1st time in the labour room:-
Me: “Dr, what is it? I wanted a girl”
Doc: “Wait for 5 minutes.”
I apprehensively waited & the doctor said “It’s a boy”, showing me the baby.
My baby gender wish vanished the moment I saw my baby and held him in my arms.
Throughout my pregnancy, I kept praying for a girl. I didn’t like when anyone used to bless me saying, “Doodo nahao, puto falo”, which means may you bathe in milk and give birth to sons. In my heart I used to cry – why can’t people give blessings for a girl, why does it have to be ‘putravati bhava”?
When my son was born, most of the people said now that a boy is born first, I can sit back and relax. I kept telling them that being a female, I wanted a baby girl, not for any other reason, but fascinating about their endearing clothes, making their pretty hairdos, indulging in gossips when they grew older and all that.
2nd time in the labour room:-
I was pretty sure this time that it’s going to be girl. I bought some ‘pink’ stuff also. My 4.5 year old son and I were so confident that we named ‘her’ Zara.
The moment I heard my newborn cry, I sprang up to see and confirm if it’s a girl.
I shouted at my doc: “You delivered a boy, I wanted a girl!”
Doc: “I can take this baby in that case”.
Me: “No…It’s MY baby!” Everyone had a hearty laugh!
My husband and my cousin sisters were worried that I might go into depression because they knew how badly I wanted a girl and also planned accordingly. But, the sheer fact is that the moment you know you are carrying a life inside you, you fall in love with it, whether it’s a boy or girl.
However, the heart-rending truth remains that in many families, the male baby is given importance and that too at the cost of taking the lives of the newborn girls. Every time I read or watch any news of girl infanticide, I feel poignant and enraged.
How can anyone be so cruel and heartless to kill such a beautiful creation of God?
Instead of “Ladies first”, it’s “Males first” in our country. Even in today’s changing times, our society is so biased against the females. Many parents don’t believe in higher education for their girl child. Because of raucous boys, girls are restricted to go out after the dark, whereas the boys are born to roam freely anywhere anytime.
Even if a woman is working and earning equally as her husband, she is supposed to give her cent per cent towards her house and family members. A woman isn’t supposed to fall sick, whereas the entire house will be concerned if her husband has a headache.
And it doesn’t stop here; we have put restrictions on her during ‘those days’. She isn’t supposed to offer her prayers, just because she has got her periods. My mother used to say, “Why restrict when this is also a part of the nature?” True, if God isn’t biased, so why are you!
Times are changing. Our generation has been able to mould a lot of things, but still a lot needs to be done. The other day my son told me,”Cars are for boys”. I immediately corrected him, “If a girl likes to play with cars, she can. No toy is girl or boy specific, just like you play with your kitchen set, a girl can play with cars as well.” I keep telling him that girls are equally strong as boys.
She is the creator, the core of all relations;
She makes the world a living place with her emotions;
Everything is just beautiful when she is around;
She can do wonders, why do you frown?
Don’t cut her wings, you will cry;
For she is as good as a boy.
Let her live, give her a chance;
Else, without her we will go into trance.