The book Proverbs always has something to say about our practical living whatever may be the issues. I quoted few of the proverbs from the storehouse of wisdom which are really helpful for us in regards to managing our anger.
They are as follows:
Overlooking is desirable: When we get angry when we are insulted we try to counter attack or reply back. But according to Proverbs we need to overlook an insult. That’s what a prudent man does. “A fool shows his annoyance at once, but a prudent man overlooks an insult.” Another verse says, “Starting a quarrel is like breaching a dam; so drop the matter before a dispute breaks out.” So its always wise to overlook or drop the matter/insult. One more verse I want to quote, “A man’s wisdom gives him patience; it is to his glory to overlook an offense.” Overlooking an offense has always given the individual an upper hand.
A Gentle Answer is desirable: When we are attacked or face an angry man/woman, we should always answer gently to avoid further quarrel. That’s why it is written, “A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.” If we give a gentle answer the opposite person would calm down and may ask forgiveness also.
Patience is desirable: When we are under attack of verbal arrows or when we face insults/disputes, we always need to be patient. As it is written, “A hot-tempered man stirs up dissension, but a patient man calms a quarrel.”. Patience can really calm down a certain quarrel and solve the matter. There another verse which says, “A fool gives full vent to his anger, but a wise man keeps himself under control.” Again further it says, “A man’s wisdom gives him patience;” So a person with wisdom or a wise man always learns to be patient and control himself.
The Proverbs are very practical and follow-able. Let’s learn the things that are desirable for controlling anger and its deadly effects. A gentle answer, patience and overlooking the matter are the major things that are really desirable in life.