Most people reserve the New Year to make new resolutions and set goals. On the first day of the New Year people are ready with resolutions which they hope to fulfill in the upcoming months. Most hope and only a few actually plan to attain their goals.
The New Year symbolizes a fresh start, a break from the past. Although every day, every moment we live, is a new one compared to the previous moment or day. And then there is life which presses the reset button without our consent and we have to start again in our lives. A death of a loved one, end of a relationship, loss of job, change of place causes us to restart our lives in one way or other. It’s not always easy and we have to stay strong.
New beginnings are symbolic of the cycle of life and death. All good things come to an end. One may say all that begins has to end. It’s the law of nature. In a movie I recently watched “Tangled” (It’s a Disney movie released in 2010 based on the fairy-tale of Rapunzel). In a particular scene, Rapunzel is excited to see the lanterns which have fascinated her since her childhood. But when she is very close to find the source of the lanterns she becomes anxious. First, she is unsure if she will actually like it and second, she does not know what she will do if she likes what she sees. Eugene tells her that if she likes what she sees then she has to find a new dream.
Change is the only constant in our ever-changing world. And our ability to adapt becomes very important to face the diverse situations and challenges. As I mentioned earlier it’s not always easy to take control of our lives especially in times of immense heartbreak, sorrows and failures. These are the occasions when the affected person needs our help. People who can’t cope up are termed as weak, failures and losers. When people say they are in depression they are not taken seriously. Certain friends would invite them to a party and ask them to forget their sorrows. Parents just say that one has to be strong and they had faced tougher situations in their lives. This is not exactly the right approach.
People suffering from mental breakdowns and depression can find it really difficult to get their life back in order. In a society which does not take mental illness seriously the impacted individuals need human understanding and compassion. They require constant encouragement and instead of criticizing they should be allowed to embrace their feeling which helps them to cope up and let go of their losses gradually. Spiritual guidance often becomes very significant and effective in such cases because God has always taught us compassion and love.
Another case which is highly prevalent in our Indian society is the high expectations parents have from their wards to perform in the examinations. Poor results result in suicides in some cases and parents fail to see beyond the report-cards of their children. A sister of my close friend took her life owing to a poor result. A child is deemed a loser, a failure, an idiot incapable of doing anything with one’s life just because one fails in an exam or does not secure an expected grade. Parents should realize that their wards can always start fresh. Instead of heaping their expectations on them, they should rather act as their guides and share their wisdom.
Life does not exactly run in a linear course. There are always ends and new beginnings. Life is convoluted and flows like a wild river. Smooth sailing has to be enjoyed but inevitably it gets rough and sometimes we have to go the river-bank to fix the sail and start again till we reach our destination.