GOAL SETTING ACCORDING TO THE PEOPLE AROUND THE WORLD

I really like reading the quotations of people around the world. I have compiled few of them in this article which are related to the subject of “Goal Setting.” The quotes are as under:

You have to be the one setting your own goals, trying to achieve those goals.” – Johnny Bench

  
 
 
 
 
 
Keep reading and keep thinking…
 
Stay Blessed!

 

WHY DON’T MOST PEOPLE SET GOALS?

There are many reasons why don’t people set goals. Some of them are mentioned as under:

1. PESSIMISTIC ATTITUDE: Some people often have a pessimistic view towards life. They only look at the negative side of everything rather than the positive ones.

2. FEAR OF FAILURE: Before trying to attempt something, some people often give up thinking, “What if I don’t make it?” People feel subconsciously that if they don’t set goals, they can’t fail. But they are failures nevertheless… for, having no goals is the sign of failure.

3. FEAR OF SUCCESS: Low self image or fear of having to live up to their success causes some people to fear even their success.

4. LACK OF AMBITION: Our limited thinking prevents our own progress. There was a fisherman who while fishing used to throw the big fishes back to the river and keep the small fishes for himself always. A man watching this unusual scene asked the fisherman why he was doing so? The fisherman replied, “because I have a small frying pan.” Most people never make it in life because they are carrying a small frying pan i.e limited thinking.

5. FEAR OF REJECTION:  Some people are worried of what other people will think if they are not able to make it. They are scared of being rejected and criticized by their family, friends, relatives, neighbours, etc.

6. PROCRASTINATION:  We all procrastinate at some point of time in our life. But procrastination only leads to build negative attitude and leaves us in a regretful state of mind. Some people practise procrastination by hiding behind high sounding words saying, “I’m analyzing”. And six months later they are still analyzing. What they don’t realize is that they are suffering from a disease called “Paralysis by Analysis” and they will never succeed. There is still another breed of people who procrastinate by saying “I’m getting ready”. A month later they are still getting ready and six months later they are still getting ready. They are suffering from a disease called “Excusitis”.

7. IGNORANCE OF GOAL SETTING: Some people have no one to encourage them to set a goal. They think they can be successful in their life without even setting a goal. But they ultimately end up in failure and start blaming their fate.

Are you thinking the same way and not setting your goals ahead?

Arpita Dutta

CREATE A DOCUMENT OF YOUR LIFE

All of us have big wishlists. I want a lot of money. I want to look pretty/handsome. I want to lose some weight. I want to travel the world. And a lot of such things.

There is nothing wrong in having wishlists, in fact that is the first step to actually realizing what you want in life. The problem is most of us stop with just the wishlists and do nothing to make those wishes a reality. Even worse, most of us blame the circumstances for not being able to materialize those wishes. That’s just human nature.

There is only way to make it happen, to make it possible for you to live your wishes – by creating goals for life. This is the way to go about it:

Create a life document. Imagine that you are at least 20 years more than your current age and think what your life would look like. Open a notepad and start with the sentence – “In year 2035, I will be 50 years of age and will have…. ” Start completing this sentence with every wish you have. Be as specific as you can be.

Now imagine that you are 15 years from your current age and think how your life should be then to achieve what you wrote in the previous page. Start the sentence with “In year 2030, I will be 45 years of age and will have… “. Again be as specific as you can be.

Now imagine that you are 10 years from your current age and repeat the same exercise. Then imagine that you are 5 years from your current age and repeat. Next for 3 years, then 2 years and then the goals for next year.

Once you have these documents ready, you can revisit them every month or quarter and check your progress with respect to your goals.

This is by far the easiest way to realize your goals and fulfill your wishlist. If you really follow it to the core and do not change your wishes often, there is high probability that you will achieve what you wrote in the first document 20 years from now.

Have this life document and keep it alive at all times. Make it the vision of your life. Imagine and live it every minute and there would be nothing that can stop you from achieving it.

HOW IMPORTANT IS BACK UP PLAN TO OUR SET PLANS OR GOALS?

I came back from office and reached home at 6:08 PM this evening. I was sick, feverish, cold, coughing, hungry and extremely tired. I had no write-up in my hand for tonight. I had no way out but to sit and write myself.

You must be thinking why I am sharing my problem with you…

Because I feel there’s something for me to learn with regard to the subject of “Goal Setting”… “Back up plan!” That’s what I didn’t have apart from being agitated or worried.

Every plan or goal we set for something important to be achieved, needs to be well backed up with Plan B or Alternatives. If I don’t have an uncle or a brother or a friend or a local driver to drop me in the airport early in the morning at 4am, then  I will be in deep trouble if my booked taxi turns my request down at the nick of time.

Even if we memorized “7 LITTLE KNOWN GOAL SETTING TRICKS” yet fail to make a back up plan then we are more likely to be failing to achieve the set goals or achieve it with much difficulties.

I hope now you all understood why I shared my problem first. The goal of Candles Online is to publish an article every evening at 7 PM. If we don’t keep a back up write up in our hand then we will be unable to publish at 7PM that evening.  And by the way, I can’t write this same article every time we are in this kind of situations…. Lol 😉

So friends, always have a strong back up plan to your set goals…

Stay Blessed!

“SMART” GOALS FOR PERSONAL LIFE

If at all you want to set goals – set SMART goals. SMART stands for

S – Specific
M – Measurable
A – Achievable
R- Result oriented
T – Time bound

Most of us have heard of SMART goals at our workplace, but how many of us really apply it in our personal lives as well. Personal goals are as important and should go through a proper planning and direction. What are some examples of SMART goals

  • Financial goal – Save upto Rs. 1 lakh by end of July
  • Pleasure goal – Go for an international vacation by end of December
  • Health goal – Eat junk food not more than twice in a month
  • Health goal – Reduce at least 2 kgs by end of January
  • Hobby goals – Read at least 2 novels by end of March
  • Hobby goals – Paint at least 1 canvas painting by end of June

It also helps a lot if you make time to note your progress on each goal. Say if your goal is to save Rs. 1 lakh in next 4 months, you should have clear plan of how much will you save each month/week. How exactly will you save? Where will you cut your expenditure? Which bank account will you keep your saved money?  Making a clear and concise plan of achieving your goal makes it achievable.

So, there are many such personal things that you can have goals for. Having clear goals gives us a very clear direction and more importantly it gives us a huge sense of achievement if we are successful. If we are not successful then it gives us a better analysis of why we failed and hence a better learning.

I personally try to have a lot of hobby related goals because hobbies are the things that get ignored a lot in interest of work and family. But I realize that it is very important for me to have a good “me time”. Having hobby goals also makes every day very interesting. I don’t have to think what to do with my free time, I just have to look at my goals and set my priorities right – even the free time is my travel time or few minutes before I sleep.

Having SMART personal goals enhances personal life tremendously. It makes you way more organized and arranged. It can give you amazing fruitful results in the long run.

 

7 LITTLE KNOWN GOAL SETTING TRICKS

Lesson 1: The most important rule of writing your goals down is that you must follow if you want to achieve success.


Most of us already know that it is vitally important to write your goals down.The simple mechanical act of writing makes your goal visible and tangible.That’s no longer just a thought! Now it’s a commitment. But there is one rule you must follow to succeed that very few know.

It’s not enough to write your goal down…

… You have to describe it in complete detail!

Make it as specific as possible.

Compare: “I want to buy a new home” and “I want to live in a new two story gorgeous Victorian style home with 4 spacious bedrooms, luxurious living room with a fireplace and hardwood floors. I will enjoy my large backyard with swimming pool and patio…”

 “I want to make a lot of money” is not the goal. It’s just a wish.

“I want to make $10.000 monthly with my business by July 1st.” Now that’s the goal.

fountain-pen-1053697_1920After writing your goal down in complete details don’t forget to make it visible! You can write it on a yellow note and stick it on your computer. Or even better-print it so it would fit 4×6 picture frame, then frame it and put it on your desktop. You can also print it on your business card and put it in your wallet. Try to surround yourself with little reminders. This will help you to stay focused on your goal and create a clear mental image of what you want.

Lesson 2: The one question you must answer before you take action.

There is one question you must answer before you start achieving your goal. Failure to answer that question will result in lack of motivation and failure to follow the plan. Take a piece of paper and answer this question in writing:

WHY do you want to achieve your goal?question-mark-1026527_1920

No, not just because “I want”. There are reasons behind your dreams, usually dozens of them. And if you realize why you want to reach your goal, you’ll be most likely to follow your plan till the end.

For example, why would you want to lose 15 pounds in 2 months?

  •  To look good
  •  To feel good about yourself
  •  To fit in your favorite dress
  •  To impress your spouse

List every single reason. Try to imagine all the benefits. The truth is that the longer the list, the stronger your motivation will be. Read your reasons first thing in the morning. Even better, frame them and hang them on the wall. It will keep you focused and motivated.

Lesson 3: How to trick yourself to finally get started working on your goals and stay on track until the goal is accomplished.

I’ve heard this hundreds of times.

“Think Big!”

“Dream Big Dreams!”

“Make Your Goal As Big As You Can Imagine!”

run-1013729_1920So, okay… I’ve written down my BIG, almost out-of-reach goal. After all, I don’t want to underestimate myself. I know I can do this but…But often after a full day at work I’m just so exhausted…to start working on my big goal. I don’t have enough energy for BIG goals. So I make a dinner, watch TV, do the homework and think “I’ll do it tomorrow.”

But tomorrow never comes.

Every evening I’m too tired to work on my goal. Day after day I’m feeling more and guiltier. As weeks pass by I’m getting more depressed….Have you ever been in this situation? If yes, there’s a small trick that will help you to get started no matter how big your goal is. Every night write down a small task for the next day. Make it as tiny as you can. Something that would take 10-15 minutes. Let’s say your goal is to lose weight and you decided to work out every day for 30 minutes. You could write down your assignment: “Do one exercise for lower abs 10 times.”

Yes, just one exercise, just 10 times. It would take you about 3 minutes. The secret is that the most difficult thing is to get started. Once you got started you’ll 95% most likely finish the whole 30 minutes work out! Even if you just do one exercise for 10 times, it is better that nothing. You wouldn’t feel guilty and depressed  you’ve fulfilled your assignment! And if you do more you’ll feel even better! The trick is to give yourself a really small task: To make a phone call, or to read one page of a textbook. And once you get started you will actually find out that you won’t mind doing more than you planned!

Remember, set big goals, but make your tasks small.

Lesson 4: One simple yet powerful technique that drives you into action every day and helps overcome procrastination.


writing-427527_1920Unfortunately very few recognize the astonishing power of personal success journal. It takes only 10-15 minutes a 
day to write down your achievements and the tasks you’ve accomplished. But these 15 minutes a day have the power to transform all your life.

Success journal motivates you: By writing down your achievements you will be able to feel the progress. You will see how by small steps you’re moving closer and closer to your goal.

Success journal eliminates temptation: It will be easier to resist temptations since you know that you have to write down what you have done tonight.

Success journal simplifies your life: Things become much simpler when they are written down. A journal makes you more tolerant of life’s distractions.

However you should be aware of three rules of keeping a success journal:

  1. Write only what you’ve done: Don’t write what you still haven’t done and what you have to do tomorrow. List only accomplished tasks and achievements.
  2. List even small things: Everything counts! A phone call, a chapter of a textbook or your decision to pass by the chocolate cheesecake…
  3. Make it a daily habit: Don’t skip days! Even if you’re exhausted make sure you write at least 1-2 sentences in your success journal. Even if the only thing you did was thinking about your goal.

I urge you to take a notebook and start to list all your completed tasks. In 30 days you wouldn’t possibly be able to live without it.

Lesson 5: The secret formula that helps you define the perfect moment for working on your goal.

clock-1060458_1920Are you waiting for a perfect moment to work on your goal? Are you sure you will be able to recognize the perfect moment when it comes? There is one simple formula that instantly tells you the perfect time to start achieving your goal.

The perfect moment = NOW!

Yes, right now, this very second is the ONLY perfect moment to start working towards your goals. No, it’s not tomorrow or Monday or the first day of the month. Right now. Don’t waste your life waiting for a perfect conditions or perfect opportunity. They don’t exist. Use what you have, start right now, never ever procrastinate! Have you ever noticed that all the successful people are very dynamic? They don’t lie on the couch…waiting for the perfect time to start doing something. They get up and DO it. If you’re still trying to put things off and make excuses to do it later, in the next lesson you will learn how to overcome procrastination and become a person who loves the thrill of getting things done.

Lesson 6: How to stop putting things off and convert yourself from procrastinator into productive, effective person who loves the thrill of getting things done.

Are you the person who always puts things off and promises himself to do it later?

Then this technique is for you. Next time you catch yourself trying to put important tasks off, take a piece of paper and answer three simple questions.

  1. Where you are?
  2. What do you want to do?
  3. How you will feel while doing it?

While writing down what do you want to do you will already imagine yourself doing it. And it won’t be very difficult for you to get up and do it.

dreams-1015613_1920Let’s say you’ve been putting off organizing your closet. You always find more important tasks to do and it’s never enough time to clean it and put everything in place. Just sit down, take a piece of paper and begin writing: “It’s Saturday, 3:45pm. I’m sitting in the living room couch, drinking tea. I want to organize my closet. It will only take me about 1 hour and I will feel energetic and satisfied that I finally got it done. My closet will be clean, everything will be sorted and in place….” Just as you’re writing it

you feel the desire to get up and do it. Because you want your closet organized, you want to feel satisfied and you’ve already imagined yourself doing it.

Remember, all you have to do is to answer three questions. Where you are, what do you want to do, and how will you feel while doing it. It’s a very simple technique but it works like a magic!

Lesson 7: The one simple technique that will make any boring task a pure fun and increase your productivity by more than 125%!

Do you know how to turn monotonous boring task into fun? Make a game out of it!

folder-1016290_1920For example, time yourself and keep trying to improve your time. Let’s say you have to peel 20 potatoes. Challenge yourself! Set a record of how many potatoes can you peel in 3 minutes. Then try to beat your own record. Or you can time yourself to see how long it takes you to peel one apple. And beat your record again! The good thing is you will always be a winner. You can turn any boring task into fun game. Just use a little imagination! This simple trick has proven to increase productivity by more than 125%! Use it and you’ll notice that you’re getting more work done in a less amount of time.

So that’s all from my side in this edition. Enjoy your weekends, achieve your goals, and don’t forget to have fun!

Author’s Bio: Sulagna Dasgupta has been writing about self-improvement and relationships for more than 5 years. Her websitewww.loveinindia.co.inis India’s first dedicated relationships & marriage blog, also offering FREE unlimited anonymous relationship counselling. Her mission is to facilitate more open thinking about love & relationships in India in the long run.