busy being a parent, or busy being a student, or even as a couch potato. But being busy doing just that one thing, is a waste of a lifetime, because life has so much to offer.

So ‘make time’ for all that you’ve wanted to do – be an artist, a dancer, a photographer, a tourist or just spend time with those you love and want to connect with. Call instead of texting. Meet instead of calling. But don’t hide behind the excuse that you’re busy.

You have just one life. Make the most of it.

 

Pradita Kapahi

TAKE A PAUSE AND RELAX

Hello Everyone,

Guess whose words are these:

Don’t lose life working for a living”

Can you?  Ok let me put a pause to this guessing game.  They are mine!  Sorry if it was in a bad taste but the words need thorough introspection. Let’s do it:

I start with myself: Last year August I went to doctor after suffering for almost six months with pain in the elbow.  After consultation and X-ray i found out that there was a serious swelling in the tendonitis due to excess work pressure accompanied by my neglect.  The treatment course continued for an equal period of six months before returning to normalcy. Though it was not terminal in nature to be discussed on this platform but the severe pain did make me cringe in the course of discharging my duties towards family.  Neglect was not worth.

This is exactly what most of the homemakers (housewives) do – Put themselves last.  In their bid to shoulder and handle the responsibilities of the household and loved ones they constantly neglect themselves.  One thing we must remember and never hesitate to answer – “If I am not in good state of health who will shoulder my responsibilities?”  Answer is NO-ONE because no one can, period.

*Case 1, points to be noted:

  • It’s okay to procrastinate a chore or two for few minutes or hours for that matter, no one is judging you.
  • Take an off in a week for sure.  I know weekends can never be day offs if one is a housewife for obvious reasons.  Then a weekday must serve so, it has to be that way.  Monday is my weekend 😉.

Do you go out and work?  If the answer is yes I would like to ask you few simple questions :

  • what are your working hours?
  • Do you work at (from) home as well?
  • How often you receive calls from your boss after office hours?

Well you can take your time to answer them one by one😊.

Surprisingly the definition or the limit of working hours is getting blurred and diminished making it limitless or infinite.   For example :  An employee who has reached home after tiresome day at office receives a call at dinner table from his boss asking for the details of an important file.  The employee leaving the dinner along with the family waiting aside starts working on his laptop while active on the call on the other hand.

This is not an imaginary hypothetical situation.  Blame it on the cut throat competition or the weak implementation of human resource laws  it is happening for sure (I have been a part of such work culture).  More of a need than choice sadly. What are the consequences:

  • Possibly an attractive incentive with skewed graph of time spent and moments cherished with family.
  • Bonus of reeling under work pressure and disturbed balance of relations.

Do you know that in France it is not mandatory to take office calls after working hours?  It’s okay to put automatic “Out Of Office” reply for mails once you are not in office actually. No one will question that.  The only reason is that the importance of having work and family time balance is given a thorough thought.  Balance is important for a happy life – least to be said.  Had only GDP been a measure of happiness then likes of USA would have topped the Happiness Index, it’s pretty simple.

*Case 2, points to be noted:

  • Bosses not necessarily love you:  Get this point clearly.  In contrast to the first case one should understand that as an employee of an organisation you are not indispensable.  If you are not in a capacity to perform there are many,  ready to grab your position and the employer won’t wink before taking the decision in favour of…. Well I leave it for you to decide.  Taking this into consideration you definitely need a moment for yourself be it a vacation or an evening with friends and family and that too often.  That would only enhance your productivity and keep you alive in the game.
  • It’s only you for the family and vice versa.  Respect the fact.

The crux of this page long discussion was “Pause And Relax“.  It’s good to work and you must, your work must speak for you, but remember  never let your work crush you.

 Relax, you are not Lazy.

Kalpana

KEEP YOUR BUSY WORLD OUT FOR A HAPPY LIFE

“I am busy right now, call me later.”

“I am busy baby, we will do it later.”

 “I am busy, we can eat together later.”

All these excuses we make to our self, on a daily basis for every situation we want to escape or felt extremely lazy to do is a type of procrastination. More often when am working on something, it happens that my little ones come up to me asking for my help. And most of the times I turn them down, breaking their little hearts. At times even when I could take up my time to spend with them, I end up in front of the laptop, rather than being with my kids. 

Little did I realize that I was shattering the sweetest memories that were the foundation of our lives ahead. Most of the times, we can actually give away our precious seconds to our little ones, whom we prayed a lot to bring into this world. The word busy is actually creating craters in the relation. Making those little minds get a different perspective of the busy world. 

I had regretted the moments I lost when I could easily sweep off my busy schedule for the precious and the sweetest smiles in this world. Now even if am on a running spree, I try my level best to at least glance through what my kids ask me to. The end result is, I don’t lose my time as well as I gain an extra parenting inch to my day. 

Actually, I realized that most of the time the word “busy” slips out of our tongue only when we actually are lazy to do things. It is agreeable that at times the body doesn’t actually support your mind. It is always better to take chances. Procrastinating the happiness in your life for the extra benefit of enjoying the laziness can cost you many things in life. 

At times giving up your “extra” busy life for the joyous moments in your life is important. Money or health is not what will make your life smoother, it’s the companionship in your life, which is your family. Ensuring to spent your busy time with family makes it all worth. There is no better treasure than your family. 

The sooner you realize and prioritize your family over and above everything – you will never regret. One should stop giving reasons to neglect the responsibilities with family. 

No home is perfect or stable if the foundations are not strong. Building a strong foundation is only possible when we are keen enough to keep laziness out of our schedule while spending time with family.

So lets all be busy with our family. 

TOO BUSY??? IT’S TIME FOR REALITY CHECK

Quite busy.”

Huh, very busy dear, just don’t know how time is flying.”

How recently have you heard similar answers when you’ve asked someone, “How are you doing ?” Some people are busy, extremely busy all the time. 

Personally I don’t prefer using the word ‘busy’; it is a negative word. To be honest, time is never a constraint, we are. I may defer replying a message by sometime or may not have answered a call but will definitely make time to get back to them. I will never say, “I was busy”. It may be rude to the person who wanted my time. 

Being busy has become a status symbol. In reality what ‘being busy’ means is saying, “I am important to me“, “I don’t have time to spare for you”, “You are not my priority”. It won’t give a pleasant experience for the receiver. A person can be occupied for a day or month, for many months – but if we are telling others that we are busy, we are bragging. I really feel sorry when I hear someone saying ‘too busy’. In the right sense they are mismanaging time.

On the other hand, for some reason a lot of people think, if we say that we have time, it may be perceived as we are not doing anything productive. This is true to some extent. I have had people ask me, “Others are very busy, can you handle this?” Just because I am making myself available does not essentially mean I don’t have anything else to do. If I feel the need I will take time out of my schedule to be there for you. When people take this for granted, compare my life with others and say that all others are busy, it feels like a slap on the face. Isn’t this mean? We have to change our attitude towards “busy”; it is not a good state to be in.

If I take my own case, I am neither busy nor lazy, but there are certain tasks which I always try to keep towards the end, simply because I am not interested. When I don’t pay required attention to those tasks on time, pressure builds up and eventually I will do it. This may not be precisely procrastination because not all the tasks fall into this bucket, only specific ones. 

Job, family, kids, friends, hobbies, passions – definitely all of these are very important, also demand considerable amount of our time.  We all have the same 24 hours and similar responsibilities. Over time if we are unable to manage, we are not planning our day in a way that we can efficiently meet expectations. In short, we are lazy to plan or execute. Our efficiency gets hampered, we multitask, miss our deadlines, we are setting up ourselves to fail. This phase needs an introspection.

A popular notion is “Busy is the new lazy”, at first this might sound harsh, but once we understand what it really means, it makes sense. Successful people are never busy. When I read autobiographies, I often am awed of how they managed time, that seems to have brought them success more than any other factor.

It is easy to find out if we are being lazy, we don’t need to be an expert. If we are being lazy in the name of being ‘too busy’, how do we improve ourselves to do justice for  life’s responsibilities ?

  • Keep a watch on your routine, make a note of tasks that are least important, like playing video games, getting involved in not so important discussions.
  • Make a schedule of everyday tasks, try to stick to it as much as possible.
  • Prioritize the most important things to be handled early during the day. This would help us not to have stress.
  • Find out smart ways of getting things done. For example, Groceries – order them online if required.
  • Focus on one thing at a time and see it through completion.
  • Keep your distractions to the lowest for increased productivity.

Life is too short to be busy. When we are not ‘busy’, we have more time to spend with family and friends, exchange ideas, time to play, take good care of us and others. 

People who are good at managing time always have time, others are always busy !!