All this week through we have emphasized upon the fact that human heart can be awfully deceitful. It can not only be full of self-deceit, but can also be brimming with ideas to ensnare others. While we need to accept this undisputed truth, we also need to acknowledge that we can choose not to allow ourselves to wallow in this fallen state forever. So, then what do we do about it?

Let’s take for example a young lady who has a cupboard full of worn out tattered clothes. She knows the place where she needs to go and buy new clothes for herself so as to replace her old wardrobe. She also has the required money with her. But, she is so much attached to her old clothes that she just cannot go and buy new ones. After prolonging way too much and realizing that she is being looked at with raised eyebrows, she eventually buys new attires for herself. However, she still continues to dress herself in the worn-out clothes. Now, who can help her?

She alone can help herself! She has to decide to replace her old wardrobe with the new one.

We are so much habituated to hearts filled with self-centeredness, hatred, anger, jealousy, pride, malice, self-righteousness and fame in ourselves and in others, that we do not feel the need for a cleansing of our hearts. And, if our hearts do get cleansed we are still hesitant to replace the old with the new.

Replace hatred with LOVE

Replace injustice with JUSTICE

Replace strife with PEACE

Replace self-centeredness with SELFLESSNESS

Replace jealousy with CONCERN


Replace suspicion with TRUST

Replace sadness with JOY

Remove the tattered garments from your heart and enrobe your heart with new raiments. Spread the fragrance of newness all around you and let people wonder how your heart has changed!!


“Deceit is in the hearts of those who plot evil, but those who promote peace have joy.”

When I was thinking about this quote from the wisdom book of Proverbs I was nodding, “Yes…” repeatedly.

Deceit in the long run makes us sick whoever we are… But as it says further whoever wants to promote or spread peace will always stay joyful.

Try it once and twice to see how effective and beneficial it is to have a deceit free heart.

Stay Blessed!!!


They were eight youths in all. Five of them were known to the family. So, they could gain easy access into the house. First three of them rang the doorbell of their friend’s house. His unsuspecting wife welcomed them in. They sat chatting over cups of tea as they waited for her husband to reach home from work. On arrival, he was a bit surprised though not alarmed, to see them. As he joined his friends, his wife went in to prepare snacks for the group. Then the doorbell rang again. This time two more friends joined them. Within minutes the five overpowered the man and strangulated him. Next, they stabbed his wife to death in the kitchen. They were not done with it. They then smothered the couple’s two children in the other room. Within hours, a family was wiped away. And, mind you it was not an act done in the heat of the moment. It was a well-schemed act. While the five were executing their plan of action, three others kept a watch outside the building.

This is a true incident that is just a few months old. There are many such devastations that happen each minute on the face of the earth. Most of them are pre-planned and well devised acts aimed to cause harm to others.

God Almighty gifted human beings with a pure heart and created them in His own image. Above all, He has put eternity in our hearts. Instead of having the quest for eternal happiness and riches, we often choose to fill our hearts with hatred, anger, jealousy, pride and malice. Consequently, our hearts begin to nurture these seeds and reap the fruits of destruction. A deceitful heart is first deceitful to self and then to others around.

A heart that is true to self will hold others in esteem and not plot evil against others. It’s a wise heart that meditates on the precepts of truth, peace and love and sows the seeds of harmony and goodness all around.


“Keep and guard your heart with all vigilance and above all that you guard, for out of it flow the springs of life.”

Human heart in literature is mind in medical science. Now whatever it is, we need to know this fact that our heart is a storehouse where many things can be stuffed in or stored.

Me being a counselor keep many secrets in my heart. Secrets of others or confidential matters concerning others I keep in my heart closed and safe.

Confidentiality is an very important ethics and elements of any sort of counseling. But in general also when we share our heart with somebody we expect he or she should keep my secret confidential and safe within his/her heart. And I need to do the same when somebody shares very personal and private with me.

I understand ‘guarding our heart’ can also mean maintaining confidentiality against spreading rumors and gossiping.

We will talk more about our heart in the coming days…

Stay Blessed!!!


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“The human heart is the most deceitful of all things, and desperately wicked. Who really knows how bad it is?”

Human heart is the most complicated of all. If we see the world today we find how wicked a human heart can be. Have you ever watched “Crime Patrol?” If you have watched it ever you could imagine how a human heart can scheme! The extent of which is unimaginable. 

Just think about our own self. How much we pretend? We pretend to be good… We pretend to be kind… We pretend to be caring for somebody whom we don’t even want to see… We pretend to be ‘not at home’ when we are…

Pretending something which we are not is horrible when it is found out. Whether in small scale or big we pretend and we scheme everyday. Whether it is in our home or at work place.

We will talk about our heart more throughout this week in the remaining days to come.

Keep reading and keep commenting…

Stay Blessed!


An ancient proverb says, “Guard the heart with all diligence for out of it proceed the issues of life”, meaning, the things you say and do reflect deeper, important life issues. A wise teacher from the Middle East once reiterated this in a different way, “Make a tree good and its fruit will be good, or make a tree bad and its fruit will be bad, for a tree is recognized by its fruit. You brood of vipers! How can you who are evil say anything good? For the mouth speaks what the heart is full of.  A good man brings good things out of the good stored up in him, and an evil man brings evil things out of the evil stored up in him.  But I tell you that everyone will have to give account on the day of judgment for every empty word they have spoken.  For by your words you will be acquitted, and by your words you will be condemned.” This same teacher said later concerning food and activities that people considered ‘unclean’, “Don’t you see that whatever enters the mouth goes into the stomach and then is eliminated? But the things that come out of the mouth come from the heart, and these make a man ‘unclean’. For out of the heart come evil thoughts, murder, adultery, sexual immorality, theft, false testimony, slander. These are what make a man ‘unclean’ but eating with unwashed hands does not make him ‘unclean'”. This means that whatever we say reflects the uncleanness of our hearts and these ‘harmless’ words are ultimately what make us (or reveal us as) ‘clean’ or ‘unclean.’ Teachings like these sober me up very quickly. What this means, ultimately, is that I only have myself to blame for the condition of my heart and that I must own my actions and words and blame them on no one else but myself. This is what was meant by “give an account”. Stephen R. Covey, author of 7 Habits of Highly Effective People wrote similarly, “If you start to think that the problem is ‘out there,’ stop yourself. That thought is the problem” [emphasis mine]. He also states that until we realize that our lives’ are a product of our own decisions (and no one else’s), we will be unable to choose otherwise for ourselves. If we are reaping negative consequences in our life, it is best to consult the soil of our behavior (our heart) and not blame the sun, thorns, or water around us (our conditions).

What is even more shocking to me is a quote that talks about how our heart is constantly deceiving us. In a pivotal time that preceded seventy years of slavery in the foreign land, Babylon, a leader and teacher of the people of Israel, very wisely warned his people concerning their hearts and the trouble they were being led into,”The heart is deceitful above all things and beyond cure. Who can understand it?” ‘To deceive’ means ‘to deliberately cause (someone) to believe something that is not true, especially for personal gain.’ This means that not only is your heart convincing you of something that isn’t true, it is doing it for personal gain (fame, self-honor, impure pleasures, etc.) This frightens me because the problem with this kind of self-deception is that the source is YOU (or rather, your heart), which makes the deception nearly inescapable. Not to mention, if even *I* don’t understand my own heart…then who does?? Ultimately, if what we are believing isn’t true, then we are living in a fantasy world. We are like the fanatic that dresses up in a superhero costume and jumps off a high-rise while echoing the popular song, “I believe I can fly!” It doesn’t matter how firmly our hearts have deceived us into believing something if it isn’t true. If I stand out in the middle of a busy lane, blind-folded and yell defiantly, “I don’t believe in traffic!” What’s going to happen? Can you visualize it? It would be an ugly and tragic sight. I’d like to think that I’d have some loved ones around me to shake me from my delusion.

This brings me to my next point. If we are the source of our own self-deception, how can we possibly escape it? I’d like to propose 4 solutions: One, surround yourself with friends who will tell you the truth even when it smarts a bit. Another favorite proverb of mine is “Wounds from a friend can be trusted, but an enemy multiplies kisses.” If the people around you are constantly numbing you and themselves to life’s difficult questions and trials with meaningless activities and praises, then I recommend you find a group of friends who will challenge you to grow as a person both in character and deed (as the two are inseparable). Two, find a way to process out the things that you are dealing with. Whether that is journaling, praying, or counseling with a trusted friend, sometimes you just need a “sounding board” to figure out what’s real and concrete in your life (But…a word of warning, be mindful, your friends are susceptible as well). The pause-inducing fact of universal self-deception brings me to my third tip, whole-heartedly search for the truth of a matter, no matter what it is. If you dedicate your life to pursuing truth no matter where it leads you, then your path will be sure and your feet will not slip. Do not assume that you already have the truth because you may only have part or have been unwittingly convinced of an untruth somewhere in your past.  I primarily cultivate this by being a continual open-minded learner and listener (but not so open-minded that my brain falls out). If I maintain a teachable heart and ask myself, “Is there truth here? Is there something new that I can learn from this person/idea?” then I believe I’m well on my way to escaping the deceit of my own heart. After all, it is only revealed input from the outside that will help me align my heart with the truth in the innermost part of my being. [While I’m on the subject, a warning to those of you who have everything “figured out” (although if you’re reading this I suspect that may not be the case): if you are not “teachable” you will never grow and will remain the same person your entire life; unable to be corrected, you will be unable to be encouraged; unable to be a learner, you will never have anything of substance to offer anyone else. In short, be teachable or stay where you are until your sojourn here expires. I say this harshly that I might “wound” some of you into life and healing].

In summary, in order to fight the natural self-deception of our hearts you must:

  1. Surround yourself with loved ones who will challenge you to grow (even if it hurts a little)
  2. Live a life of self-reflection and “analysis” through things like prayer, journaling, and wise counsel
  3. Don’t let truth escape you. Bind it around your neck and write it on your heart. Search for it like you would hidden treasure. If you don’t find it as you search, it will more than likely find you.

I sincerely hope that whatever wisdom I have to offer has shone through and helps guide you along your path and that whatever is not true would fall on deaf ears and blind eyes. Thanks for reading and I pray you found something to carry with you and that if it helped, you’ll share it with a friend.