A change can be as simple as moving to a new place, or new job, getting into a relationship or as complex as death of a loved one, encountering an accident. Good or bad, change causes some stress and demands alterations to our day-to-day life and the way we used to look at it earlier.
No matter how much we are uncomfortable with changes, they do creep in, either all of a sudden like a storm or gradually like a breeze.
I was going through tremendous amount of changes few months back, and believe me, I was extremely scared of the consequences. I had sleepless nights, struggling to figure out where I am heading and some how convinced that the battle is too huge for me to handle. At the least, I thought so unless my understanding was corrected. Now, you may be thinking what’s wrong in it ?
I was in a conversation with one of my friends but I was lost in a very deep thought. She suddenly brought me back to my senses and asked me a direct question – “Are you OK ?” I told her the problem and why I was afraid. This is what she said.
Every one of us are very disturbed by changes. As humans we are very comfortable to stick to a routine. What you are afraid of are not the consequences of the steps you are going to take, but whether you have enough potential and your readiness to take those steps. Have you ever felt that you are perfectly ready for a change? Even after that, you did encounter some unknowns. These unknowns brought anxiety, fear and made you unstable mentally or socially. You don’t want a repetition of the same. Now, the hard truth is none of us are prepared for all the changes
Do you know a phobia exists for fear of change?? It’s called Metathesiophobia. The phenomenon where, even small change feels like an anxiety attack. I am not trying to scare you, but thank god that you don’t have that, you have enough potential to handle the problem yourself. Never loose hope or think negative.
Transition period of a change is the hardest, once we survive that is when we realize we had the potential, but we were in a misconception that we don’t. Life is a great teacher, it teaches us how to deal with the problems that we are encountering and makes us more equipped for future.
The essential steps that may help us are
- Accepting that we are going through a change.
- Giving our best for adapting to the change.
- Anticipating unknowns might happen and it’s OK.
- Make smart choices, remember changes are often the consequences of our choices.
- Seeking help if required, not every problem can be dealt alone.
Even when life is pushing in roller coaster of changes, all we can do is to learn to adapt to them. Resisting to a change is the worst we can do for ourselves, tomorrow or day after the change may say a ‘hello’ to us again. Better is to be in the flow of life and face the changes.
“We can’t be afraid of change. You may feel very secure in the pond that you are in, but if you never venture out of it, you will never know that there is such a thing as an ocean, a sea. Holding onto something that is good for you now, may be the very reason why you don’t have something better.”