NOTE: Excuse me if you find this write-up similar to “My Bucket List” but nevertheless it’s a part of that list. And most importantly don’t draw any serious inference from the title for I am leading a blissful life. And before you get sneak peek into my dreams here’s a small story that I want to share with you all:
In the year 2017, I met a stranger on my way back home after picking up my daughter from crèche. He approached me and asked me if I could just walk down the street with my baby and cross the VILLAN. Yes, you read and heard it right, I said Villan as I was accidentally offered a role of extra in a Flemish serial to be aired this year, Undercover (name of the serial). Yet no clue when I mean which month and if I will be seen or not, that was special to me as I earned for the first time after my marriage. That was petty but was MINE. I lived my otherwise so far elusive dream that day.
IMPORTANT NOTE: We had to do four to five re-takes (I was perfect in walking though).
My Independence – Financial Independence has always been my dream. I have mentioned it so many times before as well. I did enjoy that before getting hitched in wedlock. From taking petty odd tuitions to being an executive in a financial institution; from meager 1K to 30K+ per month in Indian currency and I had it all. As the digits changed, as they ascended they gave immense pleasure. The increasing purchasing power in hand did boost up my confidence in being an equal supporter and contributor in the family. Evolving standards of living did mark their presence felt in our merry times, felt fortunate and blessed.
Now after almost a decade of apparent unemployment (don’t miss to read between the lines) and reading innumerable times “We Regret To Inform You” I still yearn to live my dream once again. Though I am blessed to have a roof over my head and a comfortable life with no dearth of any sorts I have realized it was not the amount in hand but the role and the place in the set up that mattered. The sense of being equal and being able to contribute makes a whole lot of difference, that’s my opinion though. Nevertheless, that would take away nothing from millions of housewives working 24×7 to make things work and keep the flow intact for the family and I am an active member of this section. Trust me, ladies, we are doing absolutely great!
But my longing for a job (my dream but not a dream job, will talk about it in another write-up) is not about just money only, for the Belgian Tax System suggests me to cool off my heels at home. For me it’s about my identity, interaction with the world outside, new learnings, regaining my confidence, enhancing the horizon of knowledge and more importantly it’s about one’s preparedness for the uncertainty that lies ahead in life. When life throws lemons at you, you be ready with your apparatus to make lemonade out of it 😂.
You can safely call me materialistic but my experience says that a pay cheque in your hand is not ONLY about purchasing power but it’s also about enhanced confidence of being an active partner when it comes to running affairs of the household; it’s about equally able to question as answerable you are; it’s about giving your family/partner an assurance that they are not alone in their journey; it’s about better preparation for future ( as said by the richest man Warren Buffet two streams of income are always better).
And this is what I suggest to my near and dear ones – strive for financial independence to ensure stability in the long run for economics do have an impact (if you know what I mean).
So I won’t stop dreaming about living my dream with and for my family. Though a lazy bug I am, I will surely work out a way to the realization of my dream one day – Hopeful and Willing too.
Anyways I won’t mind facing the camera again 😂😂😉 (that’s called being over-ambitious and fantasizing). Any suggestion on this path of dream realization is welcomed.