A regular scenario:
A woman murmuring angrily and washing dishes “how I wish I haven’t had accepted the marriage proposal, I was blinded by your rosy words. Every friend of mine is leading a dream life – holidays, gifts, maids – what not and look at me here I am stuck in a vicious circle of breakfast-lunch-dinner-dishes-dusting” and as the obviously upset wife was continuing with her complaints and work ‘Boom‘ a strong sound from another room disturbs her rhythm. She hurriedly washes her hands and rushes in the direction of the sound, wiping her hands on her sides and shouting “what happened, what now” and suddenly all her angry/complaining tone took a U-Turn to worry. She saw her husband lying down on the ground as he slipped on a wet floor (thanks to kids getting hyper on a weekend) and wriggling in pain.
“Oh! You have to be watchful, you are not a kid anymore. What if I was not around. Look what have you done to yourself” and the flow continues (in-built in a woman’s genes 😁) while on other hands she was blasting up kids for such irresponsibility. And she helps her husband to get up and get to a comfortable place. Hurries to get medicine, applies it and sits beside him to comfort him.
All the angst she was carrying disappeared in the air in a fraction of seconds and her love and care for him came to the surface.
It’s a pretty normal scenario we are grown up watching, experiencing in our own lives. More miles we cross together, more milestones we reach more and more monotony sets in (majority follows the suit) making us doubt the very root of our relationships. But time and again many situations arise that restores our faith in love and determines our strength as a unit – a couple.
Reason beyond monotony: When we mark the beginning of our relationships (committed ones, marriage or otherwise) we are set out to discover each other – likes, dislikes, mood swings, characteristic traits and much more. This journey of discovery and self-realisation is always interesting. And definitely with an ample amount of Romance sprinkled the commencement is always colourful, bright and interesting.
But things take a different turn (not a U-turn necessarily) when we know each other really well and responsibilities of providing a safe & secured future occupy our priority list. Efforts to thrill, surprise or cajole each other definitely take a back seat. Perhaps sometimes we take each other for granted as well when it comes to the “Romance” part of life. A petty example: a boyfriend reaches his girlfriend at her short notice leaving everything else at the helm of fate. But when the same person is a husband and additionally a father can’t do the same thing unless an emergency is awaiting his attention for he is working to shape a better future for his beloved family.
Well, I won’t start off again on concepts of Love-Romance-Responsibilities, boring, right?
But Monotony has to be broken. For a simple reason – too much sedimentation of monotony could push love into the darkness of oblivion which is present but not obvious. And that’s the point where harmony in a relationship is at stake. Monotony in a relationship is one of the reasons resulting in issues like infidelity, extramarital affairs because “New and Undisclosed” always attract. Comparisons and fall outs could also be probable outcomes of a never ending uninteresting routine.
How to break monotony: I am not a columnist working for a magazine answering questions concerning relationships but I have few things in my mind (thanks to observation & experience) that I want to share, might come handy someday 😊:
- Revisiting past is important to rekindle the lost giggles. Watching photographs, DVDs, a small talk over a cup of coffee about the treasured memories can help a lot in bonding again and again.
- Quality time together. Not necessarily expensive holiday trips but a stroll hand in hand, chirping or sometimes saying nothing just letting the golden silence sink in to dispel the disturbance caused by the clutter of words resonating in mind.
- Cooking, yes you read it right. Cook your partner (oops I mean for your partner 😂😂) for the way to the heart is via the stomach. On contrary, you can also skip to cook sometimes, for the first step in breaking the monotony comes from breaking the schedules and anyways online ordering is so easy, use it, folks!.
- Sharing chores often helps two ways – reduces the work stress and more time spent together in disguise, productively too 😁.
- Gifts (though not a great supporter, yet won’t reject it completely) do work wonders.
Always remember one thing: Romance may fade over a period of time but love doesn’t. If it’s the love it’s always there, just break the monotony to realise the beautiful feeling of being in love.