What a week!!! All the write-up’s from my co-authors this week were very thought provoking. I loved reading each one of the articles…
All of us have one understanding which is similar, that being honest is the way to integrity and its very hard to be able to do it. A lot of us agree to the fact that it is a lot of struggle to maintain integrity. It has a lot to do with our upbringing.
As children all of us made some mistakes – may it be small lies we had to say, or stealing chocolates or cheating in games or exams. As we grew up sabotage, not showing up to work on time, gossiping, intentionally working slowly, procrastination become part of our life style.
It’s very important for parents and teachers to know how something needs to be taught in such a way that one learns the gist of it. Parents overlook some acts of children marking them ‘mischievous’, like stealing a candy. When this happens once or twice in the vicinity of our home, it’s perceived as being an acceptable behavior. Imagine our kid doing the same thing at a friend’s house or a grocery store, immediately we mark the act as a wrong doing.
What we essentially are teaching our kids, is its all OK to do the same act at our home but not else where. So, we are the ones tying the situation or place or people effected by the act, to the scale of the wrong doing or marking it right or wrong.
Do kids have the ability to understand why we do this? No, they don’t. They don’t understand the difference between being mischievous or making a mistake. For them everything is an act of fun… Stealing candy is adventurous… Copying in an exam is an easy way to build their grade. They choose easy path to escape from doing all the hard-work.
As elders, we always try to set examples and expect our children to learn from them. Parents leading by an example may not always help. It’s not about being strict and objecting them at their very first mistake. Let them have the liberty to choose what is right or wrong. We should be watchful on them and be the guidelines to make them better at making apt decisions.
Once I heard about a teacher’s training program on Child Psychology. The faculty asked the teachers what they think about the right age of a child when the parents should start correcting and disciplining them… The teachers gave different ages but not the correct age. The average guesses were not even close. Then the faculty disclosed the age as ‘6 months‘ to be a child’s right age from when he/she should be disciplined. Everybody were stunned hearing that. So discipline is essential at a very early age of a child to teach the right thing.
Integrity is born in the mind and heart of a person. It comes from who you really are and what you believe about right and wrong, good and evil. And integrity is not exhibited through one act of goodness, but in your whole character.
“The thought manifests the word;
The word manifests the deed;
The deed develops into habit;
And habit hardens into character;
So watch the thought and its ways with care,
And let them spring forth from love
Born out of compassion for all beings.
As the shadow follows the body, as we think, so we become.”
― Juan Mascaró