Life has its own twists and turns. There is never a straight road to make one’s desires see the light of the day. And it is when one encounters such bends in life, there arises a gasp of regret – regret to have traversed the wrong path, to have made the wrong choices, to have taken the wrong decisions. Unlike the concrete street-ways where one can afford to turn back and retrace one’s footsteps, in life’s roadways there is no turning back! There is only moving forward.
Disappointments and regrets are integral to all our lives. However, every situation of disappointment does not call for regret.
Example One: A child can regret disobeying his parents on a said occasion, especially when he has had to face a stern consequence. Such regret would enable the child to resolve never to repeat his behavior. That’s positive regret.
Example Two: A young lady regretting marrying the man she married. Such regret would only make her life more miserable and bring before her all the flaws of her husband and her marriage. This is negative regret as it holds no scope for turning back and making the choice afresh.
Often we wallow in the miry clay of negative regrets. As a result, we fail to see the bright light at the end of the tunnel. Our vision remains blurred and we sink even further down into the pit. True, some situations in life cause us to rethink about the path we chose in the first place. But wisdom lies in choosing not to repeat the erroneous ways in future, rather than pining over the errors.
A most frequently quoted scripture portion reads – “And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.”
If we are sure of God’s control and calling in our lives, there is no room for regret. Because, then the sum of all events in our lives work for our good.