In the last article of the topic “Guilt & Conscience” helps us to understand, “how bid good bye to the guilt.”
Tonight, I will talk about renewed mind and conscience which is really important to live a life of freedom and liberty from the clutches of guilt and sin.
Set your affection on things above, not on things on the earth.
Materialistic thinking or desires really made us live on lower value systems. The urge to gain wisdom and thinking high is very rare. Those who live above the corruption of this world have always kept a clean conscience. We need to keep our eyes and mind open to find them as our examples.
As it is always better to think and follow,
Whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report;
You need to take time to think in a quiet place to understand what I am trying to convey here.
Do not be conformed to this world any longer with its superficial values and customs, but be transformed and progressively changed by the renewing of your mind focusing on godly values and ethical attitudes.
The world teaches about false and superficial value systems. The general public always follow the wrong things. Negativism is always easy to follow or imitate. But living in discipline and high values with a transformed mind is really very difficult.
Let’s take responsibility of living with a renewed mind and conscience this Year in 2016 by focussing on things of high value, following which are good and live a transformed life.
Conscience is the soft gentle voice of reproach present within all individuals. When a person is preparing himself / herself to commit an erroneous act, there is a sure nudge of the conscience that s/he experiences. However, continuous and repeated acts of misgivings as a result of consciously ignoring the pricks of the conscience, result in a dead conscience. When a person commits an erroneous act the very first time, there is a considerable amount of guilt. This is because the person feels convicted by the nudging of the conscience. At this juncture, a person responds in either of the following two ways:
The person responds to the conscience by realizing the mistake, repenting for it and resolving never to repeat it
The person ignores the convicting voice within and goes on with life as though s/he has not committed any wrong
Responding in the first way, makes it possible for the person to overcome the guilt pangs with time. However, a person who chooses to ignore the voice of the conscience fails to overcome the guilt within. Rather s/he masks the guilt by various means. Overtime, s/he turns deaf to the voice of the conscience. As a result, the erroneous acts multiply and their intensities increase too.
Many of us have been nurturing a dead conscience within us throughout this year. And so we have ended up hurting ourselves and people around. Some others have been nursing our guilt pangs every single day, not knowing how to deal with them.
It is vital to keep the conscience alive by heeding to the gentle nudging at all points of time. To be conscience-stricken is to keep the way open to deal with the guilt within. The golden rule is: Realize, Repent, Release and Resolve to refrain.
Realize your mistake.
Repent for the wrongdoing.
Release the guilt pangs.
Resolve never to repeat it.
Bid a goodbye to all your guilt in the old year and welcome the New Year with freshness!
All of us have felt guilty one time or the other in life? It might be a huge guilt that burdens our heart down or a minor one that just goes away with time. Last 2 days we learnt about true and false guilt – but how do we know the difference between the two. How do I realize that the guilt I am feeling now is really a true guilt or a false one? I could identify about 4 reasons of feeling guilty – that might help one figure out the difference.
Breaking the promise
Breach of a promise makes us feel guilty. If you promised a friend that you would go out for a movie with her and have to cancel at last minute, it leaves a little guilt inside you. I promised myself to not eat too much fatty food yet I feel guilty when I indulge in a second chocolate pastry.
Not meeting the expectations
We live in a society and people have certain expectations from us. Our family comes first in this case. I know mothers who feel guilty about not spending enough time with the kids. Sometimes siblings drift apart from each other and that becomes a reason of guilt.
Telling lies is a complex process. We all have told lies to our parents about eating an extra chocolate or bunking classes. Now as adults the lies get more and more serious and could be a strong cause of the guilt.
Hurting another person
Hurting somebody’s feelings intentionally or unintentionally does make most of us feel guilty. Nobody likes to hurt the other person unless one has a strong feeling of revenge. This is one guilt that most common.
Doing something immoral
This area is quite grey because moral values can differ for people. Highly immoral activities are also illegal like murder, rape, theft etc. – these activities are black and white, but there are also moral values that have been changing with times and also differ depending on cultures and families. For example, 20 years back a woman engaging in pre-marital sex was considered highly immoral by Indian middle class community; today it is considered ok by majority of Indian middle class. A woman engaging in pre-marital sex would have felt high amounts of guilt 20 years back than the woman of this date. So in such cases, the feeling of guilt out of morality differs largely on a person’s up-bringing and society.
So, if you feel guilty about something – try and find out which category does your reason of guilt falls into and then probably you can better judge whether it is a true or false guilt. Living with guilt is like living in a feeling of constant failures. More guilty you feel, more negative you will get. It does not help. Do what it takes to come out of that guilt – but just remember not to hurt anyone in the process of getting rid of your own guilt.
June Hunt!!! Yes, she describes further talking about guilt. She gives a list of false guilt which should not be within our hearts troubling us till the end…
False Guilt is based on self-condemning feelings that you have not lived up to your own expectations or those of someone else.
False Guilt arises when you blame yourself, even though you’ve committed no wrong, or even though you’ve confessed and turned from your sin.
False Guilt keeps you in bondage to three destructive weapons – shame, fear, and anger.
False Guilt, ironically, is not resolved by confession. (The past keep coming up again and again)
Now, this kind of guilt has to be dealt carefully and should be given up at once or else it will literally torment the person day and night.
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Do you guys remember June Hunt? I had mentioned about her earlier. She is the host of the Nationally Syndicated Call-in Counseling Broadcast Hope in the Night.
She talks about ‘Asham’ a Hebrew word for Guilt. She says,
“Asham, with its many derivatives, paints a three-dimensional picture of true guilt.”
She further describes guilt, I mean true guilt as follows:
True Guilt refers to the facts of being at fault, deserving punishment, and requiring a sacrificial offering.
True Guilt is the result of any wrong attitude or action that is contrary to the perfect will of God.
True Guilt is the result of sin whereby a penalty must be paid for your sin so fellowship with God can be restored.
I will explain what she is talking about in a simpler way with few examples.
True guilt comes when somebody realizes his/her fault or wrong attitude towards somebody. True guilt comes when he/she makes himself/herself available for the punishment and correction. She mentioned about “Sacrificial Offering.” Sacrificial Offering doesn’t mean any animal or bird sacrifice but it is a true offering of our body, soul and mind to God to restore the vertical (Spiritual – with God) as well as horizontal (Social – with fellow humans) relationship. Sacrificial Offering is something which we do to compensate our wrong attitude towards the person against whom we have commit the sin.
Have you felt guilty for your wrong doing? That’s better… If you are not guilty of your wrong doings and your committed sins then start thinking seriously about your attitude.
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