In our school days we have studied about minerals and ores that are hidden underneath the warm bosom of our beautiful earth. And we know how the ores are extracted from the earth through mining. They are then refined to extract the valuable elements. That process is called Ore Dressing which we know very well. This ore-dressing begins with breaking down the ore to required sizes by crushing, grinding, straining etc. Thereafter, the ore is physically separated from any unwanted impurity. The impurities and unwanted materials are removed from the ore increases the percentage of metal in the ore. Then moisture is removed from it and further they are processed to separate the valuable metals from everything that are useless. Then those metals, say valuable metals like iron, copper and gold etc. are used in for many things.

I find those metals are very good allegories of the VALUES that we inherit genetically from our parents and ancestors. Though, recent research is suggesting that – the moral sense or values is largely developed after birth and requires particular kinds of experience. I don’t agree with these theories at all and the basis of their researches.

I believe, I am fearfully and wonderfully made in the image of God with the attributes like love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, faithfulness and just etc. These are all the innate values we have in us by birth even we are born to many different fathers named, ‘Tom’, ‘Dick’ and ‘Harry’.

To prove my point I want to pose few questions before you…

“Does a child seek love from the people around him, at least from his mother?”

“Does he fight for justice if another friend does injustice to him?”

“Does he try to be faithful to his family members by obeying them sometimes?”

“Does he offer a chocolate to his friend or friends those who don’t have?”

We all know the answers to these rhetorical questions…

A child always likes to be loved, accepted by all or his mother at least. The sense of love is there within him and when his mother or father nurture that value more by displaying the value LOVE in the family he grasps it more, the more refined love. Similarly he has the values like faithfulness, kindness, being just and so on which he displays at times as well. Unless someone has these values within themselves they won’t be expecting it from others as well.

Thus, everyone irrespective of their religions, castes, creeds, coulors, nationalities etc., has those innate moral values within them though everyone doesn’t get the right atmosphere to get them nourished and refined to display them prominently and in a more useful ways. Some display the crude love, some display little more refined and processed love and some show pure gold like love to let the whole world dragged towards them.

Now, when the issues of selfishness, cheating, hopelessness, injustice come into the picture we totter and get confused. But let me shock you again… These are all inherited as well. They genetically transmitted to us from our parents.

Why? How?

It’s because of our fallen sinful nature as I was sinful at birth, sinful from the time my mother conceived me.

But the good news is these are all not part of the image of God and can be pruned out, cleansed from, burnt completely from us.


Let me get back to what I had started with – The Process of Ore-Dressing.

Just as the ore is dressed and purified so that the metal extracted is useful for various purposes, so also when the sin that stains the pure values by virtue of our creation can be cleansed so as to ensure that our God-given values shine forth.

The sooner we realise that our pure values are not yet visible, the more eager we will be to discover them.

Have you ever spared a thought to it? We are mostly satisfied in the values we possess and are busy transmitting the values that we are taught. And so, we fail to recognize the need to unearth the God-given values embedded deep within us.

My dearest buddy had written a beautiful poem for the occasion which I would like to mention at the end as a conclusion to my piece. Her poem is the cream of the cake that I made tonight:

My dear little miss
Let me tell you a story
In which generations
Have bestowed upon us
The value of lessons learned.

(Image Credit: Google Inc.)

Embracing this child of new
I pass onto you
Nurture mother earth
For she is your home.

Lend a hand
Give a hug
To those who lack
Kindness and love.

Throughout your years
I will teach you the values
I hold dear
Inherited and gifted by God above.

(C) 8/2018 ME-sunderstood

Rise up and discover your values. You are worth more than what you think you are!

Stay blessed!


All through this week we read some wonderful insights of value. And today I am going to share a small experience of mine which showed that values are really taught.

I stepped out of the dentist’s clinic at the dusk hour. The sight of children playing outside the clinic was quite refreshing to watch during that otherwise gloomy hour. Some kids were playing on the slide and see-saw some were running around and two little girls were playing badminton. I was glad that there was no rush of vehicles around because the dentist’s clinic was located in a residential complex and these kids were safe from vehicles. And so was I!

No, I am not scared of vehicles but that time I used to prefer the road less used by vehicles because I was heavily pregnant and a rushing vehicle often scared me doubting myself whether I can jump away if need arises.

Well back to the scene. So these two girls were playing badminton. One seemed to be about 5 yrs old and other must be 7 or 8. I didn’t want to cross their invisible badminton court so took a longer way but coincidentally the little girl hit a shot harder and the shuttle cock landed on me. I was startled for a moment and as a reflex I looked at the direction of that little girl expecting an apology. She quickly looked away.

Kids after all! Or so I thought. I was reasoning to myself, “I can certainly do with a little sorry! I am pregnant, what if it had hurt me?” And quickly the sane side of my brain told me that a shot hit by such a little girl is no way capable of hurting my little one inside my tummy. True that! I was glad that the sane brain stepped in at the right time and I was not mad at the little girl anymore!

I continued dragging my heavy body towards the exit of the complex and soon that little girl came running from behind and said, “Aunty I am sorry.” She smiled at me after saying this and she looked so cute! My obvious reply was, “No problem beta, take care!”. I patted on her cheek and she rushed back to play.

I turned around to soak in a little more cuteness and innocence of her and what did I see? The elder girl patted the little one on her back and said “Good job!”

It made my day really! A small kid of 7 or 8 yrs had made even younger kid understand that she owes an apology and the younger one understood! Wasn’t this how values are taught? We sure inherit a lot from our parents but IMPLEMENTING what we inherit is very important. And this implementing is what needs to be taught. That evening, that little girl taught the younger one a lot of values unknowingly, like being humble and modest and respecting elders.

The point here is, how we behave teaches a lot of values for those who observe us. I remember we had a chapter in primary school which explained how an otherwise irate taxi driver calms down when a passenger says a simple “thank you” before getting out of his taxi. After this small gesture of gratitude the taxi drivers stays happy all through the remaining day and he passes on that gratitude to other people he meets through the day. Those other people in turn pass on that small thank you to many others and the chain continues. Isn’t this a lovely way to teach values and spread its importance? Since then, I always thank taxi drivers, auto drivers, janitors and anybody and everybody who helps me even a bit. Initially my husband found it funny that i say thank you to random people but I shared the story with him and he understood the importance and since then he also thanks everybody who helps him.

Bottom line: Be good, do good. People watch you and learn from you. Never hesitate to apologise when you must, thank when you can, be honest and own mistakes every time you make one!