THE “ME -TIME”

Hello Everyone,

A page from my routine: I had to pick up my daughter from crèche between 12 noon – 12:30 pm.  It was 12:20 pm already and I was still at metro station at one end…nervously checking my phone every two seconds to check the time and waiting for the arrival of train.  When I finally reached the place, I was just two minutes late but the journey kept my heart racing and brain churning for entire 30 minutes. In short I was in “Tension”.  Recalling those 30 minutes now makes me ask a question or two – what would have happened if I was late? Perhaps they would have kept my daughter for five extra minutes  that’s it!  Why the hell was I so worried about it?  We come across many more such incidents where we constantly combat or at least try to combat our fears and insecurities.  We live by time frames and targets; swear by results and get obsessed by achievements.  

So indulged we are in the race to outdo others and sometimes ourselves that we have mortgaged our inner peace.  Broken relationships, anxiety, skewed balance of life, depression and an entire array of emotions that mark an unhappy individual are the bonus that we are accumulating everyday.

What to do now? I tell you, just relax! Make it a point to have a time of yours, spend time with yourself where you explore yourself and understand yourself.  In short “Meditate“.

Take a deep breath and “Meditate”.  Open the doors of your brain shutting out all the negativity and letting in the positive energy, focus and channelize your energies to something more productive and something more meaningful i.e. your mental peace.  Because it’s your inner peace that could help you see more clearly both sides of an issue, take better decisions and eventually grow as a person be it on emotional front of relationships or success in profession.  Meditation should be a part of our lives which could give us “Me Time” in the otherwise hustling and bustling world around.

How to define Meditation:  To sum up simply it is detoxification of brain.

How to Meditate:  Does Meditation means sitting at one corner with crossed legs and closed eyes precisely?  I would prefer to say “No”.  For me personally it is nearly impossible to concentrate that way.   It’s not my kind of thing 😊.   One would meditate to let the agitating self mellow down, let the brain to breathe, to focus and stop worrying about literally anything and everything around.  And this is only possible if one gets the much-needed medicine of happiness, the real one.  How to attain that?  What are the  alternatives to the general idea (perception) of Meditation?  Here they are:

Gardening:   It definitely gives immense happiness to see something grow out of your fingers (now don’t take it too literally, I meant touch).  Being close to nature, getting your hands stashed with mud, sowing seeds, watering and finally see the yield – a different sense of achievement, isn’t it?  Don’t be amazed if you meet people who actually spend time talking to plants as if they are individuals and evolve along with them.  Try it yourself.

Cooking:  I am not joking because for many it is just a boring routine chore.  How can it be a way of relieving the stress?  If you cook with love (may be for yourself 😉), try to experiment ( not necessarily to please others) without feeling the pressure to meet the On-Table Demand then you can actually shut the negativity out of chimney along with the smoke.

Long Drive:  Now don’t go to fetch your mean machine from the garage (save it for your routine schedules), I am talking about your long-lost, forgotten companion – bicycle.   When was the last time you rode it?  Wasn’t it fun?  Why don’t you take it along again and spend some quality time.  Feel the whip of air on your face, sweat in your palm and emptiness in your head (I mean devoid of all the frustration and negativity).  Physical fitness + clean environment is a bonus, what say?

Put on your dancing shoes:  Shut the world out and dance.  Dance your brain out and let your hair down.  It’s a great stress buster (believe me, tried myself quite a few times).

Practice any art:  When I say “Any” I mean “Any”.  If your heart is in love with any form of art and for any reason it couldn’t be your profession well that could be the reason for your frustration  in life ( there is a possibility) but at the same time that could give you a getaway from your tensions.  Pottery or poetry whatever it is, give it a chance to escape from the wheel of monotony, release your agonies and anxieties be new you!

Reading:  Well I am not an avid reader but for those who are, there can never be a best companion than a good book.  Pick from the lot and switch on your “Oblivious To The World Mode“.  Just see how well it works.

These are few possible ways to beat the stress and renew your energies – my way of looking at things. Whatever activity we choose the underlying factor should be Happiness at the end of the day.

Always be happy and do share your thoughts on this.

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2 Comments Add yours

  1. Aastha says:

    Kalpana,
    It’s a very nice write-up… I loved the gardening part the most because you exactly wrote what I do.. Everyday responsibility of taking care of them is equal to finding myself. That rejuvenates me the most..

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    1. Thank you so much for liking it. Glad you could connect to it.

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