ALWAYS BUY A COMPLETE PACKAGE OF REST

As I was going through the articles on the current topic, ‘Rest and Relaxation’ I found people have mostly covered all areas or especially talked about Relaxation. But I have something very important to impart to you all about the word Rest.

Rest is a very comforting and soothing word. Whenever we get to hear that word our mind forms a very comfortable picture of ourselves.

The web dictionary defines it as:

No.1 – “cease work or movement in order to relax, sleep, or recover strength.”

No.2 – “be placed or supported so as to stay in a specified position.”

The Hebrew word of Rest is nuach”. The meaning of which can be the following:

to rest, settle down and remain, to repose, have rest, be quiet, to cause to rest, give rest to, make quiet, cause to alight, to lay or set down, deposit.

Rest or Nuach is actually the mixture of all the above words or phrases.

I find three very crucial components to explain this word Rest. They are as follows:

Physical Implication of Rest: This is actually what we understand by the word ‘Rest’ in this materialistic world. After a day’s hard labour when we come back home and lay our whole body’s weight on a sofa or bed we call it REST. Falling asleep is also understood as rest or resting. Physical rest is very important for us to renew our strength. Our body cannot work like a machine without stopping. We all need rest physically.

Sometimes we need to rest some of our body parts like resting our hands or legs or eyes. Today, Pradita urged me to take rest by closing my eyes and keeping the phone aside ;). My wife works like a machine and she literally fills the gaps by doing something else whenever she gets little time after a certain work. I used to literally shout at her for doing so as that makes her tired and restless at the end of the day. If we look around, people are tirelessly working for money without taking care of their physical body though the physical labor has decreased considerably after machines coming into the picture.

Even the Bible talks about God asking humans to rest after a 6-day work in the week. Physical rest is very important.

Mental and Emotional Implication of Rest: So many times we get tired of life because of the pain, trauma, depression, divorces, heart breaks, death, etc… that we go through and we search for comfort. That comfort is what we call Mental or Emotional Rest. So many times I feel restless even after a night’s sleep. Why? Because my mind has so many things to deal with or so many hurts to tackle that it never allowed my complete being to come to a point of comfort or rest.

A tight hug, few comforting and encouraging words, a listening ear, an empathetic heart brings a restless mind to a point of rest and comfort. Emotional and mental rest is absolutely a top priority requirement as our MIND controls both our body and soul (spirit). So a mind at peace and rest is of utmost importance.

Spiritual Implication of Rest: Now this part is a bit tricky and difficult to understand but equally important as the other two aspects of rest. As we are created with body, mind and soul we need to keep our focus on all three aspects of our whole/complete being. 

Death is the word for Spiritual Rest when we finish our journey here on this earth. But alas, what is that death or rest which leads to hell eternally! A death is a rest in truest sense when we are assured of our eternal destiny or we will be going to  heaven after death. Otherwise it’s not a rest at all instead of being restless eternally.

Belief in God and His saving act confirms our entry to heaven through the gateway of death as a saint says, “as for me to die is gain”. 

Friends! Rest is important in our life. Mental and Spiritual rest are more important than our physical rest. We have to acknowledge this at some point of our life. The sooner, the better. 

Do not forget to ask the complete package of REST from the Almighty God as He says:

“Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.”

Stay Blessed!

MUSIC AND RAIN – MY RELAXANTS

15th November 2014, the eventful day when my child was born – the day we cherish, love and celebrate. It was the day when I finally bid farewell to a life of rest and relaxation. From that day till now, work had been the main part of my day’s schedule. It was not only me but also my mother-in-law who worked all day. My mother-in-law was a banker then. She had a fixed time of work. Her tight schedule always kept her on her toes and kept her busy. Her mode of relaxation was a long drive along the river bank, or a short visit to her sister’s place or a movie night. For rest, she loved to come over to which ever state we lived in for the holidays. I too had similar ways to relax which included a late night drive across the deserted streets, a light mood chat with my mother or husband, playing, cooking, art and watching movies. I used to write poems and stories at times, and was appreciated by many friends and family members.

Those now are the ‘fancy stuffs’ I long for. I hardly get time to even sit. Well, these are usual things that happen to everyone. Male or Female, we all long for our comfort zones where we can rest or relax. Recently, I realized that music and rain are the two things that relax me the most. Whenever I feel down, or agitated or unwilling to have any conversation, I switch on the music. I zone out while working and I find peace. Its a way back to sanity and happiness in my life. Music has always had a calming effect on me. Maybe it is very genetic, but I never knew it could fill me with such tranquility. 

Same with rains! I do not get to feel the water on me but still the smell, the wind, the cooling effect, and just the feeling of rain clouds over me is so thrilling and make me the happiest. Even if its gloomy, dirty and muddy for many, its love for some too.

Though things as such are rarities in life, I try to fill in some of them to my daily schedule. They really pump up my energy and fill me with an urge to work more efficiently. Rest is an utmost requirement of our body. Less of it and our body will tire more and we would age more faster. With the adequate amount of rest and relaxation, our body will be able to work efficiently and keep us away from illness by fighting disease causing agents. Like a machine, which requires a shutdown for a particular amount of time to work more efficiently, our body too requires a shutdown. A complete sleep, a short nap, a relaxing spa time, a perfect massage, a warm bath, a 20-mins walk, a soulful conversation, laughing to the heart’s content can give our body a restart for better functioning.

The soul will also rejoice the flow of energy. Let us also be thoughtful and live a little for our own self. Let us prepare to make memories for a longer period, by keeping our body, mind and heart healthy. Because as happiness is self-made, so are rest and relaxation.

Life is all about balance. You don’t always need to be getting stuff done. Sometimes its perfectly okay, and absolutely necessary, to shut down, kick back and do nothing.                                                                                                                – Lori Deschene

VACATION: A PERFECT WAY TO REST AND RELAX

The other day I was watching a tourism TVC in which a woman was putting clothes in the refrigerator while talking on the phone. It was a perfect advertisement which I could relate myself to.

With work, household chores, usual errands and running a marathon with my kids, I was going totally berserk. Even on weekends I was occupied. And, just like the woman in the ad, I desperately needed a break. I was eagerly looking forward to these summer holidays.

Summer vacation is that time of the year which I wait all the year round. I, with my brother and cousin sisters,  have decided to meet every year so that our children also get to know about the bonding between cousins, just like us. With the pampering parents and the endless talks, summer vacations are a bliss for us. It’s a delight when the three generations get together. We have a gala time visiting places and spending quality time with each other.

Watching our kids playing and fighting with each other, we see our past in them and it’s a real treat to the eyes.

Towards the end of our reunion our spouses also try to join in, taking a break from their offices – adding to the unlimited fun.

This particular summer break is special for me because after ages I am able to spend jovial time with my husband along with kids. As we both are managing our long distance relationship, these holidays were a boon for us as we are together again. Though we only get weekends to freak out, we make the most of it.

Whether it’s summer vacation, or any other time of the year, with spouse, family or with friends, going on a trip helps to lower the stress levels.

Everyone needs a break from the normal monotonous routine and going on a long vacation really helps to relieve stress. As the saying goes – a change in the latitude will help my attitude! Similarly, a temporary change in your ordinary schedule will help in relaxing your body and soul.

So what are you waiting for? Pack your bags, go on a holiday and make memories.

REST, RELAX AND RESTART

Do you frequently try to cover those dark circles of yours with make-up? Think again . . .

No brand of make-up can vouch to remove dark circles completely, no matter how aggressive the advertising may be. Yes, they sure play good concealers. But once you remove those layers of make-up and stare at your stressed face in the mirror, don’t you wish that the made-up face stayed with you at all times concealing those dark circles and the puffed up eyes?

Most of us, be it homemakers, those in the corporate / government sectors, those managing business empires, even students burning the midnight oil – lack adequate rest. Ask the mother of a new born baby and she’ll tell you what it is to stay awake by nights (when the baby is active as if the sun has just risen) and still get up in the morning to manage other household chores while the baby is fast asleep!

Well, the bottom line of it all is that no matter what our age or profession may be, we all get worked up. The grim truth is that we can’t do away with our packed-up schedules ever. But, it is in our hands to find the time to rest and relax. It is an undeniable fact of life that the happier and relaxed a person is, the effective the secretion of the growth hormones and neurotransmitters and hence the greater the longevity. Stress, tension and overloaded work schedules inhibit active secretion of the hormones and neurotransmitters and thus decrease the life-span.

Adequate rest and fruitful relaxation refresh the brain cells and prepare it for further productive work. If you wish to increase your work output, take rest, relax and then restart – don’t push your body beyond its God-tuned rhythm.

Family and work are important parts of life, but not life itself. So, it is wise to find time to rest and relax for some time each day, apart from the occasional planned vacations – so that you present your best self to the world. For some rest and relaxation may mean just to flop down on the bed and sink into a deep sleep, for others it may be to sketch, paint, sing, dance, sew, play, write, read, cook, design, browse, get a massage done, and the list goes on.

Many young and budding individuals are seen to committing suicides, getting into extra-marital affairs or addictions as they find their brains too overworked, with no way out. Don’t kill yourself. Kill your stress.

 

 

WHAT IS REST FOR YOU?

I have too many To-do lists for different times of the day and different activities. So, what are all types of “To Do” lists that I have on my phone (using various different apps) . . .

There is a To do list of household chores for each day. This is an obvious one – I think all women have it if not on the phone then in their heads – List of household never-ending chores.

There is another one for office work. Of course that is needed to keep things in structure at work.

There is yet another important one that contains the list of things I have to do on my commute to and from work. It takes me about 1.5 hours to reach work and that is an important time that can be used quite well. This list contains items like ordering online gifts or groceries, writing articles for Candles, sleeping, watching movies, checking emails and replying to some, talking/chatting on phone with few people, read news etc.

These 3 hours in bus are totally a “Me-time” for me. This is the only time I get to do things that matter to me. Of course, it is not very convenient to do all this in a bus – but if you know Bangalore traffic, you would know that this traffic really crawls. So rash driving is not really a problem.

Relaxation doesn’t always mean vacations. It could be a small time out as well. Something that you just do because you like it. Doing things that you are passionate about can be very relaxing.

There are days when I am so stressed out mentally that I have no energy to think anymore. However, my physical energy is too high, it is so high that I am not tired physically to sleep but mentally I just want to rest. This is what is called a restless sleep. At this time, all that is needed is to match the energy levels of your physical and mental self. In this situation – I hit the gym. And that is rest for me. Because my physical body works out and my mind gets to rest just listening to music. It is a huge stress buster for me after a bad day at work. Once I come back from gym – I am all ready to sleep peacefully.

Definition of rest is different for different people. But it is important to know what is rest for you. If you do not know – life can be extremely difficult.

My 2 year old son is not mature enough to understand that he is sleepy when he really is sleepy. He is so interested in playing that he resists sleep till he has even an ounce of energy left. But playing in a sleepy state is also not enjoyable for him. He is cranky, doesn’t like his toys, cries every now and then, starts hitting others – all this because he simply doesn’t realize that all he needs to do is to close his eyes and rest.

This happens to adults also when they don’t realize that if they take a restful break – life will be much better. Make sure you identify what is relaxing for you and you fill the voids in your day with that activity. It doesn’t matter if it is sleeping, watching TV, listening to music, going for a walk etc. Don’t judge yourself about what you do during this time. Just be yourself and take enough rest and relaxation so that you return to your life feeling more motivated and productive.

THE “ME -TIME”

Hello Everyone,

A page from my routine: I had to pick up my daughter from crèche between 12 noon – 12:30 pm.  It was 12:20 pm already and I was still at metro station at one end…nervously checking my phone every two seconds to check the time and waiting for the arrival of train.  When I finally reached the place, I was just two minutes late but the journey kept my heart racing and brain churning for entire 30 minutes. In short I was in “Tension”.  Recalling those 30 minutes now makes me ask a question or two – what would have happened if I was late? Perhaps they would have kept my daughter for five extra minutes  that’s it!  Why the hell was I so worried about it?  We come across many more such incidents where we constantly combat or at least try to combat our fears and insecurities.  We live by time frames and targets; swear by results and get obsessed by achievements.  

So indulged we are in the race to outdo others and sometimes ourselves that we have mortgaged our inner peace.  Broken relationships, anxiety, skewed balance of life, depression and an entire array of emotions that mark an unhappy individual are the bonus that we are accumulating everyday.

What to do now? I tell you, just relax! Make it a point to have a time of yours, spend time with yourself where you explore yourself and understand yourself.  In short “Meditate“.

Take a deep breath and “Meditate”.  Open the doors of your brain shutting out all the negativity and letting in the positive energy, focus and channelize your energies to something more productive and something more meaningful i.e. your mental peace.  Because it’s your inner peace that could help you see more clearly both sides of an issue, take better decisions and eventually grow as a person be it on emotional front of relationships or success in profession.  Meditation should be a part of our lives which could give us “Me Time” in the otherwise hustling and bustling world around.

How to define Meditation:  To sum up simply it is detoxification of brain.

How to Meditate:  Does Meditation means sitting at one corner with crossed legs and closed eyes precisely?  I would prefer to say “No”.  For me personally it is nearly impossible to concentrate that way.   It’s not my kind of thing 😊.   One would meditate to let the agitating self mellow down, let the brain to breathe, to focus and stop worrying about literally anything and everything around.  And this is only possible if one gets the much-needed medicine of happiness, the real one.  How to attain that?  What are the  alternatives to the general idea (perception) of Meditation?  Here they are:

Gardening:   It definitely gives immense happiness to see something grow out of your fingers (now don’t take it too literally, I meant touch).  Being close to nature, getting your hands stashed with mud, sowing seeds, watering and finally see the yield – a different sense of achievement, isn’t it?  Don’t be amazed if you meet people who actually spend time talking to plants as if they are individuals and evolve along with them.  Try it yourself.

Cooking:  I am not joking because for many it is just a boring routine chore.  How can it be a way of relieving the stress?  If you cook with love (may be for yourself 😉), try to experiment ( not necessarily to please others) without feeling the pressure to meet the On-Table Demand then you can actually shut the negativity out of chimney along with the smoke.

Long Drive:  Now don’t go to fetch your mean machine from the garage (save it for your routine schedules), I am talking about your long-lost, forgotten companion – bicycle.   When was the last time you rode it?  Wasn’t it fun?  Why don’t you take it along again and spend some quality time.  Feel the whip of air on your face, sweat in your palm and emptiness in your head (I mean devoid of all the frustration and negativity).  Physical fitness + clean environment is a bonus, what say?

Put on your dancing shoes:  Shut the world out and dance.  Dance your brain out and let your hair down.  It’s a great stress buster (believe me, tried myself quite a few times).

Practice any art:  When I say “Any” I mean “Any”.  If your heart is in love with any form of art and for any reason it couldn’t be your profession well that could be the reason for your frustration  in life ( there is a possibility) but at the same time that could give you a getaway from your tensions.  Pottery or poetry whatever it is, give it a chance to escape from the wheel of monotony, release your agonies and anxieties be new you!

Reading:  Well I am not an avid reader but for those who are, there can never be a best companion than a good book.  Pick from the lot and switch on your “Oblivious To The World Mode“.  Just see how well it works.

These are few possible ways to beat the stress and renew your energies – my way of looking at things. Whatever activity we choose the underlying factor should be Happiness at the end of the day.

Always be happy and do share your thoughts on this.

REST, RELAX AND BE THANKFUL

What a perfect time to write about Rest and Relaxation! Summer vacations have just ended for a few and have just begun for a few. This is the time when almost everyone takes time out for some or the other form of relaxation.

But why do we need such time? Have you ever noticed? – If the computer is behaving erratically or if the Wi-Fi is down, and it seems the modem is not working. The first bit of advice that we get is switch it off count till 10 and switch it on again. And 90% of the time it works. The following quote explains the whole thing.

Almost everything will work again if you unplug it for a few minutes… Including you. – Anne Lammot

We are all busy making something out of our life for it to mean something. We get involved in it so much that at times we forget to give ourselves a break. And stress of our daily life mounts on us. That is where rest and relaxation comes in. So, my dear friends never get so busy making a living that you forget to make a life.

Is there a difference between rest and relaxation? Yes, even if we take a few minutes off from some strenuous work it is resting. Sleeping is resting. It gives our body some time to rejuvenate. We have all studied in Biology our body uses the sleeping time to rebuild. Many illnesses like body aches and pains and mild fever etc. are cured by a good night’s sleep.

Wherein relaxation is like meditation. It helps us unwind our mind, reduce the stress, pressure, anxiety etc. Many a times it is possible to rest without relaxing. When people have difficulty sleeping, or are restless during their sleep it is because their mind is so wound up and knotted that they are not able to relax or let go.

Coming back to our work after proper rest and relaxation increases our work potential and the quality of our output. Like they say ‘A field that has rested gives bountiful crop’.

Going on an exotic vacation is an obvious way to relax. Seeing new places, meeting new people and having different experiences gives our mind a perfect way to break out of our monotonous routine and stress of our daily life. But it is not always possible to get enough leave from work or afford an expensive getaway.

So, what are the other means to relax? I would personally recommend that we should have a regular relaxation routine instead of depending only on our annual vacations. It should be something that so completely occupies your mind that there is no space left for our niggling worries and tensions.

Playing a sport is one such activity. Because we need to concentrate so much on our game we tend to block out all other thoughts from our mind. So, playing while being an excellent exercise for our body becomes a very relaxing activity for our mind.

Same is the case with music. Singing or listening to music or playing an instrument also has a very calming effect on us. All the agitation or stress inside us just flows out of our body.

There are many other such activities. Like any kind of hobby, taking a walk in the greens, getting a massage, even doing social worketc. etc. I would look forward to hear from you all what is the most relaxing activity that you do.

Different things work for different people. For example, I hate spending time in the kitchen. I spend only the bare minimum time in kitchen that is required for cooking the daily food. But for my mom – in – law…she loves cooking and making different dishes. So, what is stressful for me is a very relaxing activity for her.

Look around and find the activity that makes you forget all your worries when you are at it. And make it a part of your regular routine.

If nothing else works the most tried and tested one is meditation and prayer. Be thankful for the things you have and give your worries to God, blank out your mind and start with a clean slate.

Rest, Relax and be thankful.