This was the most interesting week with a very interesting topic called, “Reconcile & Restore.” I thoroughly enjoyed every snippets & comments and learned so much from them.
In the mega article, “7 FACTORS TO RECONCILE WITH YOUR LOVED ONES & RESTORE A BROKEN RELATIONSHIP,” we learnt that reconciliation is a Personal Need, an Initiative, a Humbling Experience, needs Patience, Forgiving Attitude and above all Love which never fails.
During the weekdays, 5 snippets talk about 5 interesting stuffs:
- Reconciliation demands Giving-up Pride & Ego.
- Reconciliation demands Emptiness of Heart.
- Reconciliation is Re-beautification of Relationships.
- Reconciliation involves True Forgiveness & Genuine Repentance.
- Reconciliation is a Supreme Action over the Normal Human Emotion followed by the action.
June Hunt, the host of the Nationally Syndicated Call-in Counselling Broadcast ‘Hope in the Night’ says, “Forgiveness is not the same as reconciliation. It takes two for reconciliation, only one for forgiveness.” That struck me hard.
I remembered what Avishikta Dey pointed out in her snippet yesterday, “Sometimes the person in question might have irrevocably changed the dynamics of the relation;” which means, if the other party is determined that he/she is not going to continue the relationship with the first person then reconciliation is simply impossible. Though we should not judge the person by saying he/she is unworthy, undeserving but it is true that if he/she doesn’t want to reconcile then we can’t reconcile with such persons at all.
Indira Patra, in her snippet talked about the involvement of forgiveness and repentance in the act of reconciliation. She pointed out reconciliation takes place when the offender repents and the other person who was hurt forgives the offender.
If the offender genuinely repents but the other person doesn’t forgive or doesn’t want to keep the relationship then reconciliation won’t take place. In the same way, if the person who is hurt truly forgives the offender but the offender doesn’t repent, reconciliation can’t take place.
Reconciliation is a paperless agreement between two to restore the breached relationship between them and enter into a contract or relationship afresh. One needs to take initiative and the other needs to accept that initiation wholeheartedly to enter in to the loving relationship of reconciliation & restoration.
Keep reading, keep learning & keep implementing daily…
Author’s Bio: Chiradeep Patra is a finance man who works in a NGO at Kolkata. He is a writer, motivator & counselor.