A HAND TO LEAD ACROSS LIFE’S VALLEYS

‘Life is a journey that must be travelled no matter how bad the roads and accommodations.’ – Oliver Goldsmith

You sure need a pat on the back, a warm hug, a word of affirmation or a token of appreciation to keep yourself moving ahead along life’s path. The times when you need these most are the times when you are alone, feeling low, depressed, rejected, dejected, frustrated and are afraid of taking the next step forward.

So yes, we all need certain ‘push-me-forwards’ in life. They may be people, places or things that we love to do. These push-me-forwards are our motivators. They are different for different people and they are different for the same person in different situations.

An adventurous person whom sickness has confined to the bed, is likely to feel the zest for life when he hears or sees accounts of adventures with a booster line – ‘You’ll soon do it too!’

Sometime back I was watching the video of Arunima Sinha – a lady volleyball player whom robbers had pushed from a running train after robbing her of her valuables in 2011. Another train on a parallel track crushed her legs below the knee. Several hours later, she was rushed to the hospital with serious leg and pelvic injuries. One of her legs had to be amputed to save her life, while a rod was inserted in the other in an attempt to restore it. She was 23 years, then.

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An ambitious volleyball player lying on the bed with a dark future! To top it all, the newspapers carried the news that she had attempted suicide from a running train. And, the typical societal taunts of being a girl minus a leg! As she was hearing all these multiple voices, a determined voice from within emerged – she was going to scale Mount Everest to show the world what she was capable of and how baseless were the stories that were doing the rounds.

As of today, she has not only scaled Mount Everest (Asia) – the first female amputee to do so, but also Kilimanjaro (Africa), Elbrus (Europe), Kosciuszko (Australia), Aconcagua (Argentina) and Carstensz Pyramid (Indonesia)!

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How was this possible for her? Many people with healthy limbs like me cannot think of attempting such feats, that too amidst such dejection.

Adversity is often a remarkable motivator.

I have seen people with very modest upbringing reach the higher echelons of prosperity and success. They never had that pat on the back or a warm hug or even a gesture of love. But, that was what motivated them to make it big in life – not having much!

Food doesn’t entice one whose stomach is full. Sleep doesn’t allure one who has just woken up from a sound slumber. However when the stomach is growling with starvation, any morsel of food seems to be God-sent. When the eyes are weary from days of sleep deprivation, an empty floor seems more inviting than a bed with a soft mattress.

In essence, the motivation to move forward comes into the picture when one is stuck at the same position or is rapidly receding backwards. And we all find ourselves in such positions of stagnation or backward slipping, at some point of time or the other. Those are the times that we feel the need to be motivated.

A student needs motivation to work hard at studies. A homemaker needs a lot of motivation to keep on doing the monotonous household chores daily. A caretaker needs motivation to take care of an ailing patient for days together. An employee needs motivation to go to work each day. Some need the motivation to remain alive for the day to see the next. And the list goes on . . .

Joni Eareckson Tada, who became a quadriplegic, paralyzed from shoulders down at the age of 17 when she dived into a swimming pool says – ‘Subdue your heart to match your circumstances.’ She further says, ‘the weaker I am, the harder I must lean on God’s grace; the harder I lean on him, the stronger I discover him to be, and the bolder my testimony to his grace.’

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Joni is an excellent painter (holding the brush between her teeth) and a wonderful motivational speaker, today.

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What are the things that pull you down today?

Remember that you are not meant to be in that low position for long. As you subdue your heart to match the circumstances, lean on God’s grace. No matter how petty or how massive your valley is, you will emerge out of it!