Sadness is a normal human emotion. Had there been no moments of sadness in our lives, perhaps we would not have cherished the happy moments that life bestows on us. In fact, psychologists of old have identified ‘sadness’ as one of the six major emotions that human beings across all cultures all over the world experience.
Having said that sadness is normal, I would like to draw a line for it. How sad can we be and how long can we be sad?
Events in our lives that affect us directly or indirectly ought to make us sad. If a girl doesn’t feel sad when her parents don’t permit her to marry the guy she loves, perhaps I would question the genuinity of her love. If a boy doesn’t feel sad after flunking in the exams, perhaps he is too casual about his academics. If a father doesn’t feel sad on losing his child, perhaps he is too thick-skinned a person. All such events in our lives provide reasons for us to be sad.
However, if this sadness penetrates too deep that we are not able to come out of it, if it lingers on for months together thereby affecting our thoughts, words and actions, we are likely to sink into depression.
Let’s not confuse depression with sadness. Sadness is normal, whereas depression is not. Sadness can be overcome after a span of time. Depression is a clinical disorder and requires prayerful psychiatric treatment.
A remorseless person is a likely to have a robotic personality. Let’s not be remorseless. We need to be sad when the situation so demands. But, let us not allow sadness take such a grip on our lives that we sink into bouts of depression.