The toughest part of any battle is the acceptance of weakness that lies within us and corrode our strength to commence the stride.
Whenever my husband is really stressed he gets different versions of this dream . . .
It’s his school final exam . . . He is late . . . And try as he might he is not able to reach on time…
Or he reaches the venue and realises that he has prepared for a different subject and exam is of a different subject…
The most hilarious one is that he has prepared himself completely to cheat in the exam but in the examination hall he cannot find the parchees (the small chits of paper used for copying). Next day morning we have a hearty laugh on the struggles he faced in his dreams. This way or that he says my struggle with exams is not getting over even decades after I have given my last exam.
There is another one . . . If everything goes well the question paper is out of syllabus.
I believe it’s the same with life. It’s an exam but the syllabus is not provided so the questions are always out of syllabus and we have to use our thoughts and experiences to ace it.
Another quote that Google gave me and I completely agree with is –
Life is the most difficult exam..
Many people fail because they try to copy others
Not realising that everyone has a different question paper..
Yes we all are giving a different exam, fighting mini battles at different fronts. Winning some and getting wounded by some. That’s how life is!
I once commented to someone that my life is pretty ordinary nothing extraordinary in it. Its like a straight path. I had this fairy tale notion that it should be like a wave with crests and troughs. Of course at that time I had been thinking only about the highs and not the lows. And life took my words literally with only a minor change. My wave began with trough rather than crest and I hit rock bottom. About two and a half years ago my husband lost his job and that taken for granted salary at the end of each month suddenly vanished. Since then it’s the biggest exam we have ever faced as a couple. During this time we have had many new experiences – struggling to keep a business afloat, looking for a job, fallout with friends, worrying about the big expenses cropping up suddenly in life. I was not prepared for this at all. I have led a rather sheltered life till now. Worrying about money was never on my agenda. Okay, we were not millionaires but there was enough to go buy. Looking at others I used to despair. Why am I facing these hardships while others are enjoying? (looking at your FB newsfeed its very easy to assume that everyone is having a gala time in their life).
It took me some time to come out of my self-pity but then I realised that its not only me; each and every one of us is giving an exam. Only his or her question paper is different. They may not be struggling in the areas as us, but they are surely fighting the battle on a different front.
These exams / struggles / troughs do change you. I think I am a more confident person now. Gone is that scared girl who used to turn to her father and now her husband at the first sign of problem. I think I can handle things better. Even though the peak of my crest is a long long way away. I really think that at least the ascent has begun.
Wishing Good Luck to everyone for this exam…
P.S. : Since we are on the topic of exams just wanted to share that we as a family are entering that crucial year when both my children would be facing a Board exam at the end of the coming year. And all of us who are familiar with the Indian education system know how stressful it can be. So, keep my kiddos in your prayers and send your good wishes.
The whole creation explains how awesome and big is our Creator…
We realize it when we ponder upon His handy works, all around.
Passionate exploits help win battles,
Compassionate endeavours help win hearts.
I recently watched an amazing video by Dr Vivek Bindra, a motivational speaker, on the Battle of Chamkaur. It was a battle between the Khalsa, headed by the 10th Sikh Guru, Guru Gobind Singh Ji and the Mughal forces. The Sikh army was just 42 in number, whereas the Mughal army was around 1 million.
Unbelievable? Yes, it is. And the result of the battle was the victory of the Sikhs. Dr. Bindra states that during our tough times, we easily give up and don’t try. But, Guru Gobind Singh Ji was such a powerful leader that not only did he think about fighting against such an enormous number, but also won the battle.
It is very easy to quit at the difficult situations we come across, but to be patient and keep trying is the key. Life is full of struggles, we get so many setbacks every now and then- be it at work, at the career front or in relations. But there’s no point in complaining now and regretting later because you didn’t try.
I have a couple of heroes around me whom I simply adore. One of them was my colleague. I always saw her smiling, laughing and making others laugh. Out of curiosity, I once asked her how does she manage to be so chirpy. She told me that its God who has made her so strong. At the tender age of 14, some dacoits barged into her house and shot at her mom, dad and sister. Her sister died on the spot, while mom passed away 7 days later. Her dad recovered and remarried without even letting her know. Torn and devastated from inside, my friend didn’t lose hope and courage. She managed to stand on her feet and became financially independent.
There’s another heroic example of my friend who was going to shift abroad, but just a day before, her husband met with an accident and his leg had to be treated. The operation went wrong and he is still recovering, but he had to part away with his job. Not only the dream of settling abroad was crushed to pieces by the destiny, the financial burden also came up to the family. My friend mustered all her courage and took up a job. She is now financially taking care of her family. And after all this, she remains happy and makes us laugh with her one-liners. She says there is no point in crying and cribbing about the adversities in life because one can’t control it. What you can control is how you face the situation and how you fight against the odds.
So, smirk when the life gives a jerk,
Rise up and don’t give up,
For this life is a game,
And it will never be the same.