Authenticity has always been an issue in a country like India, simply because with over a billion people – you’re always gonna get ‘different versions’ of the original – be it a message, product or simply a service rendered.
What to believe? How much to believe? Even if we see something in-front of our very own eyes, at times one can’t trust them either.
The topic today is about ‘Spreading Rumors’, something that we are all very well versed with. Starts as early as in our schooling days and well…goes on, doesn’t it?
“We think we have it under control, but we never do – do we?”
Have we at any time spread a rumor? – an innocent one surely, a time when we didn’t even know what the word meant. Yes! we all have, but the idea is to stop the spread of rumor and teach it to our children too because it could (in most cases) only end up damaging someone’s career/life all together.
In the year 2020, we’re definitely wiser – not all of us fall into the ‘I-believe-everything’ category – that would be plain foolish to believe everything we see, hear and also feel. “Feel” – yes, emotions are right up there too.
There are of-course reasons why people indulge in such trivial activities. It could be.. to be part of a certain group, feel superior/or to be in control to others (now don’t people love doing that?) jealousy, revenge or simply to gain attention from people.
Is it a healthy practice? No way. Nothing good can ever be achieved by doing so.
38 years of existence in this world and I’ve never found another’s life as exciting as to talk about it, like/dislike or even have anything to do with it. So technically, if there’s nothing to talk about, the question of rumors don’t even remotely apply. Then, there are people who I meet, whose sole motive in life is to talk about other people and in the process may/maybe spread false news about them.
People lead their lives their way, do things as they wish, see people they want to, indulge in activities they feel right. Some get away with a lot of luck, others don’t.
How does it affect another person to pass a judgement and to say how right or how wrong they’re living their lives. Please! AVOID!
Recently I met a colleague I had worked with a few years ago, and as two people meeting after a long time – it is expected that they need to share information about life, common friends, colleagues etc. Only this time…she had me on the other side and I don’t normally feed on such kind of talk. She went ahead to tell me about her personal life stories, stories about the boss we once worked under, the colleagues we worked with etc. I’m sure 90% of all that was BULL. After some time she realized that she wasn’t getting any kind of reaction from me, she said she was getting late, shook hands and said goodbye.
So you see… that wasn’t too hard now, was it? If I can do it, so can you. But, WILL YOU?
Doesn’t the word “PRIVATE” mean something to you? If it does – you would know best that keeping to yourself is sometimes the best gift we can give ourselves..and to others to an extent.
Rumors especially, spread faster than any other authentic information – simply on the principal of: what goes into a rumor is interestingly parceled and told to another person using different tone variations, specifically picked out chosen verbs and the right mix of adjectives, which of course when heard sounds so much nicer – obviously and short enough to evoke a curiosity of a ‘tell-me-more’ kind of situation.
Facts/authentic information on the other hand sound very normal and drab.
The next time you find yourself in the middle of an exchanging information session (a fancy label for what we locally call gossip) – Think! are you being a part of spreading a rumor? or just part of a healthy conversation. That said, we all know there isn’t nothing called as a healthy conversation.. we’re always including people’s stories and sorry to say, but most of them aren’t healthy at all!
STOP the Rumors! Discuss recipes, apps on your phone or even about the last novel you read. Educate others.