Have you thanked anyone today?
Yes? That’s great!!
No? By the time you reach the end of this write-up, I believe, you’ll make up your mind to thank the people around you!
‘Thank you’ is considered to be a formal way of expressing gratitude for a favour received. And so, many people consider it rather awkward to thank the people close to them, for their countless unspoken everyday favours. Consider the following two cases: Your boss invites you to dinner and treats you to a lavish spread of delicacies. Your wife, after a day’s hard work, sweats it out in the kitchen and serves you dinner when you reach home. Whom would you thank? Your boss? Definitely yes – no doubt about it! Your wife? Umm…Doubtful! Why this difference in behaviour? Because, your boss did something out-of-place by inviting you to dinner (he/she doesn’t and wouldn’t do that everyday!) Whereas, your wife did something which she does everyday (and would continue to do anyway).
Just pause for a moment and think how many unspoken favours have been rendered to you today by people close to you (parents, siblings, spouse, children). Have you thanked your daughter for giving you a glass of water? Have you thanked your father for dropping you to college in time? Have you thanked your spouse for buying the groceries? These are everyday occurrences that go easily unnoticed. We feel it’s everyone’s duty after all…why thank them?
Here’s why everyone needs to be thanked –
Every human being has the innate desire to be appreciated. Attention, affection and gratitude are the three fuels that energise positive human behaviour. Saying ‘thank you’ to a loved one fulfills his/her need for appreciation. Behaviour analysts opine that a word of appreciation works wonders in improving interpersonal relationships within the family set-up.
Think of the number of times Jesus thanked His Father in Heaven! In John 11:41, Jesus says, “Father, I thank you that you have heard me.” This gesture speaks volumes of His relationship with His Father. Most importantly, it signifies trust and closeness in a father-son relationship.
How wonderful a home where relationships are close-knit, where love and understanding abide and where every little act of a loved one is acknowledged and appreciated! ‘Silent gratitude’ is equivalent to ‘no gratitude’. Gratitude needs to be expressed. We not only need to thank people for bestowing special favours on us or those whom we wish to impress, but also those who are very close to us and continue to bless our lives every minute with their silent deeds of sacrificial love and care.
Let’s resolve to put this thought into practice and thereby aspire to strengthen the fabric of our families and our relationships.
Thank you dear readers, for sparing your precious time to go through this write-up!
Author’s Bio: Rajnandini Sahu has done her Post Graduation in Clinical and Counselling Psychology from Utkal University and is presently working as a Counsellor in a school, apart from pursuing higher studies. She can be contacted at ‘firstname.lastname@example.org‘.