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Authenticity has always been an issue in a country like India, simply because with over a billion people – you’re always gonna get ‘different versions’ of the original – be it a message, product or simply a service rendered.

What to believe? How much to believe? Even if we see something in-front of our very own eyes, at times one can’t trust them either.

The topic today is about ‘Spreading Rumors’, something that we are all very well versed with. Starts as early as in our schooling days and well…goes on, doesn’t it? 

“We think we have it under control, but we never do – do we?”

Have we at any time spread a rumor? – an innocent one surely, a time when we didn’t even know what the word meant. Yes! we all have, but the idea is to stop the spread of rumor and teach it to our children too because it could (in most cases) only end up damaging someone’s career/life all together.

In the year 2020, we’re definitely wiser – not all of us fall into the ‘I-believe-everything’ category – that would be plain foolish to believe everything we see, hear and also feel. “Feel” – yes, emotions are right up there too.

There are of-course reasons why people indulge in such trivial activities. It could be.. to be part of a certain group, feel superior/or to be in control to others (now don’t people love doing that?) jealousy, revenge or simply to gain attention from people.

Is it a healthy practice? No way. Nothing good can ever be achieved by doing so.

38 years of existence in this world and I’ve never found another’s life as exciting as to talk about it, like/dislike or even have anything to do with it. So technically, if there’s nothing to talk about, the question of rumors don’t even remotely apply. Then, there are people who I meet, whose sole motive in life is to talk about other people and in the process may/maybe spread false news about them.

People lead their lives their way, do things as they wish, see people they want to, indulge in activities they feel right. Some get away with a lot of luck, others don’t.

How does it affect another person to pass a judgement and to say how right or how wrong they’re living their lives. Please! AVOID!

Recently I met a colleague I had worked with a few years ago, and as two people meeting after a long time – it is expected that they need to share information about life, common friends, colleagues etc. Only this time…she had me on the other side and I don’t normally feed on such kind of talk. She went ahead to tell me about her personal life stories, stories about the boss we once worked under, the colleagues we worked with etc. I’m sure 90% of all that was BULL. After some time she realized that she wasn’t getting any kind of reaction from me, she said she was getting late, shook hands and said goodbye. 

So you see… that wasn’t too hard now, was it? If I can do it, so can you. But, WILL YOU?

Doesn’t the word “PRIVATE” mean something to you? If it does – you would know best that keeping to yourself is sometimes the best gift we can give ourselves..and to others to an extent.

Rumors especially, spread faster than any other authentic information – simply on the principal of: what goes into a rumor is interestingly parceled and told to another person using different tone variations, specifically picked out chosen verbs and the right mix of adjectives, which of course when heard sounds so much nicer – obviously and short enough to evoke a curiosity of a ‘tell-me-more’ kind of situation.

Facts/authentic information on the other hand sound very normal and drab.

The next time you find yourself in the middle of an exchanging information session (a fancy label for what we locally call gossip)Think! are you being a part of spreading a rumor? or just part of a healthy conversation. That said, we all know there isn’t nothing called as a healthy conversation.. we’re always including people’s stories and sorry to say, but most of them aren’t healthy at all!

STOP the Rumors! Discuss recipes, apps on your phone or even about the last novel you read. Educate others.

 

WHEN WAS THE LAST TIME YOU DID SOMETHING DIFFERENT?

It is said when you do the same things day after day – Time seems to fly faster

So my obvious next question would be:

What are some of the different things you’ve done this year?

I asked this question to my daughter last night… she looked at me and smiled.. and after what felt like a couple of hours… she said;

Papaaaa.. I went to the 3rd standard, I made so many new friends (and went on to name all her classmates) I fell down in school yesterday, I won the first prize in the writing competition, I passed my English test with full marks, I got a new tooth etc etc

…and I thought to myself what are some of the different things I’ve done of late, of course besides going to work and back?

Time really does seem to fly as we get Older…

“Who are you calling ‘Old’?” remarked my father from the other room.

The thing with parents is ‘They-Hear-What-They-Want-To-Hear‘ 

I didn’t mean specifically him or anyone at home in particular, I just threw an open ended sentencethings I do once in a while.. just to see if people are paying attention to me and opinions are always welcome.

I am not talking of the ‘older lot’ in particular but in general.. Young or old – we all get 365 days to complete the yearly circle, so we really do not have a choice right?

This year (2019) has been extra-ordinarily quick – from the very first month of January 2019, we’ve all said it at least once a month. We can all agree to one thing, the year has rushed by us and however fast this year is passing by, we would all be asking one question to ourselves

Have we all set out to do what we’ve planned for the year?

We’d have all different answers for sure, but whatever it might be – we’ve all set out to create wonderful memories (throughout the year) with friends, family, general acquaintances and perfect strangers.

What’s been my highlight for the year?

I’m not even sure on how to answer this question, its not because there’s so much that’s happened but… the fact that so little has happened, to even mention it might sound so minuscule and insignificant – so I’m gonna keep it to myself.

However, does joining the Candles Online group of talented writers, qualify to be  a HIGHLIGHT of the year? I definitely think so. Also a FIRST for me. I’ve never been a part of a group possessing such a wealth of talent. I couldn’t be happier, even if I was here only just to be a part and learn. To be allowed to learn and contribute has been a very humbling experience.

Oh yes! And besides aren’t we all at the end of a decade? a whole block of 10 years (of course most of us have spend more than 3/4 decades on this earth – but whose counting right?) .. and NO I’m not gonna look back on it. Whatever has happened has happened for the best!

I tend to put a few questions in my ‘End-Of-The-Year’ posts, just two in this one. But if not in December – then when?

Wishing the last few days of December.. be of slowing down, only to shut-down completely on the 31st and re-boot to new beginnings in 2020.

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P.S: …and yes, I am not married – as yet (with reference to the above text) nor do I have a daughter who is in the 3rd standard, someday she will be and I’ll read this post to her then. Needless to say, she’ll be excellent in English and be a blogger like me (I passed my English test with full marks || I won the first prize in the writing competition)

WRITING IT DOWN SEEMS EASIER…

“I need to say something.. but I don’t know where to begin”

“Why don’t you just write it down then?”

“Yes, I think I’ll do JUST that”

Sometimes, it just easier to write your feelings down than express it verbally in front of another person. Besides 8/10 times the other person isn’t even paying attention to you. Writing and subsequently reading gives us the time to ponder over the words written, the emotions attached to it and brings out one’s most vulnerable side to the people who matter the most (something that a person does not feel comfortable doing in public)

So, the other day when I was asked to give my opinion on a particular question:

What is that one thing that makes you feel that you should let others know about it by writing it down?

I didn’t have to think much – it was always going to be ‘feelings’. I’m sure for most of you, it would be the same. It need not be in the exact words of how your mind is playing it out for you, but in the form of poetry, a drawing, a rant or a simple 2 liner which when you read – it isn’t just the words that you read, but the meaning behind it that a writer/blogger/friend/lover is trying to portray through it.

In the world we live in today, people do not like to leave written proofs of anything – let alone a heartfelt confession, a genuine love letter or a greeting card. It is really hard for the youngsters of today to actually experience what feelings the written word could evoke (which in comparison to the spoken word ..a lot lot more), rather than just speaking and letting it out of your system- more a moment of shock than anticipation to the other person.

It was way back in college that I had written an article on the local newspaper, in appreciation of my teacher, who I thought was the nicest person back then. (if you know me personally, there isn’t a long list of people who fall in the ‘nice’ category) I could have gone up to her and told her that, but I decided to write it down, have it published on the daily newspaper and present it to her in person. She was my psychology teacher.

While you might say, speaking it out is faster and more convenient, Yes! I agree. But there’s a reason why some people resort to simply writing it down. (Blogger v/s Vlogger – a debate in itself maybe?

If you don’t believe me – reach out to your phone, click on the whatsapp icon and read through some of the message you’ve received (even some of the forwarded ones) would that person ever say something like that to you in person? Highly unlikely! People just do not understand (lack of understanding skills or time – no idea!) but are quick to react, and of course the most important factor that I think most of us fail to recognize is knowing that we are afraid of being judged, when comments like these are ready to be thrown at you.. you’re too emotional – – – get a grip on yourself woman – – – aren’t you a softie – – – man up!

Writing rather than speaking in person, provides a sense of security. and a more well balanced, well thought out, outcome!